What's Wrong With Me?

When your husband loves you why doesn't he got your back? I don't think that anything is wrong with you! Look I tell you a short story After I got divorce I never wonne marry again but I met a man and fell in love with him he was also divorced had two kids and seven grand kinds. He ask me if I wonne marry him . I said no cause he deserved better. He was very sad and thought I don't love him so I tried to explain. I said you know I have seizures one reason why I don't cook or only once in a while when I feel like it. I am not the person that stands everyday behind the stove. Because of my health issues I can't work anymore the only income on my side is my disability. I am a smoker and I always will be that is not only expensive but he don't smokes. After his hard job he takes a bath gets dressed and works with beautiful models he is a photographer But he said your the one I love We are now five years together four we are married I didn't change my bad habits but he still loves me. People tend to talk about me cause of my style I am a gothic but he always has my back I can count me as a very lucky person cause his kids and the grandkids accept me they even arranged a gothic wedding I still don't know why he loves me but I know he loves me What I am trying to point out here is When someone would say something is wrong with me I could clearly understand that even my best friend says that But honey I really don't see anything wrong with you

I`m sorry, but although I would not have bothered with the things that your inlaws say about you, I would be very angry if my husband had said such things about me and I let him know that immediatly. If you ley it pass, things will never be the same with him. Confront him and have this whole conversation finished for good. In my isea, he owes you an apology.

You can never please anyone. And no matter how much you prove yourself to them, still, these people, with the kind of attitude that they have will always have something to say against you. Why? Simply because you are not like them. And since you are different from them, they have their focus on you. if I were you, I would not mind those people. They are not worth your time. Honestly, I have been through worst, and whether my inlaws and their relatives like it or not, I am married to their son and nothing else matters.

Hi Friend I guess the people surrounds you are just jealous. They can't do anything good to their own self so they are just trying to hate you and called you dumb. The important thing is that your husband loves you much. Don't believe them believe that you are worthy to him and to your family.

Well, what you can do is just IGNORE THEM! They feed on your insecurities and people like them are not worth to pay attention with. Just live your life without them being your biggest concern after all, these are just rumours and you yourself know the truth.

no ones gets to make you feel worthless and insulted if you'll not let them. the very thought that your husband took pity on you makes me think that public opinion matters to him most. Never ever doubt that you are lesser than them!!! the fact that they pick on your 'supposed' flaws is a testament to their insecurity. its hard to look at the person you criticize and see in them the lack in you. if you really love your husband them better confront him about how you really feel. he should never have insulted you and you should tell him so. have counseling together. never smoother the wound because it will pester and may be the end of your relationship. Goodluck!!

Unless your husband says your lazy, dumb and worthless I wouldn't worry about his family. You married him not them. Does he at least stick up for you when they say those things?

I think the second poster understands you so well, I think you should just leave those nasty talkers out of your life. don't tell them anything that is going on in your life. take care of you and your family.

You sure got yourself a very mean spirited new family from your husband side, there are obviously somethings wrong inside their head by saying you are lazy, dumb and worthless, if you or your husband really believe in their claims, then you will have to forever feel sorry for yourself, just forget about what they said, and ignore them, they don't deserve you wasting time to think about at all, so long as your husband is on your side and love you, you are still married to him, not his family, there is really nothing to worry at all. If it is possible, try to avoid them and live independently without your husband family along your household. They can go eat their shi* and suck their own toes without thinking about it anymore.

That is sad that your husband instead of siding on you have insulted you instead. I think he's just being pressured by his family's words towards you. I believe though that a good character when is always around with not good people are being influenced. I suggest that you don't accept those harsh words that your in-laws are saying about you. Do whatever is you know is right and above teach your children what is right too so that they won't get influenced by their relatives. Some people is just to lustful over money, fame and material things, to think those won't last, sooner or later.. those things will fade away, and nothing remains but whats the inside of our heart. You pray to God always that your life will remain righteous still in spite of the prodding you get from your in-laws.

Hi, There are some in-laws who are like that. If you can't give them money, they would not like you. Prove them that you are not like that. Ask your husband if you can find a job that would help you and your family. And it is not your fault that you have a "poor" life, maybe it is just a circumstances/challenge. Don't bother yourself to that thing. Soon they will realize what's your worth. Just be kind to them and prove them that they are wrong.

As the saying goes, out of sight ,out of mind. You are thoroughly tortured by your husband's family. I think you can tell your husband all about this and you together find a way out. or you will go insane for these insults.I suggest you move out and find your own apartment.

Take back your power and do not allow any negative remarks to change WHO YOU ARE. You are worthy to your family - and what they say about you are more important than anything other people says about you. Live a life of joy and laughter and let those horrible people see who you are. Focus on what you enjoy and stay away from negative people.