did you kiss the boss's shoes
By lrwwin
@lrwwin (13)
Hong Kong
November 30, 2012 12:13am CST
Hi freined,
Now I encounter a problem. I work for a new company for one year. ( at the beginning, total 4 employee incl me.)
After that, the boss is coming back to Canada, and one of TAIWAN perpon come as a surperviser. And most of the employee did not get well with him. So one left the compnay, then one month later, another left again. The rest is office clark & me. For me, I need to take all the work for the two guys who leave. ( office clerk don't need to go out for business.)
I work hard and tired. Half year, we have new guys join in to help me. I can say, though my hardwork, many thing are getting better than better. And work process is getting better.
But the TAIWAN supervisor want to control all the thing. He say bad to my custmoer behind me , and he want someone to place my work.
My customer seems not trust me as before. And I really feels upset. I work so hard to improve the work to help the company. Acturally, I hope I can be a supervisor or team leader one day. But it seems impossible now due to I don't want to kiss the shoes of the TAIWAN person.
Did you think it's a good idea to flatter your boss?
Did you do sometimes?
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10 responses
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
I don't flatter my boss. All you have to do is do your work well. I had experienced being treated badly by my direct supervisor. She humiliated me in front of the people under me. Whenever we made a mistake, that is a mistake by the people under me, she will call a meeting and humiliated me and put all the blame on me because according to her, I didn't supervise well. I did all the best I can without flattering her. Now, she became good to all of us. It took over 5 years for her to become good or forced to treat us better. I could sense the effort.
@StLouisMetroTutoring (678)
• St. Peters, Missouri
30 Nov 12
Hi Irwwin! This is a tough situation you're in. I think you need to ask yourself, because I don't know your situation well enough to answer, several questions. If you did get that supervisor or team leader position, how much autority or control over any situation would you really have? Or would it be more of the case that someone else was making all the decisions but since you were in that position, you took all the blame? If your boss is really a backstabber and is talking negatively behind your back to your customers, would this same behavior happen to you as a supervisor with the employees you were supposed to lead being told negative things about you? If your best isn't good enough, is this really where you want to be?
Best of luck with your decision!! Let us know what you decide and what happens.
@lrwwin (13)
• Hong Kong
30 Nov 12
Hi Stlouis MetroTuroring,
Thanks for your reposnse.
Yes, the situation is a little bit complicate. The superviser is my head, but my both me & him are under same boss which hire me directly.( not the taiwan superviser.)
I don't know if the new superviser would like to have employee hired by himselves or not. he don't turst all of us. ( 4 people hair by the boss, two already leave due to they really can not stand with him. )
I also though of resign before, but I insist due to I work with another deparment which is differetn with supervise.( we have two different dept.)
Acturally, I know that he say bad behide us, and we hear from coordinate, he always say bad for others in front of me. I really don't like this superviser like that. He would like to control all of us. But sometime we don't want it.
For myself, maybe I said something wrong when I am so angry under the bad managemetn.
But I just do nothing but work harder. I know I am not the best, but I will try my best.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
I guess I'd never kiss my boss's shoes. If he doesn't like me, he should tell it to my face. He should not degrade me. I am working for the company and it's earning because of me. They should be thankful that they have a hardworking, trustworthy and efficient employee. If they want to replace me then they should give a good reason of firing me. I hope you'll feel better soon. I hope your customer won't judge you because they know you better than him. Goodluck. May you get along well with him in the future.
@betty1989 (751)
• China
30 Nov 12
proper flatter to your boss is a good thing and you will get promotion if your boss likes. If you really want to be a superviser in your company since you have devoted much to your company, you deserve it. but be patient. It takes time to be superviser since there is TAIWAN superviser. come on, one day, you can make it.
@lrwwin (13)
• Hong Kong
30 Nov 12
yes, you are right. I can not do nothing but insist in.
But it seems hard to me now. New guys will join in and she plan to take my job, and I change to do another task. That's why I feel upset.
And for me, I don't like flatter, specially for the case which I really think it's not correct.
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@easybreezyjuzzy (71)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Well sometimes you will be forced to do the things that you dont wanna do so that you will be able to reach yours goals.
Flattering your boss is ok. It's work & your intentions are all good.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 12
I tried. I don't know how about you? But it feels so bad after that. I will not kiss his shoes anymore because he is a bad person.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
30 Nov 12
I'm always nice to my boss in the first time, because I wanna make a good first impression and I wanna prevent drama and stuff. But if he acts really mean to me, I'm not going to kiss their shoes. Maybe it's not right what I think, but I'm never going to give my principles up.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
30 Nov 12
Hi,
I think everyone will meet some kind of problem in their work. Don't worry, try to fix it. Try to get on well with your superviser, I know it's not easy for you, in fact, I am a kind of person just like you. I don't like flattering my boss, and he did something behind me, too. If you really don't want to flatter your boss, and you really have a bad time there, I suggest you change another job, maybe your will be lucky to meet a new boss who is very kind and be easy getting on well with.
Have a nice day!
