Advice to persons of broken reationships that occur during the Christmas season.

My advice is: Pamper yourself in every way. Do like Mr Bean does with Christmas. Write christmas cards to yourself, watch movies you like, eat a box of chocolates and do not share, buy yourself something great to drink, take your teddy and have quality time. Do not listen to the tv telling you that you have to share christmas with your family/close friends under the tree blah blah. The biggest part of the world is single, lonesome, too poor to celebrate. Do something unexpected or stay in bed if it makes you feel good. Since christmas is just one of these days, shops like to make a big income and society forces you to join and spend. There are so many ways you can enjoy, christmas can be celebrated 1 week later as well. If you can't love yourself nobody will love you. So take care of yourself first. And remember... the less you expect the bigger the surprise(s) are.

One way that I find is a good way to cheer up, is to do something for someone else. Help those even more less fortunate than myself. Perhaps, she could help those families who have loved ones serving in the military and won't be home for Christmas. They are sacrificing their time away during Christmas and do need our support. I would find something that the two of you could do together such as helping out at a Christmas party for the military families or for poor families. I was feeling sad because my two sons are away and in the military, so I delivered Thanksgiving dinners to shut-ins. Just to see these shut-ins faces light up when I delivered them a big Thanksgiving dinner warmed me up, and helped me to be grateful for what I do have. And it seemed that I didn't feel so sad afterwards.

The best way to console someone is to show our love. that way he/she will never felt alone. Took him/her to other places away from the places where he/she spend with that someone special to avoid bringing back the past. Try to make him/her join with other family members, friends and relatives to attend a party or have a vacation in other places. That will surely help the person to forget easily the heartache.

I wasn't actually been through a break-up before but when I was really depressed about my career and life before. I go out with my friends. So maybe, you could invite her out. Not talking about the name of her/his EX-relationship. But don't go to places where she will remind him/her of the places they've been through. But if she/he remembers her EX in her mind. Let her grieve or cry, cry harder if she would like but let her promise it will be her last thing to cry and when she thinks of her EX distract her/him. Invite her to go to church, go yoga, to a solemn place full of fresh air, go to the beach. Like that to unwind. Hope this helps. Or because its christmas season around the corner you may invite her to shop. wrap up gifts for your circle of friends and for her family. Play songs that are happy on the radio not love songs okay . Godbless to your friend. Merry Christmas

Hi Samson, for me the best way to cheer up a love one or dear friend whose heart broken this Christmas season by assuring that you just there to comfort and ready to listen to all her/his heartache. Also giving them chocolates with a bright smile might help to lessen the pain.

If its a friend.. just be there for them. Anytime a break up happens its always bad for one or both. But at xmas time I bet its double tough. Take care there, have a great holiday season.

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i know it would have been terrifying for a person to have a break up especially when it is Christmas. I think i would have definitely cheered him up and advised him to forget whatever has happened and get involved the festive fervor of Christmas as this comes once in a year and we have to make the most out of it. I think relations are made and broken and i am sure he or she will definitely get a good girl or boy in the future, so not to worry. What say?