With time our relationship with our children changes...

Kiran, you are right. People change physically and mentally with their age. Parents should understand their children are growing. Their thinking and liking are changing. Parents should understand this and behave with them accordingly. One can realize his/her children's mental change if he/she remember own past.

As parents, all we ever wanted is what's right for our children. I'm sure that the mother you mentioned here meant no harm but having said this doesn't mean that she must decide for her children when the latter are in the right ages to carry out their own decisions. The way we should deal with our children should depend on their age and level of maturity. I agree with that 100%. Parents like me should always remember that it's not about us but should always be about our children. Nurturing them as they grow for own benefits is not right. We should respect their freedom. As our children's mentors when they turn to adulthood, we can only guide them in their decisions when solicited but we can never impose. So when the right time comes that our children are matured enough to decide on their own, both on the level of maturity and the capacity to enter into agreement as prescribed by law, then we should let them decide on their own so that they will continuously grow. On second note, parenting is not an easy job. In fact, it's a 24/7 job, thus, I salute all parents who sacrifice a lot for their children's sake so that they will grow up righteous in the eyes of God.

Hello Kiran ji, it is right that with time our relation with all are changed. It is better to say that priorties are changed. When children became matured or after there marriage their changed because their priorties are changed. If parents adjusted with them no problem will rise. But parents are too must possive, they don't like to share children with any one.

As time pass our children from their childhood they put their step into adult and then they too become parent like us. When our children are in their first stage as Kid obviously they listen to their parent, share their views, ideas with the parent and when they grow, they do share some of their ideas with their parent but most of their ideas they prefer to share with their friends. But once they get married and begin their married life they always prefer to share everything with their life partner and they avoid sharing anything with their parent. And this circle continue as there won't be end to it as such forever

She must allow her son to move and live his life alone. I think it is a positive sign for her son because he has already that sense of self independence. I adore those kind of person who can stand on their own and can decide on their own without leaning to their parents when they are already a mature person.It is normal and the mother should embrace that changes with her son and just always there to support him.

Sometimes, it is hard for parents to understand that their children have grown up. They spend years investing their time and effort, and yes, their hearts into raising their children. And then, all their children want is to be independent and fly out of the nest. It can be hard for parents, especially mothers, to let go and give their children their wings. This mother needs to develop her own interests, take a vacation, learn to paint, and enjoy life on her own. She will have a better relationship with her now, independent children if she is also independent.

Hi Kiran, I think most of the parents treat their children as small even after they grown ups and become adults. I felt the parents must change their attitude and should realize their children become adult. They have their own individuality, likes, dislikes and opinions. If we force them for anything, the parents become bad in their eyes. It will be better to accept their likes and decision, if there is any drawbacks the parents can point out it then ask them to make a decision by their own. Here the case mentioned by you, I can understand the mother's feelings still I felt she must accept the changes in them and give priority to her children's wishes and happiness.

I am also a mother and I understand your friend who only wants to protect her children. Yes, kids grows in due time and think matured. Kids think it is time for them to live independently- and that is good (that's my opinion) I want my kids to live as independent than stay as childish. Because, life is uncertain- I want my kids to stand firm when it comes to their own lives- just in case I left them (when I die) I know they are secured and they know what is wrong and what is right when it comes to decision making. That gives me assurance they can go on with their life without me around.

Kiranji You reminded me of the verse in Sanskrit that i read in high schools, it says you have to take care of kids, fulfill demands till age 3; next control them guard them, punish them till age 5; but once they are 16 years old; you must behave as friends.. Many don't realize this and think the kids as 'kid' a 'baby' always; this creates difference of opinion, ends in sadness

If only we could stop time and let our kids be children all their lives.... But reality knocks us with the truth- that no matter what we do, we have to accept change. And that change can be an easy transformation if we are open to the idea and be happy to whatever decision that our kids will make. Even if we don't want to, we have to.

Yeah I'm sure that it is hard for most parents to accept this. But that is why we raise our children. We want them to grow up and be mature and make good decisions for their life. We never really know though how all that will feel unless we come to experience it ourselves from our children.

I agree with you that people just have to move with the times. When children have grown up into adults, surely the mother does not hope or expect that the mindset of her children would still stay like when they were kids. The mother has to grow with her children and respect them as adults who are capable of making their own decisions based on their own judgement now. It is good that the mother is having you to discuss it and be advised. Some people may not see it so clearly because they are just too close to the scene. It will do them a world of goodness if someone could just point out the obvious to them.