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Hi friend, welcome to mylot. I think your friend is having more trust and faith with her bf, so she is not interested in leaving him, as a good friend you are trying to save her. But she don't understand it, just leave it, Her life will go based on her fate, it is really hard to guide this kind of persons in a good way, she is in blind love with her bf.

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your situation and i feel extremely bad for your friend for being with a wrong person. I think she needs to understand by herself as she wont listen to anyone in spite of repeatedly telling the truth to her. She has to realize herself and take her decisions firmly but before that she has to see the truth in front of her eyes and may be after that she might realize that she was with the wrong guy. What say?

this is sad when a friend would not be able to see the obvious. the other sense, feeling, is overwhelming her/him. from your story, she is now pregnant with her boyfriend. that even makes the situation more complicated now. there is a reason for them to be together because of the baby. i hope the guy will soon change for the baby and become responsible and stand up as a man.

Hello MainLady. Thanks for sharing these feelings which make all of us feel connected. As per me, you have tried your best to convince your friend and she too has her right to decide. They are going to have a baby soon and i think the baby will show her the right path.

You are right at your place but just think by your friend's point of view the situation is really difficult for her and she really needs her bf's support. Being a good friend all you can do is to support her and help her being strong you can motivate your friend to make the guy to come to the right path and treat her well as she is doing lot of sacrifices for him you can make her strong by your words and make her realise that if she won't stand against the misbehavior of her bf now then it will be too late all this will continue and it will become very bad for her and hrr child's future.. you can't do anything what's better for her she will realise herself. Be with her and help her to differenciate between wrong and right she has full right over her bf and she have to be strong to bring him to the right path.

Sometimes it is hard to get through to friends who you know you can help, if only they will listen to you. She may need to learn the hard way with her boyfriend. If I were you, I would just be supportive - especially when the baby is born. I have a friend who is going through a divorce. It is her fault that caused the divorce and so, without taking her side, I just stay friendly and supportive towards her. What you need to be careful about is to not get caught up or dragged down by her situation. If you are able to not get pulled down by her situation, then I would suggest being supportive and encouraging.

Just continue to be a friend and be beside whenever she needs you. It is hard to just tell her to stop loving the person if she feels that she still loves him. In time she will realize that the person he loves is not worth her time.

you have to talk both with him, you have to wait for him to calm the mind so that he could receive all the talk you.