stay at home mom
By abonner11
@abonner11 (46)
November 28, 2012 1:38am CST
Does anyone else out there get depressed when staying at home all the time with your children. It is not that I do not want to be with my children and it is not that I do not enjoy it but sometimes I wish I just had a little me time and I never get much of it because my husband plays call of duty 24/7 and I do not have any family here where I live. Does this sound selfish? Any kind of comments are greatly appreciated!
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9 responses
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
That was also done by my mom,and she was just 90 years old,and still active in home works.She does not feel any depression whatsoever upon my arrival from my daily work and she just say to have me massage her back and limps because she felt very tired. My mother was really a hardworking mother and in spite of her age,she could cook well
and do other things,even if we have a house help,she is very particular in every aspect of the house to be in place.I can not tell her to stop her doings,because my mother tend to be soft emotionally and easily cries,that is why I tend to adjust whatever she likes has to be her guidance always.
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I always tell my mother to stop her chores because she was already old enough to do all household chores.She would be angry and emotional and would do many more work,because she was use to do many chores when we are still young,that she does not want to stop fixing and cooking as she wanted it to be.I just let my mother decide what she do everyday when I left her,but tell her to sleep in the afternoon
so that she would never get tire in the time I am home.I give a massage to my mo every night so she could feel relax.
@abonner11 (46)
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28 Nov 12
Your mother sounds like a very loving and caring mother. You are very lucky to have a mother like you have. She sounds like someone to look up too.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I am also a stay at home mom but I try to have some ME time when the kids are in school. I do not have any social life. I barely get to be with my friends. The only constant companion I have is my sister in law. I mean, it's okay that at least, I could still go to the mall every once in a while. But yes, sometimes, I wish I could spend more time with my friends so that I could be in a different atmosphere.
@abonner11 (46)
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28 Nov 12
You sound like you are going through some of what I am going through. I do not have many real friends at all. I am the type of person that I can easily make friends but there are not many real friends out there anymore. I just wish I could have more time for my studies and to shop and do things online that I like to do. How many kids do you have? My kids are 1 and 2 so they don't even go to school yet. I think it will be easier for me when they start school.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I have 4 kids. My eldest is almost 19 years old and the youngest is 8 years old. I have always lived my life just being at home coz my parents were quite strict. I thought that when I get married I'd have a bit of freedom. But then, I was wrong. I am tied with all my responsibilities as a mom. I have no problems doing things for them. But I just wish I can be with my friends coz they get to see each other once in a while and I am often not with them.
@youless (112358)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Nov 12
In fact it is very tiring to be a housewife. As you have endless housework. You need to spend most of the time to stay with your children. It is easy to say than done. I know how hard it is. In fact it is even much more tiring than working outside. Because you can't quit it and you don't have the rest time, too.
@abonner11 (46)
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28 Nov 12
Thanks for your response. Yes it can be very tiring. It is like a full time job. I wish that I was able to work to help out our family but day care is ridiculous these days. They about $100.00 per week per child. If I had a full time job and had to pay for daycare then we would never have any money left over because it would all go to daycare so I guess I should be very thankful and just enjoy the time that I have with my kids because one day they are going to grow up and always want to spend time with their friends and not me anymore. I guess I will just let my husband do the work and continue my education.
@UmiNoor (4524)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 12
I'm a stay at home mum and I love it. I don't think I like going out to work. I like to stay home and look after my home and then when I have some free time, I'd watch tv shows and movies online.
Perhaps you've worked before and being home all the time may be boring to you. You should take up some hobby or read a book or do something that interests you.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Dec 12
I think all stay at home moms feel this way at one time or another. I don't drive so it makes it really tough for me to go out and find friends or things to do. I am home all the time with my kids, which I do love but sometimes yes I miss the social aspect of things too.
I have 3 children who are 7, 5 & 3 years old. My oldest is Home Schooled by me and so is my middle child.
I love being here with them so much, but I do need to find something to do for me too. I come here which is nice. I am about to start Cosmetology school soon so that will be something for me and to better all of our lives! =)
My husband works a lot since he finally just got a job so I don't have him here with me either...In January I will be going to school at night after he gets off work at night...
@betty1989 (751)
• China
28 Nov 12
if you do not want ttay at home all the time, you can take your children outside and then you can communicate with other moms. Share your experience with them, you will find that it is a great thing to be with your own children.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
6 Dec 12
Perhaps your husband needs a new job. No man should have to have duty 24/7. That is way too stressful. So, I would sit down with your husband and work out a schedule in which he can look after the children. They are his children as well, and he is their parent, as well as you. You also need to find a support group. Or a play time group for your children. I would get out with other mothers. Perhaps you and another mother can exchange babysitting time - that way, you get time off and you are able to give someone else time off. It will indeed make you feel better because you are also helping someone else.
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