Mummy I am in Love

Hi, We all have to face it sooner or later, the very things we did to our parents a while back. How did they react, I really don't know. I can't discuss such things with my mother. Of course, daughters are different. To gain the confidence of our children is a good thing. They shall not be led astray by ill-intentioned characters out for a good time. One sure way to juvenile delinquency is the lack of parental guidance when the parents themselves stop to nurture the growing child and delegate the task to institutions which can only teach to a certain degree.

Parents always worry. Whether their daughter met the right guy, or whether they just have a moment of fling with some random guy. So, their concern is legit. When you become a parent, you should know that feeling too. So, if you really in love with some guy, you have the right to share with your parents, and also show them you are responsible, Don't forget about your education too.

My parents were strict and although they never told me, I know that they will be against my relationship if I had one at such an early age. But I did have my first boyfriend in high school. I kept it from them. Only my friends knew it. I remember the first time I ever told her that I had a boyfriend was when I was 19 years. I wasn't really planning of telling it to her yet although he knows the guy coz he has been dropping me off from school and practically comes to the house everyday. My nanny (yes, at 19 I still had a nanny coz she has lived with my grandparentssince she was 9 years old) sort of having a hint that the guy was my boyfriend. Then I felt that she was getting stricter- way stricter than my mom. She would be banging doors and cabinets, would tap just everything just to make a loud sound to show that she is irritated whenever the guy is at our house. This really made me mad. I have confronted her several times and each time she would threatened me of leaving the house and would say so many harsh things. Fearing that my nanny would make up stories that would eventually get my relationship in hot water, I admitted to my mom that the guy was already my boyfriend. I was so ready to hear her shout at me, but all she said was it was okay for as long as we will help inspire each other in our studies. But once I fail in any of my subjects, then that would be the end of my relationship. That was 22 years ago. Now, that guy is my husband.

i don't think i can share it with my mum. i don't know why, for me, if i just fall in love to someone and he is the right one i will tell. but, until today, i just fall in love but still he is not the right one. i don't know why, it just so hard for me to share with her

I think she is right. The daughter is still young, and she should focus on her studies. But at the same time, if the daughter is able to maintain a good relationship with someone while she is also able to do well in her studies, then I am all for her. She is smart enough to make her own decisions, but she should still heed her mother's warning. I am speaking from personal experience that it is possible to maintain a good healthy relationship and be able to balance it with college studies.

Mother did right thing, if she refuses to agree to her daughter than that will cause a lot of loss to their relationship. I suggest every parent should accept their children's honesty. And guide them in a right way.

It's a normal thing for teenagers- to fall in love. Being a parent- I am here to guide and understand my kids. My kids are young teens and one day soon they will fall in love and start a relationship. I won't be a hindrance to their feelings- but I will try my best to give them advise and be with them always.

Your story triggered an emotion within me. I have an almost 16 year old daughter and your discussion made me think what will I do if she approach me with the same confession. I think I will say that it is good to be in love but she should focus on finishing her college degree. Use the love that she feels as an inspiration to do good in school. Children will grow up and this is a fact that all mothers has to be prepared to face. I will give them the freedom and pray that they do the right thing even when I'm not there with them.

the girl is kinda young.. wish shed finish her studies first. I know here, many girls fall in love then quit school. ^ months later bf leaves and they have no school or bf.

I can relate into that. When I was still a teenager I always shared who is my crush with my mom. I was very open with her in terms of heart talks. She also shared their moments with my father. My mother is always advising me to guard my heart and to know first the guy a lot before I'll accept his love. Be smart in choosing and let not love ruin my life.

this situation is most college students in. at this age, girls easily have crush on guys. i am so glad that girl is brave enough to tell her mother that she in in love. I do not think what this mother tell is the right thing although what she did is for her daughter's good. in the college, students may have the ability to balance love and study. this time, mother should encourage to love and tell study is also very important.

My young son was suppose to go to college when he also said: 'Mommy I am in love, and I want to marry this girl..." I was shocked but also remained calm; explaining in a gentle way that he was an adult, but needed some more growing-up to do. He would not listen and six months latter married the lovely girl. The marriage lasted two years... Being an adult, or older than 18yrs does not always mean that we 'know' all the answers. Many a time True Wisdom lack and then it is good to listen to older people...

Hi I have gone through your this discussion. I like it too much. I think that when a boy and girl come i teen age it is necessary for every mother to become friend of her daughter and every father to become friend of his son. Every girl and boy should share every thing including the relation with their friends, affairs etc with their mother and father respectively and parents should support their children in their love affair. In fact parents should allow a daughter to invite her love mate in house. Allow them to talk giving privacy. So that the boyfriend of girls will cross limits. Looking their affection, and attaining age of marriage and and financial stability parents of both boy & girl should permit them to get married, without barrier of cast, Gotra.