Oh my! It hurts! Do I nee to be single forever after that depressing experience?

When you love some one from the depth of your heart such feeling do comes up but my friend why you have to be so serious? You may think to say so for me it is simple but for you it is very difficult since it is you have fallen in love and got hurt and not me. Look at the life with open eyes. You there is eclipse that comes once in a while that too for few hours and then everything comes to normal. Same way thinks such eclipse had come into your life and gone. So look forward for better and bright tomorrow and I am sure one day such a girl will come into your life who will love you instead of you loving her. Keep my words everything will be fine in your life.

There is nothing wrong with being single, I enjoy it but it's not for everyone. You should take a break from being in love and enjoy being by yourself. Once you enjoy being alone, any relationship you have will be even better. Plus, you need to examine why your love left and figure out how to prevent it in the future. If you don't, you'll get your heart broken again and again. We have a lot of relationships before we finally marry in order to learn how to maintain a lifetime commitment. If you don't look at your role and learn from your failures you will never be happy with anyone. Good luck to you!

Hi Alias_Paul and welcome to my lot. God created all of use to have someone special in our lives so don't give up. Each and everyone that is born goes through everything that anyone else goes through. I know it must be hard on you right now but God created a special person for you so keep your eyes wide open and pray that God sends this special woman to you as soon as it is HIS will and it won't be long before God will send you some special woman to you. I have been married and divorced several times and none of them seemed to be the right one. One day I met that special someone in the one place that I never would have thought. I am 58 and just found that special one that will share my life forever. I asked God if I had done anything right in my life that God would give me this special someone. It has been going on 6 years of this marriage and it is just as special as the very moment we met. So turn all your life over to God and your prayers will be answered. Believe me but don't take my word for it trust in the LORD and you will see for yourself.

1 Corinthians 7:15 If the unbeliever leaves, let her do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. If she left you then you should be happy because you're no longer committed thus she will regret for living you one day.

i know its really hurt when you love someone, but she/he did not love us. but still there is a lot other woman u can find. maybe she is not the right one for u. don't make drastic thought like this. u will never know, when the time is come, u will find her. the one God made for u my friend don't give up because of 1 rejection u get

No way, staying single forever. Are you kidding? Anyway, it's quite impossible not getting involved in it again. It just happens. Life is so beautiful, it deserves to be lived and not put aside. Love is the most wonderful thing on earth. You'll be disappointed many other times. But this is not the reason to give up. You'll surely find your other half and you'll have an amazing love story. So take what comes to you and just enjoy.

These things happen for a reason, you may not realize it at the time when the pain is so raw and tender, but in years to come you will realize that this girl wasn't for you. You weren't meant to be together, it also frees you up to find someone else, I think you are being a touch pessimistic thinking you will be single for ever. Personally I don't see anything wrong with being single and it shouldn't be a stigma to be single, I love being single, I wouldn't have it any other way. When I was younger I would dream of having a relationship, I have had two disasters of relationships, now I wouldn't dream of not being single. Time is a great healer, a cliche I know but it's true. You will move on and get over her. Just be kind to yourself. It's one of life's experiences we have to endeavour and learn from.

For me, it's very interesting to face heart broken. It's a nice melancholic feelings. I always remember my fail love and I always get motivated by them. You don't have to feel sorry for that, it's a good experience for you. I would advice you to go ahead with what you doing now and make improvement to yourself. Actually you could overhaul yourself to find out the reason why she refuse to accept you. Then make improvement on your weaknesses part if you can. If cannot, just accept it as you are. My second advice is to look at love breakup as an opportunity for you to look for a better one. I always told myself, if I fail with my present lover, I will for the replacement younger than the left one. I think I have answer the same way in one members question here in Mylot. My first lover say 25 years old, if she left me, I will look for more younger one. At last, now I have one that 14 years younger than me. If this one also end up with breakup, I will look for the one 20 years younger than me.

Breaking up is never easy and it is natural to feel hurt for a period of time. However, like all open wounds it will need time to heel where the pain will be eased and gone away. I know you are familiar with every encouraging word from your friends, peers and even family members. But, you need to realize that all of us have memories that could never be easily erased like our computer hard disk. Like scars of all healed open wounds, memories will reappear every now and then. So, it is important that you need to remember this and let your consciousness of the scar subside with time, too. As for your future, I don't think anyone including yourself could tell what it would be like and whether you will enter into another relationship again. However, I am sure another door will be opened for you and it will be up to you to enter it or not. So, whether you remain single or not is really dependent on how you decide when the opportunity and choice arrives. There's another area which will involve yourself and that is for you to open the floodgates of your life to allow back the opportunities for yourself. Breakup is not the end of one's social life and definitely not a lost. It is simply another traffic light at one of our life's crossroad which needs us to stop and require us to change our directions on a planned destination. It is not a lost considering the experience the both of you have gained, learned more about one another especially yourselves on what you actually believed and loved. Sometimes, this is where I always disagree with people when they take that they have lost everything when they breakup. So be open and remember that in love, we can give without loving but we can never love without giving.

Oh, you should not stay single forever. I guess she's just the wrong girl for you. I hope you'll find Ms. Right soon so that you'll be happy. You have to realize where did the relationship go wrong. You have to change yourself for the better. I guess you've learned something from your relationship. I hope you'll not do the same mistakes again next time. For the meantime, enjoy being single.

Hi friend, I am also in the same situation. As I said I cannot beg her to love me even though I did. But now I have decided why should I disturb/irritate her if she no more loves me. But that doesn't mean that I stopped loving her. In fact even now, I love her more than anyone. Therefore I have decided to stay single forever in my life. Only she said to me that she doesn't love me but still I love her and will be loving her only. Anyway it's my opinion dude. I am not good to advice. Do whatever you think is good for you.

Definitely not, alias_paul! Your happiness should nit depend on that particular person. So what if she is no longer with you? So what if she does not love you like the way you do? Life isn't over yet. You still have a big life ahead of you. Don't lose hope on love. the right person will come at the right time.

strange it hurt and I did not know what to say. maybe I'm hurting this feeling and I can only put in place a person at this time. it's nice to have a father and a man who can tell Dad but should not forget what is the real father, namely to care for the child because anyone can make a baby but not everyone cares for their child. nice day!

a big NO! dont let yourself be doomed by putting yourself in singleness. live your life to the fullest.. move FORWARD.. you deserve to be happy. you deserve something better. someday you'll thank God for making this things happen to you. just keep your faith high.

For right now, you need to stay single. In time, the pain will lessen somewhat, and you can let it be known that you are available.

Well I've been single for 35 years. I can't imagine having someone else around. As for you, well just keep doing good, and working hard, and I'm sure someone will come along. Just don't go for an easy girl. Easy girls will ruin your life. You'll wish you were single, if you get an easy girl. Go for the ones worth fighting for. As for me, single for life! :)

You got a haircut, and your once-long hair is now short ... OH NOOOOOOOOO! The solution: let it grow back out. With the singleness problem, a slightly-different solution: Let it /GO\ back out! (i.e. let it go & go back out) I have a friend who told me (and told me his wife knows too) that--while he DOES love his wife--if she gets in the way of his work, she's gone! Maybe she is doing this for you, she loves you TOO MUCH to 'put the crimp in your style' as she would if you turned from your work to make sure she's satisfied. (Or is that 'cramp'?) Point is, you're not "single" nor "plure" (of "plural," like 'single' is of "singular" I guess ... a word whose history-roots I might "search" for); you're (I know it sounds 'campy,' but here it is) 'a child of G*d'---which means not so much "you're his kid" as it means 'he sent you to fulfill a part of his Kingdom.' If you're sure what 'your part to fulfill' is, then that's all you need to focus-on. If there is a 'help meet for you' (as the Bible calls Eve for Adam), you will find her by fulfilling your part in the Kingdom. That's partly why I'm still single---I'm not sure if I "do" anything, so being my wife would be like 'tying water in a knot.' Another reason lots of couples meet on the job.

Hello and I am sorry for what you have been through. (HUG!!!) I've been there too so I empathize. :-) Like you, I decided to move to a different location so I could begin my life again and not have constant reminders. I also had the right people to help me. For the time being, I'd say stay single but hang out with friends. Many people try to date soon after a break-up and find themselves in a relationship for the wrong reasons. Keeping reasonably busy and staying sociable does help people to stay connected for the right reasons. When you feel its the right time, start meeting some new people; perhaps double date so you can get some feedback from people you know and trust. Hang in there and you will meet the right person. Took me a while and I did.

Find time to heal. I've read in one article that the time you heal should be more or less equal to the amount of time you were together with that previous love. Don't hurry to find relationships. Let love find you. You don't have to be single you know, If you just become single for the rest of your life because you are afraid of getting hurt, then I pity you and I will officially call you a wuss. I was through a heart break before and didn't seek relationships. I was glad to be single and free. I love being single but there was a guy who confessed to me and I liked him so I started a new relationship with him.

WELCOME TO MYLOT. I can't understand how and why you should even think of remaining single for the rest of your life.You were married.Then something went wrong and you decided to snap relations with your husband.It must be a nightmarish experience,but certainly it is not the end of your life.You must have got wiser having undergone that bitter experience.Now that you know what poisoned your relations,you can go for another life partner for you.Life is full of ups and downs,my friend.And you can learn from both.My best wishes.Get yourself prepared for a better life.