How can a person know if he or she's ready to get married?
By Terinah Doba
@terinah14 (28)
Philippines
November 28, 2012 2:30am CST
Being in love makes some of us just want to jump into marriage as soon as possible. But not all of us are ready, it's just the urge, the fantasies that push us to go ahead and wear that ring. But how can a person really be sure that he/she is ready?
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9 responses
@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
24 Aug 16
It is different from preparing for a exam and ready for a marriage. Marriage is a life long commitment. Before wedding you should know whether your partner is ready for marriage? knowing the likeness and unlikeness your partner is essential. Financial security is the other element.
If a person waits for his best time to marriage , I don't think that he will marry a woman.
@vikram3101989 (684)
• India
22 Mar 13
I dont think a person can know if he/she is ready for a marriage... I think a person is ready for a marriage if he/she is a independent person who can live on their own pay bills take care of their family.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
28 Nov 12
There are people who would never know, because they don't know themselves really well, I reckon. But here are some things, that could play a part, in my opinion:
-if they are ready to give almost anything up for their partners, or like... more exactly, give up on stuff that doesn't belong to a marriage... flirting, too much freedom, an own bachelor flat, stuff that annoy the other person
-if they are ready to live with the other person and ready to accept some of the habits of the other one which they find weird
-if they know that they are going to handle arguments correctly and calmly - for example, if someone flips out at someone in a really childish manner and sulks for two weeks for not being able to watch their fave TV show because of a program the other had, they are probably not ready for a marriage, because there might be bigger problems there which should be dealt with with an open heart and not by acting like a kid
-if they are ready to settle down, have a family etc.
-if they don't have any second thoughts or faceless worries, they don't question themselves about where the relationship would go
@somupriti (353)
•
29 Nov 12
Better you go for a marriage counselor to know ideally what is the best time for you to get in to marriage. They can help you lot.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
28 Nov 12
I was never married ever in my entire life. LOL. I think it is a lifetime commitment and very much They say marriage is like a thief in the night. You don't when this thief will come otherwise you will be prepared for him. I think, there is no such age and time whether a woman or man is ready to tie the knot or exchange I dos. It is just there when it is going to happen it will happen. but this is one certain about the marriage... you must be in a relationship, first. otherwise, regardless how ready a person is, it won't happen
@lcday123 (15)
• United States
28 Nov 12
I think it depends on the individual person. Some people are just more mature than others. I thought I was ready at 22 and I had known my boyfriend for over two years. We did not last 6 months. The second husband I only knew for 3 months and we lasted 8 years. You have to make an effort in any relationship. You have to work as partners together in everything you do. I don't think anyone really knows if it will work or if they are ready. Marriage is a commitment and you have to compromise and work together, if you aren't ready for that then I say you aren't ready for marriage.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
First of all, we must be show if we see ourselves being with that person even after 20-30 years. Second, we must be sure that we are mature enough to take responsibilities that goes along with marriage and for raising a family. Third, we must be financially stable.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
28 Nov 12
If you are able to make an income. To pay for all your bills yourself. To take care of your partner as well. If you feel responsible and don't run as soon as you think times are rough. If you have a place you can call your own and know (feel/trust) this is your home and so is your partner.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
being in love is not just the basis of getting married. people shall not be blinded by infatuation. you'll know that you are ready to face the married life if you already feel that you and your partner are bot physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually,and financially prepared.