how to treat myself

I love listening to Dr.Demartini even just the free online videos on youtube, his name is John Demartini and he's really a person that knew how to overcome himself. He talked about Socratez, the greater thinker of our world: he said the secret is to Know ourselves, Study ourselves and Love ourselves. Learn from where that came from, no one have the answer but you. If you know yourself, no one actually can put you down.

It is so sad to know that you are still hurting from the past. I won't advice you to fall in love again but I advice you now to have a life, what I mean is you need to enjoy life and be happy. Happiness is a choice sweetheart. Don't be cruel to yourself. Anyone can be happy even without a partner. Find your happiness in your heart. True love will come your way...

hi, everyone will surely experience and encounter this betrayal,pain and even cheating by the partner,but while we facing this,it will make us more stronger for the next relationship we had,we all need to is to move on and forget and face the new life awaiting for us.

Okay, I've been through that but it didn't take two years. I was mad at my ex for cheating on me. but that only motivated me to make myself look more beautiful because I know I deserve a better guy. So be thankful that you are not in the clutches of your cheating ex any more. Show him you are happy and in love with a guy who is far better than him because that will be the best revenge you can ever give him. I've done this. And I'm happy with my boyfriend now for five years and my cheating ex is surprisingly still single and waiting for me to come back to him. The thing is I don't even care what my ex is up to any more. I'm just glad I found a guy who is worthy of my trust.

2 years? that's a long time. If I were you, you should open your door to love. The next guy may not be the right one but he'll be able to help you move on. Some call it as a rebound, if that rebound guy will hurt you it will not hurt as much as the first one. In time you'll be ready to fall in love again and be loved in return. Take care! :)

sometimes, it takes a long time to heal. but at somepoint u are going to have to start doing things again and move on its hard. sometimes the hardest thing to do but it most be done. there are many littlethings thast u can do that could help. like writting what u feel how u feel about the situation in a book. do something small for yourself everyday. like go for coffee. with a friend or by youself and read a book. write one thing that u like about yourself on the mirror every morning. before u leave. so that every time u look at the mirror window ect u see what u like and then you start looking at the good things and the bad thing in life. but al takes time and aot of effert on your part. but i belive that u can get through this. good luck.

I know how hard it must be. And I have been in that situation though much worse. It took me more about 5 years to really stop myself from crying over my first love. Although I did have a boyfriend after him, still I felt that the love I gave for my first love was way different. I think that the best way for you to totally get rid of the pain is to divert your attention on other things and remind yourself that there is still life after the last guy. We should not live just because of one person. There are other people who are much important and would give us importance. Just learn to let go and not be afraid to fall in love again. Love is such a wonderful feeling, why not make yourself happy again? You do not have to force yourself to love just anybody who comes along, but at least enjoy life as it is. The right person will surely come.

It took me 14 years to cure so give it time. As long as you think you are not cured you are not ready for an new relationship. You will not be able to return to the person you once was since you are not that girl anymore. You had life experiences and these experiences changed you. Which is normal. But I would advice you to write down why you feel betrayed and cheated (still feel that way). Since if it comes to feelings.. if you don't feel that way nobody can do it to you. Write down what exactly is bothering you, where those feelings are still there. Were you ever able to ventilate them? Did you ever get answers? Do you still need answers? Search for the positive things that came out of this bad relationship since there are surely things you learned from it, things you would never have learned if you would not have had this experience. Examine yourself, allow yourself to feel sad once in a while, feel pity with yourself but also tell yourself you are a strong person, a survivor, you took care of yourself not to accept that behaviour and pamper and love yourself to start with!

Two years is a long agony. It 's time for you to dust yourself. Pain is enough ! Moved on and explore the world. Go out from that world and make another new world. You deserve also the best in this world. Don't waste time for worthless thing , life is short , you need to enjoy it . Sail on friend , the ocean is wide .

I can understand how you feel. My bf betrayed me. It has been 3 months, but the memory always remainding of the past. It hurts me so deeply that I cannot recover from the past. When I see him with his new gf, I feel angry, I hate him. Hope we can face the future ang move on.~

When I broke my heart, I cried.. I cried again.. and I cried again... until I don't have any tears. and my eyes almost popped out the sockets. Then after that, I look so messy,I was so haggard, I was so bloated, everything swollen even my lips. I was so disgusting, my hair, so whatever and I look like a SH!T. Hmmm.. I looked at the mirror and found myself... so.. and so... and so again and again. I cried again, but still no more tears. LOL fine even my system doesn't agree with brain. I went to the parlor/salon, have my hair rebonded, colored it brown, manicure, pedicure, massage, hot oil, spending the whole day in the salon/parlor. I went out, such with bouncy, straight hair. my nails were just incredible, I felt better with the food spa and massage. Then, I walk home, I did not ride. I just want to walk... I have regained myself, I am now composed. and I feel so G@d damned. beautiful... Like Venus, the goddess of beauty and love. that's it. then everything is over. "Looking back, you realize that a very special person passed briefly through your life, and that person was you. It is not too late to become that person again." ~Robert Brault http://www.quotegarden.com/self.html