Figuring out if he's the one..
By roselavon025
@roselavon025 (133)
Philippines
December 3, 2012 8:34am CST
I've met a lot of people in my life. I met boys and be friends with some of them. I'm just wondering because, I have this certain friend of mine, a friend like no other who keeps in touch with me. And yet, we're only friends. There's no really other reasons for us to communicate, because we aren't workmate, we aren't neighbors, we aren't church mate and his lifestyle is way too different from me but we communicate and enjoy each other's company. What's funny is, I begin to like this guy. But this is all we are - FRIENDS -
I wonder if this makes sense:(.. Can someone tell me what to do. I don't want to fall in love and be left out..
6 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
That could be hard to deal with- to suppress the feeling you have for a person who only sees you as a friend. What could be the best way? Just be yourself and let things go as it is. I am not saying that you have to literally tell your friend that your falling in love with him. But be just the way you are and be the best friend that you are to him. Who knows, an angel might just whisper to him that you are one really special person that he needs to take notice.
@roselavon025 (133)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
lol, well, I won't tell anything unless he makes the first move. You're right, I'll just be the way I am and just be a friend:).. After all, we still have to get to know each other well..
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
I think that is would be a lot sweeter and probably memorable if he just notices you in a different way without you giving him any hint that you have feelings for him.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
3 Dec 12
You please wait and watch for few months. If you find that your feelings for each other have not changed and you still enjoy each other's company, then you could possibly think of next step, if you fee like.
All the best.
@al1979ex (125)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
if you're enjoying each other's company,then there's no harm to open up about your friendship. make a little introduction first before opening up, let's say you want to ask her a little personal and if he's fine with personal questions.
give him also a time to answer and just wait silently until he forms his answer to you (sometimes men pause before answering personal questions).
i hope he opens up to you also
@roselavon025 (133)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
I can say, we're not yet in a point where we know each other that much, but so far, I haven't heard and seen anything wrong about him, just a little cute;)..
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
Just wait for sometime till you are certain about your feelings.
Sometimes admiration can be mistaken as love.
It's hard to tell and you're the only one who knows what you really feel towards that person.
@roselavon025 (133)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Well, I guess, I'm still too far from the "love" thing..:)thanks.
@5mahi05 (666)
• India
3 Dec 12
wait for the life to answer these questions. Don't jump into conclusions just because you have started to like him. You might be drawn towards him because as you said he is different from you. And there is no way for you people to communicate, still you are in touch means, if I am not wrong, you could be in the initial stages of that natural way of admiration for people whom you meet randomly in life.
Now you will be enjoying each other's company because you are open to listening to the others world and their lifestyle and you are in all awe for the new things that you are getting to know about one another.
Just wait and get to know. Not necessary that the liking for someone needs to end up in love. it could also end up in a great relationship beyond names and ideal friends also like and love each other. Don't forget that too.
@roselavon025 (133)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Yup, maybe I like him, lol :).. Love and like are two different things, I'll remember that, thank you:)
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
4 Dec 12
Sometimes opposites do attract each other. I would sit down and really figure out what it is you are looking for in a loving relationship. What matters to you the most? Does faith matter to you? What about career? What about lifestyle? What about children? So, find out what matters to you the most and that is your criteria for finding that someone special. Otherwise, make sure you keep a healthy distance and remain friends. You will only break your own heart if you allow yourself to emotionally get involved with someone who does not share the same values and lifestyle as you.
@roselavon025 (133)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Yes, I still have to know a lot of things about him. Hmm... I can say, we are the same in some things, but then again, I still have to know him more:)..After all, we're friends. Thank you:)