Girl Friend To The Rescue
By cynthiann
@cynthiann (18602)
Jamaica
December 3, 2012 5:45pm CST
I have always stated that women need good women friends or girl friends.
Having been away from my home for nearly 8 months it was in a state of chaos. Especially the kitchen. So many things were missing or in the wrong place so I could not work out where anything was. I also did not know where to put anything. I just hate chaos plus I then have a new lady to help me in the house so she did not know where to put anything either.
Drastic action was called for but I felt so overwhelmed and did not know where to start. I felt if I just just get the kitchen area organised then I would feel that I had accomplished something.
So I called a GF Sunday night and admitted that I needed help and she said that she would give me four hours. She came at 8 amand made coffee and put me to sit in a chair. She took everything out of every cupboard/drawer and then my helper came and joined in.
They were marvellous.Every cupboard/drawer was scrubbed clean and then we were ruthless in what to keep or give away. My GF then reorganised the whole kitchen. It took four hours and that was with three of us working in unison.
We finished at 1pm so then I told her to get ready as I was taking her out to lunch! I oouldn't bear for the kitchen to get dirty
I felt so happy as I felt that I was in control again of my home. A lot more to do but a great start has been made.
Do you have GF's that would do come up to the plate when you needed them?
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Dec 12
That is a pity. Thinks: Would a parrot help?
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
The parrot would carry a seasoned muffin and a small flask of rum. Still no?
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
Yes it was as I had been feeling that I would never get started let alone get it done. But now it s all tidy and room to spare!
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
4 Dec 12
Yes I do, but I rarely use them because my house is a mess all the time and now that I am sick...Oy, I don't even want to be here...Of course they both, if they could, would take me to the doctor, but usually my husband wants to be there.
I guess I am also the friend on the flip side, both my neighbor's know I will dog sit anytime, (I am dog sitting tonight), or come over and help them clean their house when they have something coming up.
So yes, friends like that are hard to hard, but not impossible..;)
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
4 Dec 12
Aww, thanks.. I am slowly getting it done and will hopefully finish by tomorrow with my son's help...
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
That would be good although if we met - we would probably be chatting too much for work to get done
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
I wish that I could be there to assist you. I feel so much better now that the kitchen is organised and I now where everything is.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
4 Dec 12
Hi cynthiann! I know exactly how you feel! Although my whole kitchen
isn't a complete disaster I have the BF who puts things in places
and I can never figure out where things are when I need them! I
have to constantly ask him where is such and such and hope he
knows what I'm talking about or that he is even around when I
need whatever I'm looking for! It is extremely annoying to say
the least! So I can only imagine how you felt with an entire
kitchen in disarray. And I do have one GF that would help me
out, at least patiently and get the job done right! Hope you're
feeling better and able to enjoy your kitchen again~Leslie
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
5 Dec 12
It's so great to see you back here again. You certainly were missed! I don't
have a dishwasher either and don't love doing dishes and like to get them done
and out of the way as quickly as possible. Although, the BF is good about
helping out with the washing sometimes. If only he knew where I liked things
to go???
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
Hi Opal - I cannot tell you how good it felt to get supper last noght and breakfast for the twins this morning. I was in heaven and motivated to wash up quickly and put everything away in the correct place. I do not haver a dishwasher. I actually have extra space so this is so great for me. I hope that all is well for you too?
@marguicha (222994)
• Chile
4 Dec 12
My friends are very helpful too. The last time I painted the living and dining rooms, I invited my friends, make a big pot of food and handed them paint and brushes. They did the job in the day while having a lot of fun. And yesterday I wasn`t feeling well after Saturday`s party, so one of my friends came over and brought me gatorade and drops for my stomach ache.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
That is so kind. You really have some good friends. I have in the past, made a big pot of soup or what we call Saturday Soup' and friends have painted too. Isn't it wonderful to have good friends?
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
Now THAT is an example of not only true friendship but LOVE. You must be well loved by your friends and they know that yu would do the same for them too
@marguicha (222994)
• Chile
4 Dec 12
Sometimes our friends are even better than a good family, because they give you so much more than what you`d expect. When I had my chemo, my friends took turns to stay with me.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
Wow you have really chosen a good and helpful friends. That what friends are suppose to be to help when you needed them not only to take advantage of you. I hope that someday you can somehow manage to do the house cleaning coz you cannot always have your girlfriends around you. have a nice day!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
I am recovering from surgery and cannot lift anything heavy etc. I do have a lady who helps me 5 days a week but needed someone to organise and give me support.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
5 Dec 12
I may ask her to come once more but I am now employing someone to help me in the home. Yes, - I had complications so may take up to a year before I recover but I am on the way to recovery. Blessings
@al1979ex (125)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
yes we do have gf that also does the same thing with yours. thank the heavens for them! that's a true friend you have.. treasure her and love her.
but, if you mess up again your kitchen then trust they wont help ya, they helped you the first time but you have to be taught a lesson. that gf is teaching you
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 12
My energy level is low and I am fecovering from mega heart surgery. I was ff the Island for 8 months so it wasn't me that messed the kitchen. Blessings
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
Oh Lilybug, I wish you had a few close women friends as they can be a blessing. I really needed the elp as I cannot use my left arm too well but it is getting better and still, becaue of comolications, am barred from lifitng anything heavy or pushing or pulling. I feel so good now that it is done. Have you started the new job?
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
4 Dec 12
U are very blessed to have good friends like that. I'm soooo glad u ask for some help, i'm surprised u did but so glad u did. I believe i have friends that would come help me if i needed them to. Know u are glad to have everything back in it's place. I hate it when things are in a mess in my house. Love & hugs.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
5 Dec 12
Very few people in this world who comes forwards to help their friends This shows how much they are concern about their friends and friendship. No one knows in this world when we may required other person help. I can say friendship is nothing but the give and take in our life
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 12
I agree with you. We need friends in life and have to be a good friend to our friends too
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I have a handful of friends who are always ready to extend a helping hand. But I rarely reach out to them coz i know that they are busy with their own lives. So most of the time, I just deal with everything on my own.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
Thank you for your kind words. I had many complications but am getting better daily. Mostly lack of energy
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
This is what would have done or else asked my daughter but I am recovering from major heart surgery and physically just cannot do it. My GF was truly amazing and I am so appreciative for her efforts
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I see... I hope you are feeling better now after your surgery.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
5 Dec 12
my thats awesome dear Cynthie and I am glad you had your friend come to your rescue.
My old friends live too far away in my old hometown and I guess I would be apprehensive about asking the two nice new friends I have made by now in my new hometown to come and help me.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 12
Hou are such a sweet person that these new friends will soon become old friends and I am sure that they would be delighted to help you out in the future as they know that you would helo them
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
7 Dec 12
thanks so much dear Cynthie for your kind words. I dont make friends easily as I am quite shy but I try my best.
@somupriti (353)
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4 Dec 12
I don't know whether a woman should have always a woman friend to share his feelings. This might be a myth but friend is always a friend.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
5 Dec 12
Oh yes, but it was to do with house work and this is why I called a girl friend.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
5 Dec 12
When I read this, it teared me up a bit. I remembered my sisters who had been so helpful to me throughout the years. I have two sisters, they are both helpful to me whenever I needed an SOS, sometimes, since they are my sisters, even i don't signal through fire signal or through morse code they are here to help me. I miss them both now, because I am living in another country. They even celebrated my birthday with cakes, balloons and some food and posted photos in the facebook. I had a great time looking at the photos ... they celebrated without me? hahaha.. but it is okay, I know that it is really meant to them when i leave our place for work.
Yes, I have GFs that will come up when I needed them... cheers to us.. we are lucky to have friends. We are blessed
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 12
I know how you feel re sisters. I lost my favourite sister on October 2nd and I still can't wrap my head around the fact that she is really gone. She was magic and was there for me throughout my whole life.
Regretfully, I do not have the same relationship with my eldest sister - the only sister left - but I try so hard but all my life she has put me downn and patronised and criticised me. I do try very hard but she is also a drinker despite her poor health and this causes even more problems. I really want a closer relationship and do try but I'm not getting anywhere.
I am happy that you have good friends too. Your sisters sound so winderful. Love them while hyou are able
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
6 Dec 12
Yes I do. I do appreciate them while they are here or while I am still alive. though now, we don't see each other. hmmmm who knows I might give them a surprise this christmas. I might go home without them knowing it. if my money, time and work allow. i just love surprising them
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
4 Dec 12
We are very lucky we have friends like that, I have two.....one that lives close one that lives farther away but if I needed her she would come....then I also have two sisters that would do anything I needed...I bet its nice to have things organzied! And a clean kitchen! I do that too sometimes when I clean...go out to eat so I don't mess it up!
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
4 Dec 12
I need someone to do that to my kitchen! Shoot my whole house! My hubby can do things like that but he refuses to help saying it'll just get trashed again! But isn't that part of life? But you know it sounds like a good idea take everything put it in a box, clean out the spot were it was and if there's no room then I'll have to make room or find a home for it. I get all inspired but then get overwhelmed and give up on such things.
I don't have any friends to rely on. The one I thought I could rely on let me down and haven't spoken to her since.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
I'msorry that yu do not have a friend like this. Tell your hubby that thisis what cleaning is all about. It gets dirty then we clean it. I was totally overwhelmed and my energy level is still low. I felt totally overwhelmed by the thought of even starting. Just do one cupboard or drawer and make a game plan before as to where to put things. Mykitchen which is so small now has space!!! My GF was so kind. Just do one sectionat a time. Be ruthless though. Good luck
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 12
hi cynthian well I wanted to say yes but m y best friend is till working as her son has been out of work for ages.She is just9 years younger than me and I am 86 so
she has w anted to retire but he just is not finding a job. He trained as editor for movie trailers and was working in Burbank and in Hollywood then was laid off, got a part ime job as an extra editing film clips and when the people got caught up on the work they laid off all t he new help.the job situation here in S outheren California is horrible still. My son has a part time job thank goodness. I have my my best friend Nelda and a f ew friends here but in G old Crest we have all the housekeeping done for us. but we sure pay enough for it too.Without my social sec rity and SSI checks I would not be able to stay here. the monthly chareg eats up most of my checks . I have no ho use just a room shared with my roommate.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
5 Dec 12
You are truly wonderful to keep positive and not give up on life. I am sure that you do not like sharing a room though. This I would find hard to do but I suppose we can get used to many things of our attitude is positive. Your friend sounds like a wonderful lady and I wish her good health for many more years.
Of course, I no longer have my full time job but still work part time and this is working out okay as I visit the Villa when the twins are at school. I am sure you would have helped me if you lived closer. You could have sat in your chair and gave directions That would have been wonderful! Not too old to dream are we?
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
4 Dec 12
That's great! I'm glad you feel better about your kitchen.
None of my friends live close enough to offer me any help. I'm sure if I asked, some of my online friends would come to my aid in a heartbeat.. but none of them live nearby. Of those that do live nearby, they aren't really around much and I don't think I'd even bother to ask them for help.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
This GF is out of work with 2 adopted kids and a runaway husband. Her family helos but it is hard for her. She so enjoyed getting me organised and I appreciated the help. If I ever had the money then I would come whenever you needed help. Seriously. I have always felt such an affinity to you although I am old enough to be your mother
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 12
My three sons are now men and one lives with me with his 6 year old twins. Ifr the othes were around then they would have heloed. Am recovering from mega heart surgery and had so many complications But I am alive
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