you're from where?

United States
November 30, 2012 12:16pm CST
I rarely engage in conversations that lead to dating type relationships but this guy got my attention. By nature I like dark skinned men and even though he was white I wrote back and forth several times. He was at least interesting so I engaged in some small talk. He "said " he was an engineer which I immediately questioned since his english was very broken and poor. Today I put it all together and figured out he is from Nigeria - not California! Now the trouble is that I prefer men of color, and if the guy had told me the truth he would have had a chance.He begged me to continue talking wiht him but I would not since he lied to me to begin with! I told him I had less than zero trust since he lied in the first place... What would you have done?
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peavey
@peavey (16936)
• United States
30 Nov 12
If he lied to you about this, what else was he (or would he) lie about? I think you were right to not talk to him again.
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macdingolinger
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
30 Nov 12
You are absolutely right! I told him there was less than zero trust - and you cannot build a relationship with trust. Oh well. I will make it a point to never talk to a guy online again!
peavey
@peavey (16936)
• United States
1 Dec 12
They're not all like that. I've met some nice guys online - just not dating kinds of guys. Don't limit yourself, but keep your eyes open.
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macdingolinger
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
1 Dec 12
I know that they are not all like that- but I am too old to be spending my time on it at all! lol
hoseasmate
@hoseasmate (720)
• United States
1 Dec 12
I have always cautioned people I know about the internet: chatting, posting, fb and all. Nothing you post is 'private' it is a public forum and nothing is as it seems. I used to think that all the information on the internet came from published sources; i.e. encyclopedias, medical dictionaries, etc. Was I ever wrong!!! So let me guess??? IN the chatting I suppose the guy was most anxious to meet you and he fell in love quickly? Don't suppose your radar would have gone off sooner that you had a scammer looking for love....translate passage to immigrate or such. I applaud you for being cautious and I agree...the guy lied about his nationality and other critical information was a lie. I don't think you'd have a very good relationship when it's foundation is based on deception...just saying..
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macdingolinger
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
1 Dec 12
Yea, is that crazy or what?!? I only talked to him because he said he wanted to go slow and get to know one another.. yada yada! Then all of a sudden he was "in love" That's when I started backing up and reexamining the whole thing. I was like, "you don't know me well enough to love me yet!" lol... Oh welll - he's blocked and I will never talk to a guy online again.. happy single!
rubyroy
@rubyroy (824)
• India
1 Dec 12
People who have less confidence tell lies,and so if you are not comfortable,discontinue the relationship.For if it doesn't make you feel good initially,then it will always make you dis comfortable in the long run.
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macdingolinger
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
1 Dec 12
For sure! I feel like if a relationship begins on a lie it will never be an honest relationship. I could never be able to trust him if I do not even have a chance to build that trust! Thanks!
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