Friends Become Foes Because Of Different Faiths
By lsjapdoit
@lsjapdoit (651)
Indonesia
December 4, 2012 1:43am CST
It is sad for me to see some of my friends become foes just because of their different faiths. Again it is only some, not all, of my friends do that. It started with a general discussion about terrorism, how it brings fear to people, how it threatens world peace etc. The discussion then somehow widened to the faith the terrorist claims to fight for. Some friends were for and some were against, as usually expected in any discussion. The discussion came to an end eventually and we all went home. When we would like to arrange another social meeting again however, some rejected to come. The reason was simply they didn't like the other friends who didn't see their point of view the other day... They became foes from then on. People have freedom to believe what they believe, to walk the path they want to walk. I myself see differences in faith and anything else make the world colorful and beautiful. Differences should unite people, not disunite them. I myself don't understand why some of my friends become foes like that. I wonder if you have similar experiences, and what do you do to help make foes friends again?
7 responses
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
26 Dec 12
It is not the healthy friendship. And if so then forget them and broke all the relations with them. Nothing comes in between a true friendship. A friend in need in a friend indeed. So sad to read about the incident you have faced but never mind its a part of the life. Have you noticed that all the fingers of our hand a re equal? no know it is like that only. So never get disturbed, have faith on a God and everything will be smooth soon.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 12
To me they are all friends and they have no problems with me either. You said it right roshigo58, nothing should ever come in between a true friendship :)
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
4 Dec 12
Hi a lot clubs I belong to we have one rule
no relgion or politc talks at club functions and it
does work, with my expriencee so far good one my pass
boos is muslim Indian (spell wrong) and Im jewish
very good guy he got me rasie to $9.00hr
we both work mcdonalds he gave full time
we joke with each other, were other people might think we did not like
each other as friends but he was like a brother
that how we aruge for fun,sorry my spell checker not working
other co worker ask how come we are agueing, we both said
in a joking matter when do you a jew and muslim not argue
we both said it at the same time,what we argue about
was I allreay had my hours in and he kept saying I did not
so thank to him i got over time ok have a good day happy holidays if you have any comming up.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 12
What a beautiful relationship you have there with your boss eagletrek2 :). That's exactly what differences should do, unite people.
@portisray (503)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Of course we have different ideas and opinions... If they cannot accept to what you think..what else is there to say???
A friend can understand you for what you are... your beliefs and opinions...
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 12
You are absolutely right portisray. Some people understand that the first time, some just need time to eventually accept that as a fact.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
4 Dec 12
hi,
I can understand the worst happens during such discussions. which we never expect. Common among friends. Everyone has their right but they should not turn negative because of different views on some issues. They should realize this. We should learn to respect everyone views that's what life is all about.
I have similar experiences. But i never took them serious and respect their views as well.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 12
My friends have no problem with me because I respect their beliefs. In my opinion it's actually differences that make a discussion colorful. Do not, however, let differences break friendship. You have a point prashu228, my friends must have taken differences too seriously.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
4 Dec 12
If people cannot accept each other for who they are, what is then left? It's sad about what happened to you. Let me tell you how we do it: I am a Christian and have a couple of Muslim friends. I know they do not agree with my believe and visa versa, therefore we choose not to get into debates where feelings may get hurt. It works for us...
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 12
I agree that we should not get into debates where feelings may get hurt. Our discussion was actually a general topic about how bad terrorism was. It then widened to different beliefs and some friends got too carried away :)
@Kaiser_Soze (29)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 12
Zealous beliefs are for non-educated fanatics, so nobody needs such friends. If ppl are from different religions they still can be friends, if they are smart enough not to be fanatics.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 12
I agree. There are educated as well as non-educated fanatics everywhere around us. I guess fanatics also have their freedom of choice whether or not they want to learn to appreciate others' different point of view.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
4 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well it was very bad to hear about this incident and i know u must be disappointed after this. I think we all have our personal opinions but that should be kept to a particular limit and should not allow it to dominate others and our relationships. If it does then it will create altercations, disagreements and misunderstandings between the people.
I would like u to give them some more time and then may be u try to initiate and talk to them individually and ask them to forget whatever has happened.
What say?
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 12
I guess you are right subhojit10, they were over their limits. It was obvious they tried to dominate the others in their arguments. Hopefully over time they will realize that their friendship is worth maintaining. They still can be friends like always and still stick to their own different opinions about things.
