you would never do as a mother
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
7 responses
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
13 Dec 12
One of the things my Mother did when I was growing up was to put all the discipline on my Dad. If we did something that was less than appropriate, she would say "Wait until your Dad gets home!" I wish they had more of a united front when it came to disciplining me and my brother. I have told my kids, I want this mess cleaned up before your Dad gets home. I think after working all day, a Dad should be able to come home to a happy family and a clean home.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Dec 12
I don't know about a clean house when the husbands comes home. That is just mean because in my relationship it's a partnership so we do as close as possible to be equal so we clean together.
I do agree that it should be both parents that discipline the children.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
14 Dec 12
Reverse the roles then if you think its mean. You spent all day Saturday cleaning the house, your husband had to work that day. Monday morning you go to work and your husband has the day off, so he's home with the kids. Would it be mean of him to have the house clean by the time you got home form work? It doesn't matter. Yes, you are both a team and should work together as a team to keep the house clean. When you are home, it's your responsibility to have the house clean, when he's home it's his.
Lets go a step further. You leave the kids in his care for the day. Wouldn't you expect him to take care of those kids while you were gone? I don't think it's mean, I think it's being caring.
Yes, parenting children is a team effort.
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
16 Dec 12
Of course we don't demand our mates to do anything. If they care about us they would though.
I agree, just because you are not the bread winner doesn't mean you take on household responsibilities yourself. It is a team effort.
I feel more comfortable in a clean house. I feel more organized, and feel I can relax and play or do things with the kids, because everything is running like a well oiled machine. The kids help too, I'm not responsible for everything. They learn values by helping, and this too can be quality time spent with children.
I sleep at night, don't take naps during the day, although it is important for new Mommies to do so. This is me though, and I'm not judging you.
This is my opinion, my way or doing things. I am not saying you are right or wrong. You do what works for you, and I do what works for me.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 12
I always said I would never treat any of my children better than the others, and I have made it a priority to never do that! I hated when it was done to me as a child. I would never want to hurt them that way.
I also said I would never be as strict with my kids as my parents were with us. While I am not to their extreme I am pretty strict with them...
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 12
Speaking of this though, I hear women in particular always saying I would never let my kids get away with this or that and my kids will never behave that way... Then I have seen a few of them have kids and they have been spoiled brats! Lol. I think its funny because I always tell people until you have kids you don't know what you will or will not do, its easy to say until your there.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Dec 12
I have a sister in law that, that said she won't let my nephew do this or that and then she let's him do this or that. It is a bit on the annyoning side.
I kind of go with the flow.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
6 Feb 13
A mother should not have any differentiation between her kids, she must see all her kids equally irrespective of gender.
Thanks for this discussion
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Feb 13
Okay I agree thanks for your responses
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@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Of course, you will do as a mom. I don't know why you really said that. However, if you don't have kids yet just pray hard that God will bless your womb. If you have kids already I'm sure you are going to do as mom because you love your children and you want to take of them. :-)
Have a nice day!
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Dec 12
I stated above in the discussion post that I have two kids. I the question was about you not about me.
What would never do as a mom?
I have two very young kids so the there aren't many things that I would never do as a mother just yet there for I have nothing more to say about the question.
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@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
24 Dec 12
My kids are grown now and have left home. What I never did as a mom is give in to my kids when they nagged me to buy the candy as we were going through the check out at the grocery stores. If we bought candy and gum, then we bought it in the candy section. I knew that the purpose of displaying candy next to the cashier was for the purpose of impulse buying and I just didn't participate in that because I would just prefer checking out without a lot of stuff being displayed in my face.
Also, we didn't watch a lot of TV - our TV was in an TV stand that had doors so that we could close the doors in front of the TV screen when we were not watching it. The blank TV screen was not visible so it wasn't so tempting to just turn it on and watch anything to avoid having a blank TV screen in the room.
My kids played more and used their imagination more than other kids who watched a lot of TV. Also, I really think that my kids can think for themselves better because they didn't watch a lot of TV.
I vowed I would not let my kids watch a lot of TV and I didn't. So, that is one thing that I did accomplish as a Mom, that I was determined to do before I became a Mom.
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@mailer94321 (6)
• United States
14 Dec 12
As a mother now, when I was pregnant as when anyone is, you have many misconceptions of what raising a baby is like. Unless of course it is not your first child. I kept saying that I would have my son potty-trained by a year old. Of course I do not think that is possible now but it is kinda funny sometimes what people think it is going to be like. I also said I would never be like my parents in their bad habits ways and hopefully that is true
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Dec 12
That is something good to work on not being like your parents.
I don't like a lot of things my parent did while raising me. Yeah my daughter is almost 2 and isn't potty trained yet but we are starting. Like they say ever child is different about when they are ready to learn. I have some mom friends that have there babies potty trained by a year or a little bit over a year. It was because there children where ready for it.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Mar 13
hi shybear what I would never do as a mom is to compare my child to someone elses who is prettier or brighter or whatever.This is so hurtful to your own child to be compared to another child. I heard that as a teen trying to find my way into some profession and my dad alwys comparing m e with my half sister and of course I always came out as the dunce naturally.So I never did that to my
own children ever.
own children ever.