Retaining people in your life

Yes we do have to retain that quality. But there are lots of people that are extremely deceitful. And they show one side of them which turns out not to be who that person really is. I have seen them all. I am an observer. I watch and listen, always. And I have learned to see people in a negative first before I see the positive. That way I am protecting myself. I always give the other person enough rope to hang themselves. Then after I find out that the person is trustworthy, then I will deal with them.

As I journey in life, I meet different kinds of people... people come and go. Meet and go again, this is what journeying means after all. But as I journey I don't just attract people the life by full quality. That will be too difficult and very tiring. I make sure that the people I will meet would know, take and accept who I am. That's also what I do see to who they are. As I walk in this journey, i don't tell people hey stay with me, they are free to go ahead or stay behind. Fortunately, a few remain walking with me, and knowing me more and as I know them more too. Some will be a little late, but they were able to cope with the walk. I may only have very few friends, but they are special to me, for they have journeyed with me as I have journeyed with them. [b]Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving. Albert Einstein [/b][b][/b]

I personally don't like attracting people... I have few important people in my life & I'd rather keep it that way... I don't go out of my way to turn down a friendship if someone offers or try to put people down... But at the same time, I don't go out of my way to meet new people either... Because of my job, I do meet a lot of people but I keep that strictly on professional level & try hard not to make it personal... And it's been working fine for me... And I don't try to retain people in my life either... For me, it's always better if they stay in my life on their choice & for who I am instead of what I do... If they agree with my choices & the way of my life, they'll stick around without any efforts on my part...

I better have few people/friends with me who trust and believe in me because I am me, rather than pretending to be a goody goody person. I can't stand pretending...take me as I am, or never- that I do not care.

I dont think we need to attract people; if we are good; people will get attracted automatically, am i right?

so you mean it's better not to show who you are?