They are just things
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
December 7, 2012 4:11pm CST
I've heard of people talking about the fact that they lost a lot when they lost their homes for whatever reason. It could be fire, a foreclosure or eviction or whatever other reason that you might lose your house. However, when they are showing the positive sides of themselves, they will say and honestly mean it that the things that the had lost were just things and they really didn't mean a lot to them.
Now me, I think that there are a lot of things that I have that I could stand to lose if we were to face one of those terrible situations. However, there are other things that I don't think that I would be able to survive losing.
For me, if I was to lose everything that I had, I would have to admit that I would really miss having all of the pictures that I've taken of the children throughout their lives and the few pictures that I have from when I was growing up and also my stuffed lamb "Lila" that my father gave to me on the last Easter that he was alive.
What about you all, would you be able to stand losing everything that you owned, or would their be some things that you would be devastated to lose? Share your thoughts with me please!
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25 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Oh, of course, my children and my pets would be the very most important. However, if it came down to choosing some thing that I wanted to save, it would be those things that I mentioned in the initial complaint.
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@sriroshan (2585)
• India
8 Dec 12
You are correct for each person there is different meaning and closeness to what they say "They have lost a lot". Like you for me also what is belonging to me will be more important, if I lost them, since it has lots of love and feeling hidden in those things which will be remembering me a lots if I lost it.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I think that is the reason that I wouldn't be able to withstand the loss of those things that I mentioned. Honestly, I would be able to survive it, but I would mourn for those things just like I would mourn for a loved one that had passed away.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
8 Dec 12
It depends on how long I would have to work to replace them. For instance if I have my photos on my laptop, iPhone, or iPad and my flash drive, Icould get them out of the house before the fire emerged. But sure could not move the piano, the piano books, my books, css, and as for the tv and dvd player, stove, washing machine, it would be impossible and even with the insurance, to save for them, I would have to go without eating , buying new clothes. I can see living until my late 90s but not to 120 years which is probably the time it would take to replace those items.
Now if the 2nd Coming would happen on the 9th of December 2012, then it would be a different story.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Dec 12
I guess it depends on whether it was easy to make the money to buy the computer or not. Plus the other things in the house, make what was handed down by your parents or grandparents.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Dec 12
Oh, I can guarantee that a replacement computer would be the very first thing on my list of items to replace.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
For me to be able to save all of my pictures, it would just be a matter of grabbing my two external hard drives. Honestly, I wouldn't be that upset about my primary computer because I know that it could and would be replaced. The important stuff is on the externals, not the computer itself.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 Dec 12
Yeah I understand what you mean. Yes losing pictures and sentimental items would be heartbreaking. Little things like that are important to us. It would be a devastating thing to those precious memories.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Yes, it would definitely be a devastating thing to lose those memories. But, like I've said in other posts, I believe that I would eventually be able to pick up the pieces and move on after I've had the opportunity to mourn for those things.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Dec 12
I know what you mean about not being a picture person. I'm one of those people that is rarely seen in the front of the camera. Honestly, the last time that I was in a picture was in October at my cousin's baby shower, before that it was July and I didn't know the picture was taken and before that it was Christmas last year.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Yeah it would take time to get over those things being gone. Just like with most things we have to give ourselves the time to adjust. That does make me think though that I need to start setting more money aside to do more things like that. I would like to have my daughter's picture taken again professionally.
I would also like to start buying more cameras and taking more pics. My husband and I aren't picture people. We often don't like the way our pics come out or the way we look in them . But I try and tell him that it is the memories that count. So I will have to do better about that.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
8 Dec 12
Things will always remain things forever in our lifetime. It is us that make them alive by attaching our feelings to them. It is said 'A home is where a heart is' it is not important where we stay, if we like that place and fill it with our feelings, then it becomes too close to our heart and soul. There are many such situation, like you said, where we may actually think something is alive, even if it's not. All just gets down to one word-attachment.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Dec 12
I do value the things that I have. But I also know that I have a lot of things that I'm not really emotionally attached to.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
That is very, very true. People today do tend to move from one place to another, but any place that they live can be a home when they've decorated it with things that they love and have really made their space their own.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
9 Dec 12
Hmm..and so i just cannot digest the fact that some people do not value their things most often and it doesn't affect them even if they lose them because they think it can be replaced..i still yell at my mom if she cleans my shelf and finds out things that are of no use now and tries to throw them away..i always say to her that she doesn't understand why i keep it safe even if it's just a schoole-age pen. :D
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
8 Dec 12
Of course the great typhoon Ondoy had made us experience of such terrible disaster ever in our life. Aside from the traumatic experience it has brought on us and the aftermath after everything had subsided. The things would I will be devastated would be some documents we have, title of the land, birth certificates and all those kind of stuff that would be very difficult to retrieve but surely be needed in the future. Good thing that the papers are placed on the top of the cabinet so they were not harmed at all. We have lost a few appliances but it is okay they are replaceable. but the most devastating part of them all, Dora, was the trauma, every time there is a typhoon or continuous rain, we would surely be on the panic mode. We only have a bungalow house, no second floor, so if ever we will be trapped on the roof and of course our dogs.. if something happened to them, it will really break my heart.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Dec 12
Oh yes, defintely something that would be quite tiresome. I couldn't imagine going through that myself.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Honestly, the documents that we would lose could be replaced. I know that here, it only takes about 15 minutes to visit the department of vital statistics and then you could get your birth certificate replaced. Then you can go to the DMV and have a new license made. Finally, you can go to the social security office and apply to have your social security card replaced. And this could all be done in a single day.
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
9 Dec 12
I agree, if it is going to be as easy as in your place. Back home.. noooooooooo ... just noooo and branches are in different places.. so it takes time to collect everything again. and again hassles of producing a lot of affidavit of loss or damaged. very argh tiresome
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
11 Dec 12
Well, look at the people who recently lost their homes in Sandy. Most of them were upset a little because of some of the yrs. they lost in accumulations of stuff, but yet they were not worried. They were just Happy that they still had their lives and that is all that mattered, especially to some of the people who were older and had been married for a long time.
Personally I have lost things over the yrs. that I wish I still had due to moving around, etc. but the memories in my heart help remember the Good times as well.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
13 Dec 12
That is true too, you do have hope for the future in moving forward because even though you did lose what you owned, you also know that you have future. And of course you would be happy that your entire family was able to get through the disaster without the physical scars.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
8 Dec 12
Like you I would miss my scrapbooks filled with all the pictures of the memories I have made with my family...trips I have taken to see them. Even those though could be replaces. I gave my own kids scrapbooks of themselves from when they were born to their senior year....after that they kind took their own. But that is the one thing I would miss....anything else...nope!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I'm so glad to hear that I am not alone with that one. I also think that there are people that think people like you and I that are so attached to pictures and scrapbooks are strange. I know that I'm not. It's not only the pictures, it is the writing that I have done to share with my children as well.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Dec 12
I was just thinking last night what "things" I would grab if say we were suddenly evacuated. I'd have the children pack a few essential things, I'd put the cats in carriers, and if I still had time I'd grab the strongbox (has some important documents and some old family jewelry), a box with old family photos, the laptop (has all the scanned photos) and my jewelry. There are maybe other things that are important too but these are easy to grab.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
If I had some kind of a warning, I believe that I would take some extra clothes with me as well, but I would most definitely make sure that I had my family and my pets and could take them to a safe place.
The thing is that though there are some things that give us a warning that it will be happening, there are equally as many things that could happen where we would have no warning at all.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
All the things which I bought are so important to me. If one day, I'll lose them, I will regret that day of course. However, I'd better lose them than losing the ones I love. They're right. They're just things. We can replace them. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Oh, you're right. The sentimental value matters. I also would be sad if our pictures will be caught on fire, lood, etc. Especially my son's pictures when he was still a baby...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Dec 12
Those are the pictures that I would be really upset about. However, the ones that I would be the most upset about are the heritage photos that I have from my grandparents and my parents when they were young. I really need to get them all digitalized, but it takes a lot of time to do.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Honestly, I don't really mind a lot of the material possessions that I've bought over the years. For me, it is really more all about all of the emotional feelings that are attached to my pictures and such.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Feb 13
I guess losing pictures of my kids would be a terrible thing for me too. Never mind other physical things, as I'm sure I would be able to replace most if not all, if given time.
A couple of years ago my computer crashed and I lost a lot of pictures. Ever since, I bought an external hard drive just for pictures. And of course there is facebook and shutterfly which stores a lot of pictures for me too.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Just like you, I keep all of my pictures on an external hard drive. Then once a year I will also burn a copy of all of my pictures onto DVDs and I will give them to a family member that lives outside our house to take care of those for us.
@Gracia2010 (282)
• Thailand
8 Dec 12
Well, i don't really wish to lose anything or something for whatever reason, but we can't control some bad circumstances sometimes like fire as you mention or just accidentally drop most important things that you are keeping...
Five years ago i lost my passport, and it was really depressing since i was in a foreign country and loosing the most important document i had will be gone, i dropped it when i was riding a motor bike and i was not able to get it back, i just had so much worries on how to bring new passport back because i am working and i need it but eventually i have done everything to get a new one even it took so much time and really bothered me a lot.
My sister just bought a new Ipad from her first salary and after three months it was stolen, i felt how much sad she was. I also lost, my most favorite Wave Phone but i can't do anything to get it back
I was just thinking all those have happened teach us to be more careful and not to just let these all things happen again...some circumstances like fire could be prevented by check all electrical wire attended and don't leave any appliances on plug if not in used...
I just wish valuable things are not that valuable that we could just say never mind its just a thing...but i guess it not:(
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Well, I do believe that we would be sad about each and every thing that we lose in our lives. And I admit that I really did get upset over my stuffed Scooby Doo that I had gotten at King's Island that disappeared (we think the wrong bag might have accidentally gone to the trash when we were at my grandparent's house one weekend as my stuff dog, my brother's baseball glove and a few other things went missing). But losing an item isn't as bad as losing it all.
@chrisaiks (48)
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8 Dec 12
OOhhh yah all things are just vanity in this world
I really worth life a lot for the reason that with
life one can regain whatever is lost so i dnt think all hope is to be lost
incase of any eventuality.
WHAT DO U THINK?
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I do agree with you that an awful lot of the things that we have in our lives are simply things that we have that are for vanity sake. Those are the things that I think would be easier to lose in my opinion.
@Elenakat13 (425)
• United States
8 Dec 12
I think each one of us has something that his heart is hanging on also me but I would survive that lost cause I also survived the loss of my beloved mother
I would see it for a chance of a new beginning in my life and start from scratch.
You can't do anything about your loss but you can and must start a new life
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I think that is it. We do have some things that we have an emotional connection wit and those would be the things that would be very hard to lose. However, the other things, you might be upset about them, but you wouldn't go through the period of mourning like you would with a sentimental object or a loved one.
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 12
I think that initially I would miss alot of my things. But I moved from here about three years ago now and then, after three months, moved back. Two thirds of my stuff is still packed so I think if I lost it I wouldn't miss it that much. I have had to move so many times in my life and lost so many things that losing the rest wouldn't hurt that much. It is sad but life does go on.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
You know, we've actually lived in our house for going on five years now and I have to admit that we too still have things that are in boxes and I know that I wouldn't miss those things.
@LaDeBoheme (2004)
• United States
7 Dec 12
Years ago, I did lose everything in a fire. Pictures, things that were very dear to me and literally irreplaceable, such as Lila is to you. I was devastated and heartbroken, but I was alive. Singed, but alive.
I literally had to start over. Most things can be replaced. Those that can't, well... we still have our memories. We may cry and lament, but eventually we accept that what is lost is lost forever and move on.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
That kind of sounds like the response that I left for the previous responder. I said that if I was to lose those things, I would mourn for those things like I would for a loved one that was no longer with me.
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
8 Dec 12
Well, i can't imagine to lose my assets for the sake of me and my family future. Even paying for insurance won't make it because sometimes it just takes them forever for us to make the claim and it's not enough for the house and property damages cost.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I actually just got our annual statement about our homeowner's insurance the other day and I was shocked to see that the insured amount for replacement of our dwelling is actually twice as much as what we owe on our home right now. Still, I do know that it would take a lot of time to have my house rebuilt and during the time that I was waiting, I know that I would just be in limbo.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Of course, losing something in just a snap of a finger is so much painful. Yeah, like you, I would not afford also to lose those photos that I kept for a very long time. Of course, I would not afford also to lose my personal belongings that I've been possesses from the fruits of my effort in working for almost three years.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
At least in the event of a natural disaster, there will be insurance that will help you to replace those material possessions that we own. This, however, wouldn't be the case if you were evicted or foreclosed upon.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
i can`t also imagine all those pictures and memorabilia i`m keeping will lose constantly.. because i treasure them with all my heart i`m a emotional person so all that i can keep which will remind me of something then i will keep them.. and also i can`t imagine also losing all the important documents because it will take you a lot of work before you can get a copy of that again..
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I am a very emotional person as well and I honestly do believe that it would be very difficult to me if I was to lose the pictures that belong to me. I love and treasure my pictures almost as much as I love and treasure the people themselves.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 12
See, what would bother me the most would be those things that I have an emotional attachment with. Those other things would be something that I would be able to get over relatively quickly, once the initial shock had worn off.