One spouse kills the other..

Its hard to gut up that one kills his counterpart in fit of rage or some imbalance in brain or rather depression.But when they all go through this the time to regret is passed away,how can you expect from a psychotic who doesnt care for his counterpart will think about his childrens.Who is to blame for the fate of those childrens.Really a sad situation no words.

They frequently kill the children too. Some years ago before christmas a (dutch) dentist killed his children plus ex wife. It was in the news. After that some other men did exactly the same. Since that time it's each time the same before/during christmas. Men kill their ex wives plus their children. Or they kill the ex wife and the children mostly spend the rest of their lives in foster homes (this also depends on the age.. elderly kids (10 years and older) are seldom wanted anymore, 13-14 year old kids are given up). If it comes to fighing parents love for the (once so wanted kids) doesn't count at all.

That is a real tragic and it seems they are so selfish that they dont care about their children . I think that is it , they hate their spouse and not enough to just leave them alone but to hurt their children so I think they hate their children also . If it was self defense it will be different but to intentionally plan and kill their spouse that is just a wicked person .

This have to do with EQ (Emotional intelligence quotient). When anger override the person, they can't think rationally. They only realised what they did after what has been done and can't be undone, it is too late already! It is really a very sad incident and the consequences is beyond repair. Many children fall victim due to domestic arguments and family problems.

Too much anger and hatred have clouded their reasons and the only thing that they have focused on is to get rid of the person that seems to be the reason of their frustrations in life. And yes, with this bad decisions, the children are the ones who suffer.

There are people who can't control their anger that when they feel the anger, they just have to show it. Their minds are obviously blacking out for you will not kill your spouse if you're thinking of the kids. It's true that the children are the most affected by these incidents and they have to live without parents. It's a traumatic experience for them and the parent who is in jail will just have to suffer the consequences that he has done.

I know a family of 4 kids who are now grown and this happened to them. The father killed the mother and then himself leaving behind 4 kids. The oldest 2 were teens at the time and once they were old enough they got the 2 younger ones out of foster care and raised them. The youngest is the only one that talks about it with me. They all seem pretty well adjusted considering all that they must of gone through. I just can't wrap my head around the kind of thinking that would cause a parent to do such a thing.

Sounds pretty selfish to me. Their dislke for their spouse being deeper than their loe for their children may be the whole thing. I think people become depressed or other wise psychologically impaired and are not thinking rationally. And there is the sad situation where the elderly may end one spouse's life due to medical impairments too. It is a sad situation. Makes you wonder what goes through people's heads sometimes.