Not liking a person I don't know

Yup! My brother in law had a girlfriend, that was about 6 years ago. Incidentally, his girlfriend knew my sister coz they met in Oman for a summer vacation where both of our dads were working. So, this girl started calling me up and befriending me. I mean, no problem with me. But then I realized that she is such a overly possessive girlfriend that she wants to know every single thing that my brother in law would do. She hired an agent to look after my brother in law. She'd get mad if my brother in law would not pick up her call right away. They have to be talking over the phone until both of them falls asleep. She's a lunatic! She gets jealous over our sales ladies in the pharmacy and even gets jealous to a male friend of ours. I got so fed up with all her childish attitude, that I decided not to speak to her every time she calls up. She would say she hates my brother in law, but she still keeps on calling him! Oh Brother! I never met her personally, thank God! Or she'll be coming over my house every single day

Yes but I don't want to be more judgmental when I still have not met the person. You said that someone in your family member loves her maybe he saw something on her that you still did not see. I'm a kind of person who believes in what I saw and feel and not just because I heard something weird about.

Hi Silver, I can't think of a time that that has happened to me. I have heard bad things about people prior to meeting them and then met them and found them to be wonderful people. I have to say that in your case and it being so many that are saying these things and the fact that it is your family that she is bothering, I might feel the same as you. Sounds as if someone needs to set some boudaries on this woman. How long has she been dating your family member?

Hi silverfox No I have no story like that as I do not judge anyone til I have met them and seen what they are alike.I am sorry this girl has been so disruptive for your family,It cannot be f un having someone whom you dislike dating someone in your family but I would not hate her until I had m et her and actually seen what she was like. I do not judge people myself as I do not knmow thme until I have been around them for some time.

I have never be able to not liking a person if i have never meet her/him; until i spend sometime with that person, then only i can draw my own conclusion of my feeling of like or dislike on her. To answer your question, it is a No! I never ever made up my mind about someone that i never met, i may have heard story about her personality like rude demeanor or outrageous behavior, i may not like that myself regarding her action, but probably not base my dislike of her as a person on gossip from others, i will reserve that judgment for later on. It is just difficult for me not to dislike someone base solely on story told by others.

Hi, silverfox! I don't usually judge people when they have nothing to do with me. I mean, as long as they do not insult me personally. But I have to say that sometimes it's not bad to know things about somebody you don't know. Especially when others claim this person's a psycho. Remember though - people have different opinions on different things. People who are considered "towns crazy" can teach you a lot of staff. I know that from my own experience - crazy people turned out good friends, a lot better than others who I trusted as real friends. I hope I'm shoking you with this last one :)