He is asking fro money again
By shylade
@shylade (3132)
Philippines
November 30, 2012 6:58pm CST
I am happy that finally I got my mother and she's living with us for good. But now I am upset because my brother texted me yesterday if he could get another money again. My goodness, a week hasn't passed when my husband gave him the money he asked and now he is asking for money again. I did not replied because I don't have load to text him and that I can't seem to think right because I am upset with him. I don't want to fight with him so I chose not to text him. He texted me again saying how upset he was with us and that even when he died we should not visit be in his burial. Imagine how really rude he is. He even cursed us. If you read about my other posts, my mother already gave him 70000 pesos and then just after two weeks he asked for 50000 pesos but I told my mother not to give because that is her hard earned money to be used for her medications. But since she was begging to give our brother I said 25000 pesos will just be enough and so my husband gave it to him last Sunday. He promised that will be the last so I thought everything will be okay. But he texted me for another 25000 pesos so what he is thinking now. It is not an easy money and why not he can't understand that. Our mother needs the money more than him and besides that money is part of her retirement benefits. I am still upset now, I am torn again. I pity my brother but I am so frustrated with him. He is such a shame. I don't know what to do now. He is making drama again and he is hitting our conscience once more. I don't tell my mother about this because I am sure she will not be at peace again.
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4 responses
@XianLovesMe (171)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
your brother is one selfish man. and manipulative much? He knows all the tricks to make you cave. He knows all the right buttons to push. Yeah its pricking on your conscience but if you really want to help him then you better iron your resolve and tell him so. Tell him enough is enough and if he wants to be a bum all his life then let him. He will not and cannot learn if you'll be forever his crutch. Cruel much? but its true.
I don't think for one minute he'll let himself die. He's selfish enough to not let it. and survival instinct's hard to override. hehe! Toughen up Girl, give your brother a dose of reality. money is a commodity its not something you pick-up on streets everyday. Goodluck!
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I try to be tough but at some point I can't stand knowing he will kill himself. He stop bothering us though last two days, he is begging to send him even with a little amount. He said he has nothing to eat and I am praying he is learning from it. I told him why not look for a job, he said all his applications are for January since it is the last month of the year already and no one really hires except if it's very important. I try to believe him so I send him a little amount that calms him and my mind too. I am praying we can fix things out and finally he will learn and realize that money is just money. Thank you so much for the words.
@tym1217 (30)
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2 Dec 12
IF i was you ,first time i will give money to him no matter what he has done.But ,if he did not changed,and he continues to gamble.I will never give money to him ,because money will let him be worse.What he need is not money ,but the right consideration.More money can not help him,if he did not know what is right and what is wrong!!Maybe he should suffer something seriously,let himself really know his always making mistakes. I think if you and you mother always cannot bear to turn down his request,then he will think money can get easily just to be rude.Day by day,your brother,your mother's son will lose his whole life.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
I know, giving him money will just encourage him to do his bad way of living. I don't tell my mother yet because I don't want her to think about it. She's sick and I want her get well soon. It is hard for him to just contain it and all his accusations just hurt me knowing that I just want what is good for him. He is very disrespectful and never respect being the eldest. Oh, he don't respect our mother in the first place. And when our late father was still living he even cursed him. That's why my father told us that our brother will never live a good life. I don't know if he already said sorry to our father. Maybe that;s one thing that keeps his baggage really heavy. Thank you for sharing.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
1 Dec 12
U should just cut him off all together.
Sure he is ur brother and family takes care of family but tough love also has a big part of it. Tell him to get a job. And grow up! I used to have a brother like that and he would always ask for money and not ask me how I'm doing. So one day when he asked for more money I said NO! I cussed at him and gave him a long speach about how life is. For a while after that he didn't talk to me or anything. I understood y he was like that. My mom didn't raise him right, she spoiled him rotten and always gave him whatever he wanted. He never had to work until he had no choice but to move out of state. That was when he had to learn the hard way how to make a living. I helped him out but then he turned on me.
Ur mom should tell him no. Cut the cord. U know?! It's mean but one day he'll understand.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
He keeps on texting until now. i don't reply back because I don't want to say something that will just worsen the situation. I am just pissed of upon learning he don't invest the money our mother gave him. My sister told me that he is into gambling. So I am holding my temper and try to be tough not to give in. I am praying he will learn his lessons. he must work because in the first place he got a degree and used to be good at his field. I am wondering why he is so bitter and will never take any advise as good even if it's for his on good. Thank you for sharing.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
1 Dec 12
Sometimes, things like this cannot be avoided in the family and most often the cause for misunderstanding between siblings. I hope you were able to settle this thing as soon as possible. You have to explain the matter to your brother so that he may understand. If you will keep on ignoring him, he would be thinking that you are the one taking advantage of what you mother have.
Have a nice day!
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
Before this, I have tried to explain to him what he is asking is impossible. Because in the first place, our mother already gave him so much and she even paid for all his debt. But my brother never understand because he is selfish. He even cursed us all and harassed my two other sisters to give him money. He is closed minded and for him he is the only right. I tell you, I have talked to him several times but I just turned out bad so I think talking to him will never work. I don't know when he will change and his drama as well. He is an educated people but it seems money already eat him up and many people around him are telling he is very much into gamble. I want to help him but how? He never listens to anyone except his self. He is greedy that's the right word. Am I selfish just thinking of our mother's health? I want her to be healed and retain her lost energy. I just want her to experience stress free life for the rest of her life here. She deserves it because she had been working all her life. That's why I am really torn. But I know through God's help, this too shall pass. Thank you.
