I want only A child not a Husband

Don't you think that would be a little unfair to the child? Growing up not having a father? It's true that there are lots of failed marriages, but that doesn't mean that yours will also fail. Do try to consider what's best for your child.

My friend why you are thinking about what has happen in other people married life? Without any experience being married to someone you will not understand what the married life is and specially what your Husband is? Don't judge your married life or life on the basis of what other says or what you see around. When you get married see that you both have the confidence, love, trust and feeling for each other, this is because all these factors will help you out to lead a happy married life and good relationship too.

I think your's is a very weird thought. Just because your parents are like that or your friends are like that doesn't mean everyone should be like that. There are guys who love their wife more than anyone infact more than himself. You just can't generalise all people. Once you get married just love your husband more than anyone and I am sure he will give you back double or even more times love.

I understand your concerns but only YOU can change it. Not all marriages fail. I can tell you my husband and I will never fall out of love with each other. We have been married for 8 years and he is the love of my life. If you work at it and want your marriage to last it will! I don't think its right to have a child without a father for the child as well...

There are ways for this desire, you can have a child by adopting. There are many orphan children who need mother, you can be mother of anyone, a son or a daughter. You can have other ways if you want to experience pregnancy.

hi i think you have seen so many unhappy relationships that it has made you feel like you don't want a husband.i am sure if you met a nice man it would change your thinking.when you get a child even if its through adoption you must learn to love that child and this is just the same measure of love you could give your husband.there is also the risk of the child's father wanting parental rights in future,try weigh your options but try and give your heart a chance to love.

I agree! I knew at a very young age I didn't want children Or marriage. I know it wouldn't work for me and I Still feel that way. You have to follow your heart. Good Luck.

But you have to understand that your child will leave you when he/she grows up. He/she will have his/her own family and life. At that time you will realize that it is important to have a husband because he is the one who will grow old with you. Besides, it is not easy for a single parent to bring up a child. And it is also not good for his/her growth yet. Because father and mother all have their own advantages and disadvantages.

If you treat him right, you are more likely to have that husband around in your old age than a child. Children grow up, go away to school and frequently marry someone from a different part of the country. I have two children. Although we are on the best of terms, they have their own problems, such as children of their own. Our son did come running (actually drove 95 miles) when I got so sick that I could not stand. However, he could only stay long enough to get me settled in the hospital. Then, he had to go back to his job and his children. Our daughter would love to live close so that she could check on us frequently, but she lives over a thousand miles away, works two jobs, and has a husband and two teenagers to take care of. Besides her immediate family, she has to help care for her husband's mother and grandmother (who has Alzheimer's disease). Both my husband and I have chronic diseases, but we have to take care of each other.

Never think that all guys are the same. If your parents and your friends and all your relatives' marriages ended up on separation- maybe your fate is not the same. But if you think you really doesn't want to get married and only want a child...then how could you do that? Will you ask someone to sleep with you till you get pregnant?

This is why I HATE IT, HATE IT, HATE IT when people whine about 'people's "right" to get married for love'---because there IS NO SUCH RIGHT! My holy book describes the wife as a "help-mate"---her 'reason for living' is the husband, who needs children because ... they are ONE of the fruits you & he bear. It's sad how poorly you define love---limiting it as you do to that newly-met feeling of mind-stimulation set off by your new lover. True love is something like 'being reliable.'

Maybe you can adopt one.. but remember all kids need both moms and dads in their lifes. very important to consider that.

Don't think to much of what happened to your parents. The only thing you have to do is that make the best out of your life. Whether you choose to have a baby or to have a husband and also a baby. Whenever you are happy go for it. What happened to your parents will not happen to you anyway. It's a matter of choice. :)

Hello, You wanted to have a child only because of the trauma given to you by the separation of your parents. You know don't close your heart to love. Love is so wonderful. Having a child is a nice. But it is better that you have a company/partner in taking care of your child.

hi iamJB7, i think it is still too early for you to decide your final path to be in this way. you may slowly take your time to look around and find your true love, someone who will love you with all his heart. you shouldn't have worry about this too early and must not take others' experience and failures as your guidance. you are the one taking charge of your love relationship and you are able to make a difference in which others failed to do so. others' failure doesn't makes you a failure too. believe in yourself and God who created you.

I had that thought too when I was younger, but I knew that chances of getting employment in many places would be nil if you are not legally married and you have a child. Society is quite harsh when it comes to things like this. There is such a thing as a good marriage. There are a lot of happy marriages, so don't close your door to this. Who knows?

But if the child is in between husband and wife then try to solve the problem because child needs both father and mother. For child we should sacrifice some thing.

that is quite bizarre because husband is life and it turns out in the form of a child and i dont understand the reason for your deteste at any stage

We don't have children for what they will be able to do for us. If you want a child, you need to go into it expecting nothing from your child. We love our children unconditionally. Forever. This means no matter what they do or don't do, we're our child's supporter. We're there for them. Not the other way around.

You know you can't tell what tomorrow will happen. Who knows you'd find a husband you will stick with you no matter what the circumstances are. To have a baby is good but come to think of it. It would surely affect the baby's life somehow if she/he will grow up without a father image. But if it turns out bad being with a man, if it turns destructive rather than constructive living with the husband you can always move away, right? So it is just a matter of courage and don't let fear succumb you for the things that is isn't there yet/.