Who gets the blame?
By Amber
@AmbiePam (92828)
United States
December 8, 2012 3:48pm CST
Of course when I was a child my sister blamed things on me because I was younger. And I guess most parents believe the older sibling (as we moved into the teen years my parents started to realize who was actually the truth teller). But today I was going to put blame on the crazy person. My mom. All my friends know my fairly young mom (53) has dementia. She knows who we all are, but she does things like forget she has to go to the bathroom (so she goes in her underwear) or she forgets what a spoon is for. And we have a tendency to find interesting things under her pillow. We've found the remote under her pillow as well as food and used toilet paper (sorry, but I'm trying to get through why I said crazy).
So today when I was getting ready to leave my parent's house and go home I couldn't find my keys. We looked everywhere. I checked the yard, my dad pulled out all the couch cushions...I checked under her pillow and looked through the chest of drawers in her room and couldn't find them. It doesn't do any good to ask her if she had them because she won't remember. My dad and I spent literally 40 minutes looking for them to no avail. I finally found them. They had slipped down into part of the couch that wasn't visible when you pulled the cushions out. I told my dad I had started to think my mom took them and buried them in the backyard. He and I both laughed.
Who gets the blame in the family? For years if the lid was off anything in the house everyone would yell, "Amber!" Because I had the tendency to never close anything all the way. Thus the funny (at least to me) moment at 2am one morning years ago when I hear my name yelled from the kitchen. I rushed into the kitchen to find a Pepto Bismol covered father who had not checked to see if the lid was on before shaking it. 
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11 responses
Well..maybe the occasional one now but it wasn't me!
My three children used to blame everything on each other so it was constant jury duty in my house. 
@kingjay071 (96)
• United States
9 Dec 12
That's not funny doing that to your kids like that. Have them fighting and everything. Lol
I would probably do the same thing to my little cousins just to see them argue. It's funny when they do.
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 12
Hahaha, that is really funny! Your dad with the Pepto Bismol ...
Dementia is really scary as it has taken toll lately among the
elderly. How old is your mum when she get it? I knew someone who
tends to forget what he said or did earlier. We have to keep reminding
him on where to go, what do do next, etc. Sometimes I really get mad
when he forget totally about it.
@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
9 Dec 12
For years, if anything was missing at our house and we said "Where is the__________?" my son would calmly say from where ever he was "I ate it." Easy to believe, as he is around 6'7" now and about 180 lbs. Basically I blame myself, although hubby is prone to put dishes away in strange places and fully believe he is improving the situation.
@patgalca (18370)
• Orangeville, Ontario
10 Dec 12
With my daughter away at college during the week, and home on weekends, I soon realized which things I could blame on her - the bathroom tap not turned completely off, toothpaste spit all over the sink and left to dry, etc. As a child she always told lies. I got to the point where I told her I could not believe anything she said because she lied so often. How was I supposed to know what was real? She is 19 now and doesn't lie but I don't have to accuse people anymore because they are all grown up and the things they do aren't so dire.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
8 Dec 12
LOL...did he look good in pink? I had the habit of not closing things until I was older and had alot of experience with leaking bottles...one in particular was a perfum bottle in my suitcase..well makeup case inside my suitcase....I smelled very good if not very strong most of the trip. It clings to clothes better then skin!
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
9 Dec 12
hi dear Ambie that reminds me....... when I was a kid I had much worse fine motoric skills than now as an adult. It really was a problem.
Everytime something was missing or broken there also was yelling through the house for me and I was accused of wrecking things.......... very painful experience setting deep unnecessary roots of guilt........
Here in the household its my husband by the way who will not close the lids for whatever. Only placing the lid on the jar and then putting it back to the fridge..... so I make sure I double check when I put things into the fridge.... LOL.....
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@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
well there are things that we can accept. and there are things that we can not accept. they are acceptable because they do not really do harm on our dignity, confidence, and rights. they are unacceptable if they do harm on us. however, there are harm that we can accept because of our love for the persons who are supposed to take the harm. we do that to spare the person we love.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
9 Dec 12
That story about the Pepto Bismol sounds familiar, like something like that happened to one of us.. but I don't remember now who it happened to or what it was. But I have learned never to grab things by their tops because the tops usually aren't screwed on really tight.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Dec 12
i got the blame all the time cause i was an only child and it was 99 percent of the time no one else was living with us except a step dad. untill i was 14yrs and moved in with my aunt. when my mom said my full name i knew she had found out id done something but my kids all had 4 others to blame so many times i didnt find out the whole story till years later.
btw, mom usually gets the blame for something going wrong now. either that or they still blame each other even grown. sometimes its a joke that much has not changed
but my kids all had 4 others to blame so many times i didnt find out the whole story till years later. btw, mom usually gets the blame for something going wrong now. either that or they still blame each other even grown. sometimes its a joke that much has not changed @kingjay071 (96)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Most parents would blame the oldest one for something but really I find this being lazy to find out exactly who did whatever. I don't like to blame anyone for something I really don't have facts on. It isn't right to do that. I can understand if someone has constantly done the same thing numerous of times then the person would be put to blame but at the same time I would be sure if the facts are correct.
