Love marriage or arrange?

I will also go for an arranged marriage. In my opinion if you love somebody ans if you are so sure of it tell your parents about him/her. I think parents can understand if your love is true or not and definitely they will enquire about it all. It would be nice if you tell the whole story to your parents and I am sure they will not reject your request as they also want to see you happy.It would be nice if you get married with both parents permissions so that you will get the blessings of them. Therefore my opinion is that you can convert a love affair into a arranged marriage so that no one will have any offence in your relationship.

I think either a love or arranged marriage will eventually find success. Love marriage involves the couple involved already in love with each other. But usually, arranged marriage takes time; and most, if not all, of the time, the two involved weren't able to get to know each other a bit before the marriage. Arranged marriage might be based solely on fortune and social status, but the two will eventually be forced to fall in love because they are going to spend the rest of their lives together. Love marriage actually sometimes ends sooner than an arranged marriage because arranged marriage forces the couple to always work things out. But love marriage is more free to grow as well as deteriorate. Usually, love marriage is based too much on feelings that can be fleeting. But arranged marriage is thought out more deeply by outsiders who are not clouded by feelings of infatuation. Yet although I think arranged marriage is more logical, I personally still believe in love marriage.

shalloo, I decided my marriage instead of my parents. Even though there was a little generation gap between my parents respected my decision. I'm fortunate and glad that I was born in a family, both my parents having democratic thinking. My elder brother and younger sister decided their respective marriage as well. Yeah, we brought the person we love to home every now and then so that my parents could communicate with them often. This is the right and best way to cement the tie of friendship I suppose Our decision is right as the children of three of us have grown up and having their ideal work living in different states. Lol...the three old couples of us and my young bachelor brother would have pleasant gathering frequently to enjoy our happy moment in somewhere tranquil in the green of nature or nearby the beach where we could relax ourselves freely resting, rambling around, eating, drinking and chatting all the time. Happy posting

I got love marriage where both side parents accepted our decision. From starting onwards we both are well planned and managed hence dis not got any issues till now.. However we should give respect to our parents.. Espicially when taking decision about our life as they are pretty experienced lots of issues in life.

I think when it comes to love you will know who the one is and you shouldn't need approval of whom and you should need to ask if it's okay to marry them or not. I never asked my parents. It was all my choice and I would have hated not only myself but my parents and the man I'm with if I ever let my parents control my life especially my love life. I love my husband and only I could have made that choice over who was right for me. All people should have that choice.

With every decisions that we will make in life, It should be our own decision. In the end, it is only you who will be blamed with whatever decision or choice you have made. Wether you took it from your parents, friends or neighbours, still it will be your decision. I am not going to contest with what you said that our parents are experienced enough but not to everything. I love my parents and I always obey them. I still support them till now but when they went against my decision, I didn't tell them they are wrong but I stood for what I know is right. And that, is my choice. It's a gift from God. You may use it wisely.=)

Well I live in a different culture where we pick our own spouses after dating and falling in love with them. I can not imagine having someone else choose who I am going to spend the rest of my life with. But I know it other cultures it is a perfectly normal thing to do and works out most of the time very nicely. I think if someone wants to have their parents decide then it is fine, but I think you should at least like the person.

I will go with love and let my heart decide and no one else will change who I love . I will love that person forever and my parent cannot control my heart , that how I see it . I will not enter into an arranged wedding and sleep with someone I dont love , I would never sell myself short !! Just imagine the love I share with my fiance to have never had feel it at all my life would not be complete . I would rather love and lost than never love at all

I think marriage must be with love not by force. No one should be intervene into our love affair because not parents or anyone will give us happiness. They are not give us what to wear or what to eat?

it entirely depends on our perparception,i believe for general cases,it has to be the parents taking the call at the end of the day and in some confident and nice mentality cases,i prefer and back on myself to win here

In our part of the world, arranged marriage is no longer practiced. In fact, even if some family was to do it, their children will never agree to it given the independent mind that the youngsters have had today. I understand that it is still common in some parts of the world but it is hard for us here to imagine how an arranged marriage works.

If I were to get married, I would rather choose the natural way of being tied with a person. I wouldn't go over arrange marriage because it is co-related to forcing yourself to be with someone who you don’t really get along in the first place. Although you can get involved throughout your married life, it’s not natural and it doesn't contain any love or affection from the start. Having a partner that you know from experiences and from an affectionate relationship is much more reliable because from the start, you know that you both are in love with each other in a way, marriage is just a step a notch in your relationship to claim it that you are better with one another and you are now capable of facing a new chapter of responsibilities as a married couple.

the older days, maybe the arrange marriage is just normal for us to hear, how our grandparents get married. i just love to hear it. even they were arrange married but still happily until today, compare to younger today, it just so many divorce. sometime they just got married few month already don't understand each other. make me think, how the older care of their relation compare to younger today. but still for me, even we love each other, we still need to get our parent blessing

I think we are own master of our destiny,so do our marriage.Though our parents are far more capable then us to decide and have more experience on marriage. But it is only us who know what our heart wants and what can make us really happy.I think a adult should be capatable with the responsibiity to decide his own mar.riageeJust follow your heart.

After some time all marriages turn out to be same whether love or arranged, so it depends what is in store for you in your luck department. Even love marriages fail and so do the arranged ones.

Are you trying to tell me that you rather have your parents decide who you gonna marry or who you can not marry to? According to you, maybe I am a bit rebellious. I would rather decide my marriage and my own future. Not my parents. Once or twice my parents want me to meet these strange girls and I barely have any topic to share with them. Eventually, I gave up that arrangement by both parents, and I guess that I p^ss both sides too. At the end, I still want to have my own marriage decided by myself, whether it gonna fail or last forever. That is my personal opinion on that one.

I am right now not able to decide which is good.I would agree with you that parents have more experience and also in Indian culture,there are several things influencing social status and ego of the married couple which will be rightly said by parents.But the thing that lacks here is that,one cannot know the exact nature of the girl or boy before marriage.If the couple does not like some character and cannot adjust,that married life is going to be like hell.Do we have to sacrifice our personal life(if characters dont match) for the sake of society.

Hey Shalloo. It seems like the trend these days is that we decide our marriage ourselves. However, i do understand that there are many countries where arranged marriage is still the norm. I think it really depends on our culture. Like in Singapore, most of us decide on our own partners. however, i do have some friends from India, where they have to do back because it's time and their family have found someone suitable for their child.

You HAVE to love yourself. Even if you try not to love yourself, you will eventually feel sorry for yourself if you're in a bad situation and will try to get out of it. So start by loving yourself, and noticing you love yourself more when you do loving-actions for your spouse (writing music, painting pictures, writing poetry, buying gifts, etc). Then you see that the purpose of your spouse is to make you more-loveable---not to serve you in any way but as they graciously give.

for me now a days arranged marriage is not as popular as before because today we are living in a world where we are free to choose whether for personal or for the things we like.. for me parents are there to guide as not to choose for us.. love is a beautiful thing so we should experience it on our own.. we should explore our world.. but don`t also take for granted the opinions of our parents because they have been in our place..