How naive can women be?

I think it's not that women in general are naive, the problem is that when they have low self esteem so they'll want to believe in anything is laid before them, like a little desperate. But when they are true naive the problem is lack of experience. Romantic is good and cute, but being beyond reality can be very dangerous.

That's easy everybody can be had at some point. Heck, we are getting had right now getting paid pennys to write our tales off while the site makes big money. Women still dream of prince charming instead of looking at whats in front of them. Even 50 year old women still believe in that little girl's dream that they can find the perfect man. This makes them an easy target once he feels like that special someone, love is a foolish game sometimes that takes all logic out the window.

Hi Zandi! It appears bizarre that how some women fell to cheaters without fully verifying about them and their credentials. They are themselves to blame for blindly trusting online guys. As far as money matters are concerned, one should double check about the online (so called) friends before going for any money transaction. There is always a possibility of duping because if one has not verified the details of the guy on the other side, there would be no way to 'reach' him, if something untoward happens. Hopefully, those women would have learnt a lesson after they were duped. May God give them some wisdom!

DUH!!! is all i can say to women who can be that naive & i have a few more adjectives to describe them but will keep those to myself, lol.HI ZANDI, haven't seen u on in awhile , good to see u. I don't stay on mylot like i use to. The discussions have gotten soooooooooooo silly i can't find anything i want to participate in most of the time. I always loved your discussions. Hope all is well w/u.

I think that not only women fall for things like this, but men as well. But I am not lonely, but at one time there was someone I was dating when I was like 18 or 19 somewhere around there on the internet. And I think they almost had me. They were from another country and claimed to want to come to the US and asked me to send them money. He would charm me with his sweet charms and say how much he loved me and so on. But I never sent him the money, but I believed his words and thought that maybe it was true love and thought of sending money. But eventually I see that he was trying to scam me out of some money and so he tried everything he could to get me to send him the money but I never did. But anyway, I would like to say that you made a good discussion and that you were able to warn many women out there who could be falling prey to something such as this or anyone for that fact. Like I said I think not only women can fall for this, but maybe men as well.

sad to say that women are trusting creatures. usually hopeless romantic. What sadder is there are a lot of men take advantage of their vulnerability. and Yes, sometimes desperation. and stupidity too. They should figured out that something is wrong, when a person you don't ask money from you. arrrgh.. such what love can do. Yes, there are lots of these incidents and many women are buying it.

This just goes to show that the person we fool the most is ourself. If we can just make the smallest part of our dreams come true we take a chance.

Wow! RM 50 million losses to on-line Casanovas, it sound like our African brother out there are making huge fortune by stealing from those lonely women looking for on-line love in Africa continent. May be they are just bunch of dreamers that can afford to lose, and don't mind a bit at all. For an outsiders, you are seeing these women as victims by those African men from the $$$ sign perspective, but for them, may be it's well worth their time and money. Sometime you just can't tell what is inside their head, they just transfered money over to them as told without a doubt, may be these African men had perfected their black spell and international cheating heart con game, their women victims trusted them whole heartedly. I can never understand the under line logic why they are so easily fallen prey to that, i am sure these African men are extremely charming fellows to be able to put up something like this on-line n making these ladies handing out their money in big sum. May be you are too smart, that is why you find them not appealing at all for a cent, i assume not all women are created alike.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, Well, your observation on the subject truely reflects your well hearted feelings for such ladies. But I think these ladies themselves are to be blamed, what I could get is caused by their lonliness, this lonliness could be converted into great bussiness like following path of Mother Tersa, why they go to cuber/Internet and get cheated alround. Apart from this, I also observe, taht these Ladies have been prone to dis-satisfaction on many counts and fronts in their life. Being a retired soldier's wife, there is used to be big gap due to my hubby's duty, I used to devote my time in quality reading/knitting/bringing upmmy children etc. I never had any spare time. This may be correct taht habvinmg lot of money and neglected by their spouse and family, they sort to this way of living. Five years back , my hubby used to get lot many Lottery winniong notifications including from Reserve bank Of India, we should never get lured by such culprits. I theink they should spend time in social activities. May God bless You and have a great time

Zandi, how are you now? Sometimes, love matters can brings a lot of trouble into our life if not being taken care well. Friends are easy to be found but real friends are hard to be found especially soul mate. That's why, it is always important as not to easily trusted any friend that we find through online site. Most of the men in dating site is looking for unsuspected victim. It is always important as not to easily trusted any thing that being said by newly found friend through online site. It is always worth to be careful in everything that we are doing.

This is a good post. Right now I have people in my life so I am not lonely but I do wonder if I will become one of these women too. Maybe it is time for women to take care of women who feels lonely. I think it is time that these kind of men stop taking advantage of women. I believe only women truly knows what another women feels, most man do not know and do not care.

Well they are either extremely desperate or extremely stupid. The minute anyone asks for money from you that is a signal that it is a scam. Money is sacred. Look, I am sure millions of people flirt online, and thats fine. But the minute some one asks you to transfer money to them the breaks should be put on. No way. Men and women alike are being taken advantage of online. Like any other criminal, I would like to lock these predators up for life.

Hi, The friends which seem to be honest and trust worthy, may not be at all honest and trust worthy. The men and women, who make or try to make some relation are fakes. Their names, addresses, country etc all are fake. They are cheat. We must be careful while making any relation or passing any personal information. Thank you for initiating such a nice post.

Yes women are very trusting and I especially am. Thankfully I am grounded and rooted and committed to my marriage to my husband so I don't fall prey to these men online but I have had girlfriends that have. I try to warn them but they just dont listen. I make a firm stand about not sending money online for anything. If Im going to buy something I get it locally and all these sites that talk about paying this or that to make money please, please don't fall for it. You should never pay anything for a job. I only wished that more women had more sense.

Yes, it is sad to think that so many times there continues to be yet women still today so desperate for Love and attention that they will try and find it online. Or people who do not heed all the warnings about when someone comes to them offering money or wanting money, STAY AWAY. It is continuing to happen to people everywhere no matter where you live, and not just the older ones for sure. The word needs to continually get out there to STRAY away from people trying to offer $$ online especially when you do not know them.

Hullo Zandi I t is a long time since I saw you in a discussion.I am pretty inactive here, so I may have missed some post of yours.It is a good discussion topic especially for vulnerable people.This makes me thankful for the kind of 'conditioned upbringing' many of our Indian girls and boys have. Here the family cohesion and parental control are by and large better; but nowadays things are getting diluted here too and it is the bane of advancement.