A FRIEND, most are pretenders and few is real!

You are right jackiekathyrain, its just the same on thr saying goes - many are called but few are chosen. You got tons of friends but when you filter them, some are passers by, others are audience, while mostly are actors and actresses. Its just like you are dancing with wolves but what matters most is your heart and soul is intact and non negotiable at the end of the tune.

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, most of the friends are selfish and self centric today. i find many people making friends just for the sake of their personal benefit. The long cherished tradition of friendship is gradually nearing its end. I have faced many betrayals from my friends in the past and that is the reason why i have stopped being friendly to many and trying to be happy with my existing friends. What say?

You just have to be very careful when selecting your friends. Some of those friends are their just for personal gains.

Hi friend, welcome to mylot. True and real friends are always like a great treasure. We must be very lucky to have them. Our true friends are like our shadow and they will follow us anytime even it is good or bad. This real friends always stand for us and do anything for our sake. It is very hard to determine and explain the value of a real friend. In this modern days, it is really hard to see a true and real friend. But still some people are existing in this sort. But we must search them hard. I have some good friends in my life, they are always supporting me and help me whenever i need it from them. In the same way, i am helping them whenever they require it from me. This kind of mutual help are quite common in true friendship. A real and true friend never expect anything from his friend and do a lot of favor for his sake. In fact the activity of this kind of real friends will create a great impact in our mind and we are ready to do any favor for them without asking them. I have one best friend in this sort and always i consider him as my own brother. But few years back he betrayed and back stabbed me. After that incident, i lost my faith with real friends and always keep certain distance from all my friends. We must be very careful with our friends. If you have a good friend from your childhood till today and he is loyal to you, then never give up him for any cause.

See we meet lots of people every day we dont consider all of them as friends you ask why because with some we get connected and with some we dont,once you are bonded even if your friend is going on wrong path we actually support them not in all cases so are we really following what you are saying my question is that? I would say no so basically its hard to find such friend but if they are in your destiny some handful friends will make your life wonderful count on that.

I definitely agree with you jackiekathyrain, A true friend can be measured by the time of difficulties and not the time of convenience. Having a true friend is very hard to find, many of them claiming that they're real. They'll sometimes pleasing you through words of advises and encouragement at the time you're in the moment of solitude and agonized. Moreover, false modesty, comfort and counseling will be their deceiving tools to put your trust to them. But the real thing is, they're only wearing camouflage to fake one's target and hiding behind the cloak of good deeds and being kind just to grasp attention and trust.

I agree with you. This is the reason why I only have few friends and I mean friends in the real sense of the word. It is just easy to spot a real friend. Just test him during the time of your need. If he is not a friend in need then that person is not a friend indeed. There are lots of fine-weather friends but none of them will stay by your side when the storm sets in.So beware!

I find this topic of yours jackiekathyrain quite interesting. Yes, I do agree with you that lots of them pretend to be one and very minimal can live up to the true sense of the word. It's no wonder why they behave like that. Like you they also have their own unique aspirations in life. It may be that while we were greatly in need of their moral support they were not within sight because of personal tasks they were also trying to achieve, thus it could be one reason why they couldn't attend "both sides of the coin".

I absolutely agree with you on this one. Not many real friend you might see nowadays. Majority of them are who just want to use you, or they see you as a puppet. I would say I also met a lot of people like that too. For me, I don't have much friends, but a few good friends still exist, and I am glad they are still by my side.

Yeah, that's it. After all they say that you would know the person if you would together for a long time. Some are saying that the best friend is the person who could accompany you in when you are down. Later here in the Philippines there was a crime, a model lady about in her 20's of age was raped and killed and sad to hear that the prime suspect was her bestfriend. Envy was the reason why that happened. The family of the victim shocked of what the investigation revealed. They could not accept the whole truth that the bestfriend of their relative was the prime suspect and the mastermind of the crime. It is good that one of the suspect stands out to become witness so the crime was solved. Thanks God they are jailed.

That's indeed a very nice observation towards friendship. True, indeed that it's hard to find a true friend but what's good thing about it is that when you found them then you can count on them and will never leave you. A true friend is someone who will tell you the truth with sincerity and love even if it will hurt you but at the end it will bring you goodness. They will not leave you in sunrise and sun set.They will dance with you under the rain. They will compliment you and is happy for all your achievements.

Very true. Nowadays you can count by your fingers you can say your true friends. Some are just pretending to be one. It is up to us to discover who these people are, they are visible you know. you can easily pinpoint them. sometimes a test for their true intentions will can be determined. They have to pass the test by testing yourself too how you are as friend also.

Totally agree. There are times when you're the one listening and giving them advice. Then when you need help, they play deaf. It's not fair. You're the only one being a true friend. The only real true friend, whom I've never fought with, and is almost like my twin, I had to separate from. I moved away and lost contact. I miss her so much! When I see all these fakers around me, and I'm trieing to be a good friend, I feel sad. I miss my old friend. She's the most sincere I've ever met. We would both console each other in times of sadness. That's a true friend. Will always be there for you no matter what. Friends like the ones some people have now, are just with you for popularity, or only to hear the good things in your life. Not the bad things.

people come and go, some of them stay, many of them leave. People changed along the time...

True friends you can count on one hand, my mother always used to tell me that you knew your real friends were the ones that stuck by you no matter what, when you need help or you are ill they are there. Real friends do not use you, abuse your trust, manipulate you or use other tactics to get what they want out of you. It is very hard to find a true friend to stick by you in this life. A friend is someone who cares and will go the extra mile for you, who knows you inside out and will be there for you come what may.

friendships do come and go quickly. it can sometimes be difficult to tell when it is real or fake,. a true fiend will be there whenever you neeed someone. otherwise the friendship is only in name.

Oh, I know. I think most people are afraid of ending up alone, so they make "friends" with people, but they are only there when it's fun, it's cheerful and there's nothing to worry about. Like going to parties and fooling around. But when you are in a bad mood and you need support, they disappear, because they don't care or you're only good for them to have company when they're bored and you're fun. But there are true friends. I have only one, but I'm glas that I even have one, because this friend is at least always there when I need it, and would console me, if I'm down... she knows me even better or knows what I feel earlier than I do :).

It takes a really long time to come by true friends. You can only count best friends on one hand. You should know that friends are a dime a dozen. I can like your hair and be your friend. But a true friend, is gonna cost a lot of frustration and time, but they WILL be worth it. But really... the true friends are few and far between so if you have a TRUE friend..treasure them. The true friends are the one who willing to accept you even WITH your WEAKNESS and appreciate you for who you are.

I cannot agree with you more. A friend in need is a friend indeed. I had such kind of experience. I ran a company in the last few years. At first, it was very successful and my "friends" and I spent really happy time. After work, we almost drank together,hanged out together. But very bad things happened to me and then my company was closed.At this time, My "friends" left me one by one, in a moment when I was most in need of help. It made me rather disappointed to this world. I felt that there were nothing worth my trust in the world. Fortunately I din not choose to kill myself.Instead, i chose to be strong and go on. And now, I am fighting for my future in a positive way. Hope to make my life better!

Yeah Thats really true..