Alcoholism... The Annoying "Disease"?

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I guess I'll never understand alcholism. I tried to understand it with my ex-boyfriend, who I have two children with, but I sometimes think it's just an excuse to avoid situations or just life in general when a person doesn't want to deal with things head on. I also think it has a lot to do with the person it affects. For 5 years I dealt with pain, anxiety, depression, and aggravation before I finally gave up and realized what his actions were doing to our family and myself. But he didn't care. Alcholism is a selfish disease, if you ask me. It's all about that person and I really think they just use it as an excuse as to why they didn't do this or that, and try to get away with what they don't want to face. My ex- now has no job because he lost it because of his drinking during lunch, and his DUI. He had a very good job as a Manager of a store and lost it. He took advantage of unemployment and collected until it ran out without even trying to get a job the whole time. Then, after I couldn't stand to watch him everyday doing absolutely nothing but drinking himself to death, lying to me where he was going, not taking care of our children properly while I was working long hours, and just generally being a "jerk", he lost his family, as well. It was like he didn't even care. He paid child support for almost a year, and then started slipping up on payments, because his unemployment ran out and he couldn't find a job, so he says, because of his DUI. So what does he do? Gets another DUI. And now owes almost $6,000 for support that he now has a court date scheduled after the holidays. And when asked what he's going to do when he has to go to jail? Tells me, he heard it's really not that bad in jail. That's nice. The children that he wanted just as much as I did, at the time, are now part of the court system of products of a dead-beat "dad", and a mom that cares and loves them more than life itself. So, while he's out having a good time and getting drunk, and has money for gas, cigarettes, and alcohol, has no money for his own children, nor does he care to give them money for what they need. It's a pathetic shame. And how does this all happen? Alcohol. I don't believe alcholism is a disease... it's an excuse.