Are you the favorite or the least favorite child?

What a nice topic you shared to us fellow my lotters. I can relate to your sentiments because I am also the eldest of the family of 7. I can't say I was the favorite even if I always has the first hand of everything. Of course (in my mind) because I am the first child. But it also have to go with the responsibilities being the first born in the family. That I have to be not only the model for my siblings but to be a good role model in everything I do. I thanked my parents for raising me that way because what I had learned with them was applied to my own family. As a mother of three wonderful kids everything turned out to be okey. Of course I credit it to my past experience and most especially to God for guiding me. So, if your parents raised you the way they did, just be thankful okey! Everything has it's reason, and don't fail to believe that your parents loves you very much. God bless!

In my family, I am the only child and I am a male. I don't really have a blood related sibling to compared to. But I can still compare the love and care I got from my parents with those other kids received. I would say that my mom always hated me and treat me so bad that no child would imagine a mother would do that. On the other side, my father did show love and raised me quite well yet he is no longer with me now as I respond this discussion.

My parents don't play favorites but they do prefer me over my brothers because I better behaved and I don't hide things from them all of the time. I'm a parent and I do not have favorites between my two kids. My daughter is 22 months old and my son is 3 month old. Some days I like one more then the other but I don't have and over all favorite at all. I enjoy both even when they irritate me to know means.

i don't think in my family, my parent treat us like that. i'm the elder from 5 siblings. for me they need to act differently, just because each of us have different character, and if we were treat as them same maybe this issues will be came out. but, i'm still happy with my parent, sometime can be so protective, sometime they just can accept what i want. especially if going somewhere like travelling, they just really difficult to get their permission, but sometime it easy. hehe . just look for the right time

I have only one son. And I thank God for him and I realize too that I won't experience the thing called "favorites." I believe most of the parents have favorites. It does exist. Even during the old times written in the Bible, there were stories wherein parents had favorites. Like the case of Jacob and Esau and Joseph the Dreamer and his brothers. At this modern times, there are cases like that and they exist in most families. I'm second to the eldest and I can say that my parents love me but I'm not a favorite one. :-) Anyway, acceptance is a key to make everything smooth. I respect them and I can't do anything about it. I think that is part of life. Thanks for this discussion. God Bless

There's no such thing in our family, I'm the eldest too but fortunately I didn't experience that kind of treatment from my parents. I also don't remember fighting with any of my siblings, yes I can't remember us fighting at all even up to now that we are all grown up. There's no favoritism issue and we all feel that our parents love us all equally. If I become a parent which I really hope to happen soon favoritism is something that will be a "never" in the family. It could really hurt a lot and won't go away as you grow up affecting your personality negatively. Opening this up to your parents might help a lot to clear your mind of questions. Maybe you have misinterpreted them for a long time.

im the favorite between me and my elder sister. but good thing my sister didnt showed any negative vibes against me. I just felt she's hurt whenever my parents gave priority and attention to me. she just silence herself but i know that sadness in her. good thing she held her patience, now we're both mature, and she didnt care all about it. i wish my parents didnt have to be that way.it favors me but i didnt felt good in that way

My parents don't have favorites. They love us all. Maybe, in some situations, children think that their parents have favorites especially when one or two of them get the most attention from their parents. It's probably because needs differ from one another as well as each character. When one needs help and the others don't, of course, the parents will help the one who is in need no matter how many times they have already helped him/her, but that doesn't mean that he/she is their favorite. Sometimes, parents scold one particular child everytime, but that doesn't mean that he/she is not their favorite. Because, when I was younger, I once told my mom what my brother did. I thought my mom would scold my brother, but she scolded me even if what my brother did was wrong. I felt bad 'coz I thought that my brother was my mom's favorite. But, the next day, I overheard my mom scolding my brother about it. So, I realized that my mom had no favorites. Most parents are like that. They may scold you but they would also scold your brothers and sisters without your knowledge. Being a mom myself, even if I have only one child, I believe that if I would have more kids, I would love all of them equally. Because, children are God's gifts that all parents should nurture with love and equality. A parent's treasure is his/her children. And, a child's love is the best reward a parent can receive.

Welcome to the club.My sister is two years older than me and she was born with a halo around her head.She was pretty,clever and able to wrap my dad around her little finger. We are in our fifties and she is still at it.I have had enough and will not try for approval anymore.I can remember having cheap shoes and clothes and because she went to the grammer school she had to have the best.My parents bragged about her in front of me telling everyone how clever she was.It does not get any better beleave me.I have my husband and children,grandchildren,friends who love me and that is enough for me.My home is always full of laughter and everyone is loved to bits.My dad reckons he loves me as well but my sister is brighter and like I say a light shines around her head,she knows it and makes the most of it.Don't worry get your own friends and loved ones,You are good enough and don't you dare let anyone tell you otherwise.

For a while I thought and my friends thought that I was my parents' favorite until one day I got really scolded by my mother in front of my friends. So there. I changed my mind about me being the favorite.

I am surely not the favourite child of my parents. I think it's my elderly sister. But if it comes to favourite I think none of us are. I don't think my parents really liked children, they just had them because it was "normal". I had a terrible childhood with a lot of abuse, beating ups with doglashes (chains and leather), whipes, etc etc. Not a safe home at all. We never had a holiday with our parents they dumped is at grandparents, uncles, aunts. Might be they preferred to be alone/together. I got the most beating ups. According to my dad the eldest had to be the most wise one. So everything my younger siblings did I had to pay for. BTW I was not the eldest, I had 1 elder sister but for some reason she was always more pampered and not the one who was punished. I do not have a favourite child. I love them all, they are different and special with great talents. I tell them daily they are my sweetest and I am so happy they are in my life.

There are two children in my family. I have a little brother, but I think my parents take us equally. Have a nice day.

It seems like you are writing my story here I really can feel with you These memories will be always there

Just like you I'm the eldest, the big sister. I have a younger brother. When we were kids I never felt that I was the least favorite child because my parents made me understand that my younger brother needed more attention since he was sick with leukemia at that time. But when we were in our teenage years & my brother was leukemia-free since he was five, I started feeling bad because I kinda felt that my mom loves him more than me & that makes me the least favorite child. Now that I'm older & more mature. I don't think so much about it & don't get affected, because I know in my heart that my mom loves me too.

I have one younger brother and one younger sister. My mother likes my younger brother and My father likes my sister. So undoubtedly i am the least favourite child. Anyway i have been adopted by my grandfather. So i have little issue

I only have a younger brother, but really feel what you say. They were always stricter on me. My brother is only a year younger than me, however, if we did somnething wrong together, I was always the one who was scolded, because they said "you should know better, you're older!"... I didn't understand it back then, either. I was like 6, he was 5... because a 6 year old is that much wiser than a 5 year old... and he always got out of it, and I was the one who was punished. I also hated that I had to fight for everything I wanted to have, and when I finally got it, either they gave one to my brother (so we would not be sad :S) or gave my brother one earlier "because he asked for it". (And I didn't? NO.) Of course my parents say that they love me differently, but I still think the same. Especially as I'm a girl, and he's a boy, I was expected to do all the housework, help my mom, be tidy etc... and my brother was just eating and playing video games in his own room, and he was never disturbed... nor with the studying, I was expected to be a straight A student, while my brother was like that "the teacher wanted me to do an oral examination, I didn't want to, so I saked for the F without even trying", and he still didn't get as much of a scolding than what I got for bringing home a C from Physics... then his fave food was always prepared, mine NEVER (just because mine was a little bit messier)... I was kind of a loner, too, but I also had my little dream world, and I was writing stories. It might sound a bit silly, as I'm 23, but I still see my stuffed animals as anthropomorfic, like they understand what

I only have a younger brother, but really feel what you say. They were always stricter on me. My brother is only a year younger than me, however, if we did somnething wrong together, I was always the one who was scolded, because they said "you should know better, you're older!"... I didn't understand it back then, either. I was like 6, he was 5... because a 6 year old is that much wiser than a 5 year old... and he always got out of it, and I was the one who was punished. I also hated that I had to fight for everything I wanted to have, and when I finally got it, either they gave one to my brother (so we would not be sad :S) or gave my brother one earlier "because he asked for it". (And I didn't? NO.) Of course my parents say that they love me differently, but I still think the same. Especially as I'm a girl, and he's a boy, I was expected to do all the housework, help my mom, be tidy etc... and my brother was just eating and playing video games in his own room, and he was never disturbed... nor with the studying, I was expected to be a straight A student, while my brother was like that "the teacher wanted me to do an oral examination, I didn't want to, so I saked for the F without even trying", and he still didn't get as much of a scolding than what I got for bringing home a C from Physics... then his fave food was always prepared, mine NEVER (just because mine was a little bit messier)... I was kind of a loner, too, but I also had my little dream world, and I was writing stories. It might sound a bit silly, as I'm 23, but I still see my stuffed animals as anthropomorfic, like they understand what I say, and in my mind, they all have their little personalities... this actually helped my survive when I was a preteen, even in my teens :D. (like my tiny cat is a bit dumb, but really loveable and cute, my bear - my fave - is cunning, smart, deceptive, but caring as well, my owl fears hooting, my dog is simple and would always lick the others even though they hate it, my bigger cat who is a bit of an archnemesis (but in a cute way) to the bear and whom the smaller cat and the bear who are best friends always mock, my giraffee who loves sweets and is a bit dumb...)

My parents treated all 4 of us equal, in everything we did and they did. Im glad they did. Im sure I wasnt the most popular. As I was outspoken. My brother and sisters were all quiet ones.

I only have one elder sister. So i am younger than my sister. Luckily, i am the favorite child in my family. If I make a mistake, my parents will first scold on my sister and ask why she cannot take care of me well? Actually, my sister is not three years older than me. she is just a child like me. I know clearly that my sister is also the favorite child in my family. Parents will buy new clothes for her. When my sister wear the clother near to old, she will give the old clothes for me. I do not want to wear but I have to because our family do not have enough money to buy new clothes for me.

no i dont believe that parents favur any child deep down in their mind we all are equal