How to change it?
By songst557
@songst557 (232)
China
December 13, 2012 1:04am CST
My wife is a quick temper,sometimes when she is very angry,she speak out some harsh words,which has a little affected my kid,I discuess many times with her,but no clear effect.Sometimes my kid say something learned from her,she realized it,but just couldn't keep mood under control.
What should I do???
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2 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Perhaps she needs to see a doctor. There are illnesses that don't manifest themselves that clearly, sometimes people just get so angry all the time until they seek medical help and find out that an illness causes them to be like that. One particular condition that makes us cranky a lot of times is goiter (it's a throat problem that doesn't show any clear symptoms because it's not painful).
Another is, perhaps you should do something. Like don't be too understanding. Sometimes, people tend to be overly tolerant that's why the person (or the partner) isn't really motivated to do as they say.
Further, what's causing her to be angry? or have a quick temper? Was she like that before? Maybe there are constant problems around and she feels that she's alone facing those problems that's why she's always angry.
Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@songst557 (232)
• China
13 Dec 12
First,Thanks a lot for your such detailed answer.
The three aspects you mentions are very important,I didn't noticed your first point of view before,cause not only one doctor asked her if she has hyperthyroidism disease,I will find some knowledge about it.
And your second point is also hit the key problem,Sometimes,I even can't accept the way she talking with her mom,obviously,she was spoiled by her parent,and her mom do the same thing on my kid again,which is another issue I have to consider.
Anyway,I have to find a way to solve it,which affected my kid too much.
Thank you once again.
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
13 Dec 12
never give up is the best way to face her attitude. don't get angry to her cos she could blow up harder than she used to be. a woman is a fragile creature actually (I'm a woman..:D), so if you get angry to her it means that you break a kind of fragile thing. try to speak softly and slowly to make her understand that what she is doing is very bad. ask her, how deep is her love for your child? does she want to see her child growing in a bad atmosphere? and so son. ask her to see the real example how a kid would be if the mother is not good in treating them. ask her to learn from books how to be a good mom. don't forget to give her appreciation every time she makes good progress in her effort. it will boost her mood to be better and better. I'm a stubborn person too. sometimes i can't hold myself getting angry to my daughter (she is five and a half years old now). but i do love my daughter. i don't be hesitate to say sorry to her if i hurt her. i hope your wife will be better next days. it will bring goodness not only for her, but also for your kid.
@songst557 (232)
• China
13 Dec 12
I'm unable to come up with so many thoughtful questions to her,maybe translate yours to her,:),thank you very much.
What you said is right,I was a little impatient on her recently,but I didn't angry with her,I just ignored her.She noticed it too,and be a little self-controled.
Still,there is one thing you said I didn't do it enough,it's give her appreciation when she did right thing,I will improve it.
thank you for sharing your thought,a thought come from a mother,that's very important.
