why does relationship and future welfare is not always in harmony?
@superlativicious (51)
Philippines
November 30, 2012 12:30am CST
i'm in a 2 years relationship and we're happy except on one thing. i am currently working in a job that pays just the basic salary. the problem is that i am the bread winner in the family so as expected i will be the one bringing money into the family. with my current job and salary i can't be of help to my family, the only solution i'm seeing right now is to find other jobs with bigger salary, i have found a few jobs but most of them needs me to be on the job for almost half of my day and that means that i would not have time for my boyfriend. on my boyfriend's side he does everything so that we can spend time together. he always cancels his friend's night out or if he has something to do that needs him to be far from me he always tries to be with me as soon as he can.
so thats my situation, i cant go to the jobs that offer bigger salary because i feel guilty of not having time for my boyfriend. so what do you think i should do?
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5 responses
@betty1989 (751)
• China
30 Nov 12
If you really need money to support your family, you should take the job with bigger salary. I believe your boyfriend can understand you. You have plenty of time together in the near future. Hope you can overcome this difficulty.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
If that so, you must pursue that plans since that everything you do is for your family and for the future. You are still young and there are lot of opportunities out there and don't neglect each of it because chances seldom knocks. With regards to your boyfriend, absolutely, he would consider it as long as the love is there and just keep in touch together despite of busy moments. You can see each other once a week or thrice a month, call and message each other. There are a lot of ways in communicating though!
We work for we to survive each day, Don't give the whole attention to him it would stuck up your plans and risk for stagnancy. Open your mind and you will see the brightest sun. LOLZ. hehe :)
@superlativicious (51)
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
i totally agree with you. right now i am looking for a better job and he is slowly understanding my situation.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
You have to check your priorities. And, I think with what you wrote, your family should be your priority. Your family needs you a lot and the only way you can help them is to exert more effort and time to earn more. Your boyfriend should understand your situation. If he can't then, you still have your family by your side.
@superlativicious (51)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
i definitely agree with you. maybe im just afraid to hurt him.
@Pen_Pal777 (245)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
talk to your boyfriend, tell him about your plans and why you are doing it, and what he thinks about it too, so that you would know what decisions to make regarding that plan of yours.
@superlativicious (51)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
i do think so too, but i know that this decision will make our relationship a harder one.
@nani4ajay (108)
• India
30 Nov 12
Oh it's a situation where some sacrifice is needed, with this i can tell you that earn money it is the right time, I hope your boyfriend will definitely understand you and supports you. Good Luck
