Giving the best response to a member that doesn't agree with your view

If not so far, I shall keep this in mind. You have brought up a valid point here. I do not see you around these days!?

I have done it frequently, as a matter of fact--when I choose the "best response" I choose the one that had solid information, used good examples, was detailed, and/or was presented in a persuasive, logical manner--in other words, I look for someone who takes as much time as I do to get their thoughts in order. I also have never "downvoted" any reply--even if I hated it. If I can't mark it with a plus, I don't mark it--because I don't believe my personal negative feelings should penalize someone else. The point of being able to discuss things is for everyone to be able to speak their mind, as long as it doesn't violate the guidelines. Just because I think they are rude, or an idiot, doesn't mean I'm going to penalize them for being so. I have flagged things I ran into before, with the exclamation point--but only when they were definite violations.

A fresh perspective is often thought prevoking. I just don't care for smart remarks and negative ones. I have given what I thought was a good and truthful response and gotten a surprising response back sometimes. It is quite often the reason I start a discussion, to get others view points.

I can learn a lot from someone that has another point of view, provided he is respectful and explain himself in a way that I can understand. In those cases I am glad to give a best response to that person.

Yes, I have. His response really was not what I expected, but it was so honest. The more I read it, the more I realize that he could be right after all. And I gave the BR to him because it really was the one response that stood up in my mind out of all the other responses. He's not active here at all either, so it was like the first and only time we interact in any discussions here...

oh, no! you mean i can't post "hi! yes, you're right. that's true. i agree with you. have a nice day!" to every discussion i joined anymore? because i've try to answer 10 discussions every day. i wish we're allowed to give 2 BRs because sometimes one "answers" the situation presented perfectly, while the other is worth considering "next time." i mean some topics are location-specific, so while your solution might not be applicable, it helps the person see other possibilities and might help him or her initiate changes to the status quo or at least deal with it differently next time.

It will not have an effect for me to mark the best response even if it is an opposite view to my discussion. As long as his/her has some good points, it doesn't matter that he/she doesn't agree with my views. On the other hand, the opposite opinions can be quite impressive.

I consider myself pretty open minded, and I vote best response according to whomever brings out good points in the topic, as you put poster's that bring a fresh perspective I realize that everyone has a different out look on things, that's part of what makes this forum fun we get to post & respond to different subjects and read different points of view, that said I try my best to vote for best response fairly and not because I agree or disagree.

Yes, I have done this before a few times. Just because they actually had a great discussion with me that went on for a few days back and forth with some really valid points being made on both sides without either side getting upset. It is easy to just give BR's to our closest friends on here that we know go along with our views, but are they really that deserving of it? Maybe, but maybe not. Perhaps we need to think more deeply about the whole process?

No but its an interesting concept like where is it written that everyone should agree with your views that's what makes it a good discussion when different points of view are discussed d and appreciated don't you think that makes it worth discussing and provides diversity to the ideas of individuals. I enjoy reading different views rather the rehashing of the same idea over and over. I don't recall making someone's response best but I'll consider it , for sure.

Hello JenInTN, this is a great discussion if I may say so myself. I agree with you that being presented with opinion completely different from my perspective is a good way to learn things. Especially if it is presented in such a way that isn't rude and condescending. I have given best response to those who do not agree with me because of the point and clarification they have provided regarding the subject. I believe that it can be the best way to learn things and look at it in a whole new different light.

Well actually I did it,what you said is right definitely,other response that doesn't agree with my view will bring some spice to the discussion,and even more,you can learn something from the different point of view,and those view actually is the one you should really pay attention and think more about it,you surely can get something from it.

I am not that kind of person who usually denoted best respondents with those of my fellow lotters who were participated with my discussion and gave their ideas and opinions. As I read those responds , I felt amazed with them because they gave me a specific idea and most of the time I agree with them so it was very difficult for me to choose whom to be the best respondents because almost all of the responds are promising and very true.

each person has their own opinion for everything, can not expect other person agree with your opinion. But that's the bling point, we can know how other persons think about for the same thing, and we can understand others more easily

I have done this a few times and would happily do so again if the response justified it. I am not naïve enough to expect everyone to have the same view as I have, which is fortunate because discussions would be rather drab with everyone sharing a single point of view. The main criterion for a best response is the quality of the response and not whether I agree with the opinion or not. If a member responds with valid and interesting points contrary to mine then they are adding to the value of the discussion, so they have earned the best response.

HI JEN, I have no problem w/people not agreeing w/my discussion or responses. I do have a problem if they act like an a$$ just because they have a different opinion than mine. Everyone needs a little spice in their discussions & responses.

I think some people expect everyone should applaud them , I am not one of those . I like to be honest , at least 80 percent of the time here lol . I am not being rude to a person and it wouldn't be much of a discussion if their weren't different views . I give best respond based on the interaction I have with the member and that is what I consider the spice . Its hard to chose best respond sometimes because you see so many that is also good .

i think it is unfair for a person to be deprived of BR just because you didn't agree with his opinions. You know, sometimes, the people who would disagree with you are the people who are eager in making a convincing response. and then, you reply back, and he goes then, the process goes on until you get what he meant and be convinced.

As the old saying goes, "you can't please everyone". Personally, I welcome a difference in opinion. However, it depends on how it is phrased or delivered. We all have our own egos to contend with, right? Anyway, it is always a good exercise to debate on an issue. Better still if you win the verbal tussle and in the process win one more person to your opinion.

Different opinions are expected from a post that is viewed by different people. Someone may oppose to my point of view from a discussion that I posted but it is undeniable that sometimes they are right if you'll just analyze it. It is better to accept and be grateful that someone opposed to you and gave you a different view that you have not seen. I always appreciate the people that is different from my perspective because I respect other people's opinions.