Lucky people

Some parents are just that generous to extend help to their children even if they know that their children are already capable of making it on their own.However, the downside of it is that some children would feel that they do not have much responsibilities over their own families and so they would think that they do not need to save up for their family's needs. I think that parents should extend their help as much as they can but should also lessen the amount that they give so that their children will still feel the responsibility of providing for the family.

I am lucky and unlucky both lucky because I got good husband and parents in laws but unlucky because no child yet. Complete 9 years of marriage. In my parents in laws relatives also very good and we enjoy any festival together.

Hi Blue I also feel lucky that my husband doesn't force me to work but it just I don't feel comfort just staying at home and doing all the house hold chores I love working

In his Works "Much Ado About Nothing" Shakespeare uses the phrase "Comparisons are odious" and so do writers before him. I fully agree with them. We do not know completely what goes on in anyone's life and therefore for some it would be necessary that others help them. This is what I feel.

You are partly right. To many people it's just an easy way of making an income if someone else is paying for your bills. No matter if you (pretend to be) a beggar or you make a good income. Especially if you never learned how to manage with your own income, to be on your own feet it will be hard to pay bills first and not buy everything you see just because you just had your income. If you can't do that parents did not do a good job. It's normal to teach children how to manage money, that there are bills you need to pay first if you want to have a home. That there is a time children are responsible for their own lives and there is no need (way) parents will pay for their bills (since parents won't live forever!). Also schools should prepare children way more on real life. Especially with the economic crisis worldwide it's important. Sounds to me your friend finds gambling more exciting or sees it as a way (by now) to make big money in short time (what an illusion). And if it comes to you: if you really would think it was necessary to provide for your family better as is the fact now you would already start working longer ago or? Personally I would not envy people who has an easier life (you never know what is really going on behind the screens). But I also do not feel pity or do NOT feel the need anymore to help out people like that. In the past years I learned that those who complain the loudest have way bigger incomes as I have plus those who do complain are seldom in need (they always find some idiot who will feel pity for them and help them out).

i know what u mean, it just when u being support by other u just think that at the end of the month u will can the money as don't have to do nothing. since in collage i already used my own, so i don't ever try to ask them for money, because i know they already got their problem. i just don't want they to feel that i'm a burden for him. even during the collage i already work for my extra needs. hehe

I consider myself lucky. Until now I am still getting something from my mother. No I don't go begging from her but she has a golden heart. Even the present house I am staying now is a gift from her. I am one of her ten children. She is fair to all. What she gave to me are also given to my siblings. Sometimes God send us kind hearted parents but we should never take advantage of their kindness.

An important part of marriage is discussion and agreement of each person's contribution to the family. For me working was the best for all involved, if left to be housekeeper, mom and other stay at home worker drove my family crazy, as long as I had energy I was just to concerned with my homekeeping job. I would clean the floor two to three times a day, when you live in the country someone is always tracting in dirt. Once I went to work I was to tired to be so concerned with a little dirt. Only you and your Hubby can determine what is best for both of you.

ya for sure they can make up their own choice and they know how to decide about their future and they are very subtle too

I have thought about this myself. What something looks like on the outside is not always what it is on the inside. Many people will manipulate, seemingly provide for their children, complain, but yet they won't do anything to stop the cycle, because they want control over that person. Dr. Phil discusses this a lot on his program if you ever watch it. They are martyrs, seeking control, but then complaining about the situation and never really doing anything to fix it. They sabotage efforts, say hurtful things, and in general are grouchy and mean spirited people. It's like they don't know right from wrong.

Hi bluespygirl! I grew up without any support from anybody aside from my mother who did her best in order to send us to school. At an early age, I experience how hard it is if you don't have your own job and you are merely relying on other for your living. So I did my best to finish studying. My husband and I are trying our best to give our children their needs and I am happy about this. Even though there times that we really need to strive harder in order to make both ends meets, still the fact remains that everything that have now are products of our own hard work.

Some people born are born a queen and a king , even before they are born ,they are already rich. So lucky are this kind of people , they are really blessed but some abuse this for because of too much wealth they becomes a parasite. They no longer work , spend money for vices and whims of life. They forget the responsibility of preserving and conserving resources that are provided to them. It even made them irresponsible and lazy. Sad for this kind of people. They forget that not all are blessed as them. Some work night and day so to survive but still won't meet ends.

maybe the elderly parents are doing it to make their grandkids' lives comfortable, but it actually backfires in the end. what will happen when they get sick, need expensive and long-term care, then eventually die? maybe the wife should start saving money, economizing on daily needs, and find other sources of income as backup.

Hi bluespygirl, I understand your feelings and it is one good example how one misuse the thing which is easily available to him.

Partly this is true since your friend is having a good life- easy money from his parents that drives him to gamble and waste money. But there are people who knows how to save the money given by other family members and relatives. In my case, I will be very thankful if any of my relatives will support me or any of my kids- that I consider as a blessing.(wish there's one...hahaha)

You are definitely lucky to have a loving and considerate hubby, with his permission you can go back to work, in the present days cost of living is so high.. I am lucky to have Prof Bhuwan as my hubby, i was working as a lecturer for 2 years but later i left; as i was transferred to a far place. Thanks for sharing

Hi blue I can certainly understand what your concerns are. However I try very very hard everyday to not concern myself with where other people get there finances..There has always been a time when some had and some didn't have,,,there are people who have people in their families who can leave them some finances when they die... I have absolutely no control of that and so I can not concern myself with it...I would not be doing myself justice and it will be taking my mind away from what I could be doing to improve life for me and my family.. So many people have concern about this very subject...But so what..I truly just don't think onw would really know how they would react if someone paid their way.. I have never been in that situtation so I will not speculate about the unfamiliar to me.. I do truly believe in letting people be who they choose to be and do what they like...It may not be my way or your way of doing thing but why should we judge someone else's choices....

The person(your friend) if he is really wise he would have saved the money what he earn as his parents are sending him some money.The worst he is spending in gambling. If we have good money that doesnt mean we should gamble and spend in some useless works. Its the time to act wise and save some. Well some wives doesnt really need to work for the family but they do as they love it and also some really cant sit at home after doing the house hold work .That's a good one actually.

such fortunate people really, now I am envy... , but when will he realized that he has his own responsibilities. But life is like a circle, it goes on and on... It is just scary for the children (this son's children) because they might have problems adapting to the real world. I hope that their fortune and wealth is imperishable. I hope the children when turn to adult, will also enjoy the life that their father is having now.

I consider myself to be very fortunate that my mom has helped me financially. Without her regular support, and now support in a few things from time to time, I would have been unable to start my business. As my business is still relatively new, I don't have proof of income that I can use to get a loan. I need to buy a new house. I was prepared to wait a couple years before beginning to look, but my mom has offered to put the loan in her name and I would just pay the mortgage. In this way, I will be able to get in on the low house rates. It doesn't mean I don't work. In my line of business, not much goes on during the weekend, so that's my time to myLot and do paperwork for the business. Otherwise, I work 12-15 hours a day.