How do we get rid of useless jealousy?
By shion13
@shion13 (85)
Indonesia
December 12, 2012 4:03am CST
Everyone who has a lover must ever felt jealousy. Well sometimes there are kinds of nonsense jealousy (though jealousy doesn't really make sense since it's because of love). If we look at our lover flirt another person or the reverse, for me being jealous because of that makes sense. But do you ever being jealous toward your own bestfriend? Example : your bestfriend is also your lover's bestfriend. Isn't it kind of stupid to be jealous?
And if you look at your friend and you feel that she/he likes your lover. Is it okay to be jealous too?
I think i'm too sensitive about my surroundings. Wanna get rid of useless kind of feelings. Mind to share your opinions? :)
6 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Jealousy is part of every relationship. But we must know when it is healthy and when it is not. As what you have specified, seeing your boyfriend with someone that he flirts could be really disturbing, so you get jealous. But being jealous on all the people that your boyfriend talks, too , even your bestfriend, well, I think that is unhealthy. You should realize that above all else, both of you are an individual and each of you has the right to talk to anyone, be with anyone. You need to trust your boyfriend more and also, you should build your confidence. Too much jealousy = insecurity, low self-confidence, low self-esteem. This could lead to the distraction of your relationship.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Ohh. that's easy shion13. Hold your boyfriend's arm. smile, kiss him in front of your friend. She should know her place after that. if you get jealous and mad, that will give her the upper hand. Don't give her that.
I mean, woah, is she even called a friend if she has got some interest in stealing your boyfriend? or is she being too friendly with him? that is so not like a friend lol.
@shion13 (85)
• Indonesia
13 Dec 12
i don't want to be friend with her anymore though. and actually, she has her own boyfriend. so i thought it'll be safe for the first time. turn out like that lol.
and though i already held my boyfriend's arm back then, she was still like that! i just hope that we wouldn't get chances to hang out again hahaha
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
I can't really blame you for feeling like that.
Indeed jealousy is such a wretched feeling, very useless!
I was almost insanely jealous of everything around me in the past. But I learned that letting go, not letting paranoia get the better of me and improving my self esteem, self worth and self love helped me get rid of jealousy feelings.
Try it. It will really do people good if they stop being so jealous.
Besides, jealousy ain't sexy. That's kind of the best reasons and most effective one that helped me not to get jealous. ahahaha
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Don't worry shion. A lot of people lack that too. no one is perfect. The best you can do is improve yourself and be more confident, that's sexy in and of itself hahahaha
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
I don't think what you're feeling is useless jealousy. Remember: Us women have women's intuition. If you feel that there is something, then maybe you should not allow your lover and your bestfriend to spend much time together. It is normal to feel jealous when you are in love with someone. You must fight for your feelings when you sense something. :)
@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Dec 12
WHY YOU Get rif of this its normal feelings and nice to have senses and think that way from to time. but do not do anything regarding i mean do nto take actions for that feelings, feeling something is one thing and doing some action is another is not that?
