Is it ok for being a secret keeper?

It should be okay if you are able to keep the secret. if you then are able to do so, then it should be okay... but there are just some people who are not able to keep secret then they should not be told of it.

I think what you need is courage. You need to have the courage to be positive to tell others your problems. From your remarks, you are a great friend who always helps your friend to solve problems. And I think the fact is that they tell your their problems, and then you help them. The key point is that they must tell you their problems first. I feel that you don't have the friens who you can trust in to tell them your problems. You want to be a happy friend at front of your friends. You need to go out from your shell.

If you have problems, try talking to someone that you trust. I can understand that it's not always easy, but it's worth a try. It can't hurt to at least try and see what happens. If you want, you can always talk about it on mylot. There are plenty of people who are willing to listen (or read) what you have to say, and are willing to help you.

I don't know, that is the question you have to ask yourself. Why everytime your friends have problem, you will be the one be their sides to comfort them, and whenever you got problems, no one was by your side to be your friend. Sometimes, I rather be alone, and not with my friends though. Maybe that is my method of comforting myself, to face the problem alone, and trying to solve it myself to see if I can handle it.

Welcome to myLoy jiezin! This sounds like me. I am a listener and adviser to most of my friends but I feel so alone when I have my problems.. It is okay to be a secret keeper as long as you are okay about it. If you feel "heavy" about this, you can openly tell your friends about it.

Ask for their support. We all need support and encouragement. Friendship should never be just one sided. I have to be careful because I am the oldest in my family and was always the strong one. But sometimes, I need comfort and encouragement as well. We all do. Look for people who are older or are in the position to give you guidance, reassurance and support. You will drain yourself if you don't seek support for yourself as well. And I do encourage you and uplift you. :)

You look like and I feel you are a very good person. Try to always value yourself and remember of the things you want. I think you are what I used to be, I thought too much about people's need and I feel I was used by my previous 2 best girlfriends. When I woke up I was there for her in ways normal friends are not and she was so ungrateful leaving me alone, 4 years later when I needed so I ended up learning.

We are on the same boat. I feel that I can provide great advice to my friends, but when I have problems, I feel lost. But then I realized that I could not solve my own problems because I am trying to base everything in a perfect set up. This is reality and so we must make decisions ans reasons realistically.

You feel alone because nobody is helping you out. Why not? Because you always are the strong one. You always are the one who is helping others, cheering them up, have advices. If you are a person like that, if you only invest in others, people do not see you as a weak person, someone who can be sad or depressed as well. And if they do notice or you say you feel that way they will think (or even say): you will manage, you always did. So stop attracting those people, those "birds of a feather". Start investing in yourself at the first place. Those people take away all your good, positive energy and there is nothing left over for you. So you feel empy and lost Start pampering yourself from now on, invest all the time and energy you invested in others in yourself. See how that will change you. If you do have something left over you can give. Otherwise it's useless to give/help out. Take good care of yourself. If you can't do that nobody will do that for you.

Try sharing it here on myLot. You will get different points of view from different people and somehow, you'll figure out what to do or feel. I know it doesn't work for everbody but I do have a problem that was solved here in myLot and it will not hurt to give it a try. We don't know you personally but people here, as I have observed, are trying the best they can to give the best advice and share their experiences. You have always been the one giving advice to them that is why you're feeling that way.