treat nice or treat bad?

You sound like a good, kind person, that's why this family member upsets you with his/her bad attitude.You should continue to be good - that's who you are. When you are alone with him, make time to talk to him about the things that upset you and how he hurt you with his attitude/behavior. Be honest and name a few incidents and say exactly how it makes you feel. Tell him that it is difficult to love him when he continues to be rude to you.

Just never stop doing good. Or should I say, be civil. I've encountered things like that even inside my family. What matters most is that you understand the situation and understand yourself. Just be cautious of what you're going to do and be careful not to offend them:). Think before you act. If they still do what they do, then ask them, talk to them nicely. Whatever comes in them, even if you feel like it isn't real, again, just understand yourself - see them as victims of their impulses:)..

If I were you, I will treat him nicely as he is a family. We can choose friends but we can't choose family. When we don't like a stranger,we can ignore him. But family are the people we can never ignore, whether we like or not, they are our relatives, we have blood relationship. Anyhow, when we treat the others well, we feel happy for that. Why mind the other things? Maybe if you try to find out his advantages you will feel better. Thanks for sharing!

I think you should still do good to him. I know it's quite difficult when you're doing good and he still doing bad in you, however you still consider that he is part of the family. Be careful too. God Bless