How Do You Feel About Being Lied About?
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
November 28, 2012 8:42pm CST
I am sure no one likes to be lied about and I cannot help but be angry right now. That homeless guy I started a discussion about yesterday, yeah. He got mad at my husband for something and then left a voicemail on my phone saying I better let my husband know that we are "talking" and I let him touch me and crap! I am sorry but that is the FURTHEST thing from the truth that I can think of! So naturally, I am TICKED off right now! I hate being lied about with anything... But especially when someone is messing with MY marriage, that REALLY TICKS me off!! I was nothing but nice to him, I was a friend to him so for him to do something like this PISSES me off!
All of you here know how much I love my husband and I would NEVER do anything like that to him EVER! ESPECIALLY NOT with a homeless guy of ALL people!!
Sorry for the rant guys but I need to let out some of this anger right now. I could really hit or throw something right now...
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33 responses
@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
29 Nov 12
First thing that came to mind is how the heck does this dude have a cellphone and then how did he get your number? I am pretty sure any sane spouse would not believe such accusations if everything is going well at home and judging by these claims you should have nothing to worry about.
There is an old saying from the Nazi's(may their name be blotted out) that a lie told enough times becomes a truth so make sure it ends today.
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@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
29 Nov 12
Keep in mind that many homeless guys could be a little unstable. I would try and avoid the dude for a while till he understands what he has done.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
My husband already told him he is NOT welcome at my house and if he comes back we will be calling the police on him.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
He makes more money begging than my husband does at work. Sad, but true. Second, he has had mine and my husbands number for 8 months now. At first we felt bad for him so we gave him our numbers in case he needed anything...
My husband will not believe this bull but it still bothers me that someone who I have been nothing but nice to would lie about me like that and try to start things with me! I did NOTHING to him at all! Why piss me off?!?
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@LovingMySon (224)
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29 Nov 12
Hello my beautiful cousin. Since i am staying with you i would let you hit me but im kind of scared since you look soooooo mad. LOL. But anyway dont let him bother you. We all know how much you love your husband and you know as well as i do this "homeless" man is just doing this because he saw me at the gas station and saw that i was angry at him for the crap he pulled earlier. You tell me everyday not to let the little things get to you so dont let this get to you. Its no big deal. Me and you deal with people talking crap about us everyday whats the difference today. Yes it was uncalled for for him to call you and leave you that voicemail but hey it gave us a good laugh right?? Love you
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
Hello, and thank you for the compliment. =) Your not truly scared of me, I know that! Lol. I am glad so many people know that I love my husband more than anything in this world. I need people on my side right now. I cannot believe he had the nerve to do this to me of all people when I was nothing but nice to him!
I know your right and I should not let it get to me but it is. I don't like people lying about me like this, especially not messing with my personal life.
I will be better tomorrow, it will be a new day and a better day! =)
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@LovingMySon (224)
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29 Nov 12
Lets hope it will be a better and nicer day tomorrow. At least we know "HE" wont be around anymore and if he is i will handle him the New York way :) Just kidding :) But i will make your day better tomorrow i promise you. Love you.
Oh and dont worry!! Everyone knows how much you love your husband and they all know now what a piece of crap "HE" is and no i dont mean your husband!!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
Thank you, I so needed a little chuckle right now and your comment did that for me. Thanks so much for responding. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
I wish you would have gotten some target practice with his head! Next time don't think it, do it! Lol. Ugh, I am so mad, I am actually being mean. Miracles do happen!
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@LovingMySon (224)
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29 Nov 12
Funny i was thinking the same thing when i saw him at the gas station before she even got the voicemail when he was talking crap to my boyfriend about what happened earlier in the day.
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@BarBaraPrz (47313)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
29 Nov 12
Throw it at the homeless guy?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
Good flipping idea! Ugh, I am so ticked off right now, so mad. I don't really think I have EVER been so mad in my life before!!
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@LovingMySon (224)
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29 Nov 12
I could give you a ride to the gas station where i just saw him. LOL. Just kidding.... You can hit me if you must :)
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Nov 12
hi lovingmybabies I anm angry for you too bu t one good thing I do not think your husband would ever believe such garbage as he knows you love him and he loves
you.but I agree that was a horrible thing to lie about and I am also angry, whats with this homeless guy? Is he even trying to find a job and pay rent .this is horrid how he has acted when you two took him in to help him.I am glad you have mylot to let steam off at.I do hope your husband realizes what a crock of s.h.i.t.that man left on the phone. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
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@FrugalMommy (1438)
• United States
29 Nov 12
Not even to beat him over the head with a 10-foot pole?
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
Maybe with the 10 foot pole frugal, as long as I don't have to touch him myself!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
Thanks Hatley. I know my husband does not believe it and would never believe it, especially with this guy of all people... I just do NOT like to be lied about like this. It is a horrible feeling.
Oh, he doesn't live with us Hatley thank God. I was a friend to him, he would come here on my porch to talk and I would listen to his problems. I was nothing but nice to him so it really pisses me off that he would do this! He was mad at my husband...Not me!
I am SO grateful I have MyLot. I know my husband would never believe this, he knows I love him first off and secondly he knows I would NEVER touch this man at all!
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
That is really something that will enrage me, too. What was the guy thinking messing up like that? He is insensitive and a lunatic!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
I have NO idea what he was thinking. I was nothing but nice to him, he gets mad at my husband and lies about me like that!!! It is SO wrong!
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@LovingMySon (224)
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29 Nov 12
He is a lunatic!!! I tried warning her but she is such a nice person she can not be mean to anyone. She has no mean cells in her body unfortunately i need to give her some so she can stand up for herself.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Dec 12
I'm glad you vented. Hubby Knows you would Never , Ever do anything like that! I know ut is hard for you but I suggest you let the guy go, stop trying to help.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Dec 12
Yeah me too. Oh I want NOTHING to do with him EVER again. He screwed himself with this one because now he lost his ONLY friend he had in life, me. Oh well for him. My husband did not believe it thank God. Not at all. But if he did, this guy could have destroyed my marriage and that ticks me off! Do NOT try to mess with my marriage or family!
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Better tell your husband that this guy is about to say made up stuff.
I'm sorry to hear about this. I know nobody wants to be lied to and lied about, and I would be reacting the same way or perhaps even worse when it's my relationship or people I care about that's in the line. I'm sorry for this homeless person as well. He just lost a good friend and made an enemy instead.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
I already did. I let my husband listen to the voicemail. I didn't want him thinking I was hiding anything from him, after I talked with my husband I felt much better too.
Exactly, that is the biggest thing is he was messing with my marriage because he was angry! I do NOT like people messing with my marriage in any way. He did make an enemy that is for sure...
@celticeagle (166976)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Nov 12
My ex would get an idea in his head and just run with it. There was no making him understand and I was blue in the face. It was as if someone had lied and told him things about me that weren't true. It was so frustrating. ANd he believed his ideas.
A lot of homeless people have psychological problems. THis guy is no different. I wouldn't take anything said by one as fact. And your husband and those close to you should know you better than to think any of this is true.
@celticeagle (166976)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 12
I am glad it all worked out. I guess you know now that he isn't to be trusted.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
That is crazy and I completely understand why he is your ex! He must have some major issues to be lying about me like that. I was nothing but nice to him so it ticked me off really bad! Yeah my husband does know it was all bull, thank goodness!
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@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
29 Nov 12
I`d tell my husband so that he helps me deal with him. That sounds as harrasment. Now I don`t understand why did you befriend him to begin with. I can see that he has no home, but he has a cell phone.
@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
29 Nov 12
I know that beggars are not poor usually. And it has been like that for a long time. I`m sorry you had to put up with this crap but I would recomend that you two tell him that he`s not welcome anymore at your house. And it`s better if we go together so that he knows that you have the same front.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
Yeah he is definitely not poor, which seems ridiculous to me but oh well its the way it is... Thank you. My husband did tell him he is no longer welcome here and I was outside when he said it. I think thats part of the reason he was mad enough to lie about me the way he did.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
I did tell my husband, he was half asleep though so I will probably have to tell him again tomorrow... My husband and I both felt bad for him at first. I know I am too nice and give people the benefit of the doubt. This guy makes more money begging than my husband does at work. Sad but true! I am SO mad right now.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
29 Nov 12
Wow that is truly messed up, I would try and cut all ties with him. After all that I'd be like sorry you'd just lost probably the only friends you ever had. I hate it when people lie about me too and try and break up my marriage. I never know why people try to step in between a married couple and break them up. But like I said above, I say try and find something really heavy that you can pick up and throw and and throw it straight at him and kick the crap out of him. Boy he's got a lot of nerve. This is so reminding me of the guy that is over here that is friends with my husband he would so do something like this. But he no longer hangs out around here thank God, because he has already upset my husband so much he's like I don't want him around any more. So maybe that's what its got to be like now. If he's going to even stoop that low.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
It is really messed up and my husband told him he is no longer welcome at our house ever again before the voicemail, I think that is why the guy lied about me. He was mad that he was no longer allowed here...
Yeah, someone's marriage is not something to lie about or mess with. I would NOT do that to my worst enemy. That is a line you just do not cross.
I was nothing but nice to him so it really ticks me off that he was mad at my husband and basically attacks me with these lies. I feel attacked, I feel like my marriage has been attacked and I don't like it at all! I better NEVER see this guy around anywhere!!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Nov 12
Hi LovingMyBabies
You cannot change the world or even control what others feel or do. But amidst this, did you realize what you did to yourself? You just used your 3 emoticons and all of them of anger. You also have been feeling upset! for what?a person who misinterpreted you and said such stuff for no reason. Yes, you have a right to get upset, but for a person who was neither important, nor understanding, nor respecting...
It hurts, and definitely it does. I agree. But then, I would move on. That is me. Life is much beyond such people and such instances. I would not allow anyone else to control me.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Nov 12
In my personal opinion, of course, - if your hubby didnt believe you and believed the words of that guy, I would see it as a better thing to happen that you both split up... I mean - if after such a close and loving relation that you have with your hubby, you find him having no trust on you, it is better that the relation broke.
But i am glad that such thoughts never turn into reality as your hubby does trust you and I do pray that the trust and love between you both grows with each and every moment that you share together
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
Yes I did use all 3 of them on anger, I was pretty darn angry. Yes I let him get to me and I hate that I did that, but I did. He was not worth me getting so upset over, him and his lies!
It does hurt to be lied about in a way like that! I just don't appreciate anyone trying to mess with my marriage. Thank God my husband did not believe anything he said, but what if he did? I could have lost my marriage over this MORON!
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
3 Dec 12
I think a good kick in the nuts would be a fitting move. I know you love your husband. I hate it when people do those things. I have had things like that happen to me in my life. I am the type of person though that will write someone off in a bout 3 seconds. I know I cannot control what people say about me, but I don't have to defend myself. The people who really know me, know the kind of person I am. There are many jealous people in this world and they will stop at nothing. I have seen it time and again. You have the right to be pissed. I don't blame you. But I believe your husband knows you better then that and knows you would never do anything stupid like that. So, its time to write that homeless guy off.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Dec 12
I agree! Lol. Too bad he is never at the store anymore where he used to hang out because he is scared of my husband kicking the crap out of him!
Yeah I know I didn't have to defend myself but it just bothered me so much even though people know me and know I would not hurt my husband that way. I really don't like being lied about. I am put down enough for things that i do, I don't need someone lying about me to add more.
That homeless guy was written off the minute he said that crap about me! I want NOTHING to do with him at all. My husband told him if he comes near me or the house he will call the police. So, yeah one less person for me to have to worry about starting crap. He is VERY jealous of my marriage with my husband, he told me that but I didn't think he would do anything like this.
Stinks for him though because he just lost his only friend in life, me.
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@SuperShames (780)
• India
30 Nov 12
Hi lovingbabies.
Though I did not read the earlier discussion of yours but I do have a fair idea about what you are talking. First of all it is natural to become angry. The best solution to such situations is to ignore them. Making you angry and giving them attention is what they want. Unless that person crosses limit you should ignore that guy. But if he turns out to be a phsycho or something, I think you should report him to the cops. Anyways have a nice day ...
+SuperShames+
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Nov 12
Well yeah but he never saw my anger because he is no longer welcome here. My husband told him if he comes here again we will be calling the police.
@SuperShames (780)
• India
1 Dec 12
Hi lovingbabies.
Well in that case I think it is the right thing that you are doing. Try not to deal with this guy personally. Call the cops, As this guy doesn't deserve your time. And I hope you will never have to see this guy again. Anyways have a nice day ...
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 12
Tell him to take a good look at himself in the mirror first. He may not realize that he is a broken man. Usually people in such a situation are no better than those in the mental asylum. Just keep your distance from him otherwise he keeps stalking you to no end.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Nov 12
He is no longer allowed at my house. My husband told him if comes near my home we will be calling the police and having him arrested for trespassing...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Dec 12
As sad as it is to say, I don't think that there is a way that you can be friends with this man any more because he is obviously jealous of what you have with your husband and wants to break that apart. It is terrible that someone would be like that but it also does seem to me that those people that we try to help the most are the people that stab us in the back the most.
I wouldn't recommend throwing something right now, but I can tell you that if it was me in your shoes, I would probably hit that guy if I ever saw him again.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Dec 12
No we are not friends with him at all. My husband told him if he comes back to our house he will call the police!
Your absolutely right, we have helped so many people and all they do is talk crap about us all the time!
Oh I will HIT the crap out of him if I ever see him again!!
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Is there a blackmail in the offing? I hope not but that homeless guy could do something to wreck your marriage if you don't do something for him. I think you better talk it out with your husband and probably make a police report.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Nov 12
There is no blackmail... And he was told to NEVER show up at our house again! If he does we are calling the police.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
30 Nov 12
That would definitely tick me off!! It's one thing to have someone tell lies about you, but once they start telling lies and trying to come between your relationship, it's too much.
There was this girl I've known for almost 4 or 5 years. I knew her parents and eventually her when she'd come from Washington to stay the summer. WEll last year she moved in with her parents and I ended up working at the same store as her. Things were fine for a while but once she had met my boyfriend she completely changed. She'd always ask about him or get excited when he came to visit me at work. Then it got to the point where she'd tell me lies about him and she'd also tell my boyfriend lies about me saying that he "better be careful" because she had seen me at work talking and laughing for a while with a guy. At first my boyfriend believed her and asked me about it..he's been cheated on before and it's one of his biggest fears. Believe me, I was livid when I found out about all the lies she would tell me and him and I got even more mad when I found out she was saying the same thing to my coworkers! She would tell them "Oh I don't know about Courtney's boyfriend, don't tell her but I saw him here, here, and here". I was so mad when I found out and even thinking about it now gets me upset. Now, that girl doesn't even look at me and hardly ever says hi to me.
So I can understand how you feel about those lies. Even though you know they're not true it still gets to you. I hope you're feeling better!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Nov 12
Your story is EXACTLY what was done to us basically. He called me and left me a voicemail telling me he was telling my husband that we were touching each other and crap. THEN, he calls my husband AT WORK and tells him I was having s*x with him!!! WHAT!?! I would NOT touch him EVER!! He is gross, does not shower, smells, ugh, so nasty! Sorry but I definitely do NOT need a homeless guy to sleep with me! I have a husband for that first of all and even if I didn't I would NEVER sleep with this guy, EVER! Not even if he was the LAST guy on earth, Lol. My husband was so mad at work because he knew this guy was lying about me and it pissed my husband off. So, yeah he was told if he ever comes near my house again we are calling the police! And my husband wants to do more than that to him but I am trying to keep him out of jail!!
@kearkear (963)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Nov 12
About what is happening to you right now, is part of our journey in life. We just have to be strong and have faith to HIM. Exactly, being lied is somewhat very annoying and makes you anger and even can't control your temper. But one thing that we should see to it that it is just part of our lives here on earth. Just focus and everything will be okay.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Nov 12
Yeah it was just very wrong for him to lie about me this way when I have done nothing but be nice to him, even when I should not have!
@habibti320 (925)
• United States
30 Nov 12
I guess this guy took the step from "friend" to "that guy" pretty quickly!
Not wanting to work, messing with his friends' relationships, this guy seems to be on a very dangerous path! He's gonna end up alone, cold, and hungry!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Nov 12
YES! I had no idea if he ever got mad at my husband he would attack me like this!! He is going to go down hill fast and I won't feel sorry for him!