When I Want Your Advice, I'll Ask You...Maybe!

maybe there some things your family sees in your bf that you don't see. that's why they oppose. However, if you BF has pure intention on you and wanted to keep your relationships working, he must do his best to win your family as well. If he can go to your place and show who he is, respectful gentleman, then in no time he will win your family's heart too. if he goes in your house, he brings something for the family too. He must win their trust as he won yours. I hope this will work.

It's you and him against the world. LOL. Well, I guess if you really love each other then prove your family that he's the best for you and you love each other very much and that he's willing to do everything for you. Tell him the things that they don't like about him. Maybe he can do something about those things. Tell your family members that they should give him a chance. He's still proving himself that he's worthy to be your boyfriend. They should not make things complicated. You are the one who's going to live with him in case you'll get married. It's your future, not theirs.

The often used seemingly banal remark absence makes the heart grow fonder , actually can be significant to some of us who have people we are extremely fond of...to many it is trite but to us personally who have significant others and especially to people like me who have wife and kid but due to the nature of work commitments need to spend long periods away from each other, not anymore , at home mostly now, but my point is that- that can be a gage as to what our true feelings are and just how strong they can be towards those we love, and it is also when we will determine that there is no hurdle nor obstacle we will not face and overcome based on how we feel about each other, to me it is important that my " CHOSEN" significant other can or will be accepted by my family or her family and of course it will be sweeter that it is the case but if there were objections or even disapproval, i don't think it has relevance to my decision as to how i want to live my life and who i chose to live it with.( i do understand that those we love have our best interest at heart yet) after all , if we really mull over it , we actually get old and grey with our chosen spouses and children and brothers and sisters also do the same with theirs,and parents will always think of us as tiny tots in their minds, and eventually will come around with acceptance of our life choices.

Dear if you are sure he loves you and you do love him, be really careful to not let others hurt, mess this. I know how it is like, I went through a racial thing and it's horrible and nobody's business, but the truth is if we listen to others when we truly love them we'll regret. Follow always your heart, well not in singer Rihanna's case, lol, but most times we must follow.

Honestly, my family does NOT like my husband at all. Which baffles me because he has helped them in so many ways so many times. But anyway, they have not liked him from day one. I don't know why, don't really care why either to be honest with you. My husband and I have been together for almost 9 years and married for 8 years. We have stuck through thick and thin together whether my family likes him or not. They don't have to live with him, I do. Therefore, it does not matter if they like him or they don't. I am so glad I worried about my own happiness and not theirs for once! =-) I made the best decision of my life being with him. If your family is set on not liking him, they might not ever like him... But that is their loss, not yours. They miss out on getting to know someone who you think is great for you! If your love is strong and real for your man, I would not worry about who likes him or who doesn't. Just be happy yourself. Your the one that has to be with him, not them!

I lost my only Dutch friend here in the Philippines (I'm Dutch too) because he kept on telling me I should get ridd of my bf (yes, I'm gay). My bf was no good etc. etc. When I told him to stop he said "I only do this to protect you and warn you" Helloooooooooooooooooooooooooo! I'm 56! The bloody limit was when he stated that he would love to spend a night with my bf!! Such an inult! So I told him to go away and NEVER come back. Yes, I hate it rally when people come with 'good' advices. Wish you good luck!!!!

I'm guessing that you're old enough to do your own thing without their approval. Ignore them.

I think that you just need to let them know how much you love him and that you are willing to do anything just to make your relationship work. It may really take time, but if they realize that it is he who really makes you happy, then there is nothing they can do but accept the person that you love,too.

that maybe true but all the times people just want to help you its not wrong and im not saying its right but sometimes we need to do things by our way and that what really need to do.

This is so hard. We all want to be accepted and loved and it's a pity that people upset you like that. I would say that you should continue your life. Try to give the family the chance to really know your boyfriend, and I trust that in time they will change their opinions. Good luck to you.

you'll need efforts to make them accept him. well not only you but him also. don't waver everytime your family talks bad about him or reject him in front of your face. show them that both of you are serious in relationship! tell them that you have your own decision for your own life! it needs lot of spirits since you're facing your family, but, with the two of you as couple and support each other, nothing is impossible. good luck! :)