past is past!

It is really so hurting, isn't it? But that's fine for it is just for now. Surely, one day you will be alright and will laugh only when you remember this thing you are feeling right now. I am saying this because I know how it felt. It is really painful that you don't want to love again but I assure you... One day true love will comes your way and it is for you to decide to take a chance for it once again and might be happy or leave all your positive beliefs behind and lead to a bitter life. I wish you the best! I will not advice you to forget the pain but I hope that you will see the lesson you will learn from this. Whatever you gain from this heartache will make you a stronger and better person than you are now. Everything happens for a reason and please don't waste your time to feel this hatred because when you meet the one that is meant for you then you will be thankful that this ex of yours is already out of your life.

No matter how hard you wanted to try to forget, memories always stays forever in your mind. It is hard for one person to forget the person you love. Maybe, throw away the picture that you have with him is a way for you to feel better and not to think too much about the past. I ever left my past photo with the one I love back then for like 1 or 2 years or maybe 3 years. I even decided on choosing to wait for the guy who for me I felt betrayed because after our breaks up, it was like after 2 or 3 weeks or maybe 1 month, he went to chase another girl which is my best friend. At that moment, I was frustrated and scold whoever I can and became a lot rude than before. All this act is because I still love him and I can't accept the way he did those things to me and can't let go of the past and created that kind of me. But after quarreling with my best friends as known as sister in school, I got that, no matter how much I love him, he do not love me anymore. He do not appreciate my good to him and he do not understand the way I am is actually one kind of caring. So I learned to wish him to be happy with the girl he love, that makes me feel better. But I still wait for 1 year plus. But in the end, I decided to move on and be happy as I can. People say, be happy in front of people who hate you or dislike you, is a best revenge. Well, since he did that to you, be happy in front of him, he might feel hurt for breaking up with you but things cannot be changed anymore. Learn to let go, and move on. I know it's easy to say than doing it. But I did it! He left, means he don't deserve you and you deserve to someone much more better. Please don't give up hope and not moving on. If you keep staying in the past, your life will always be in miserable. No one can help you, but yourself. Focus on the thing you must do and you are interesting in and make yourself as busy as you can with the thing you like. After a long while, you will feel better. Absolutely better than having him. You will find that, even without him, you can live happily. Use the time to learn new thing and change what you think that you shouldn't do. That someone special will definitely come. One day. So, nhailojaye, be strong! No one can help you but yourself! You can live better without him and live a life that you love! Good luck!

Being heart broken is the worst feeling possible. I completely understand how your feeling. But...the sooner you move on from him the sooner you can find your true love. He is out there somewhere waiting for you. You can only find him once you let go of the ex and the past. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and he did not do that for you so he does NOT deserve another second of your time or thoughts... I hope you can soon move on, leave your hurt in the past and find your new love.

i believe in the saying time heal all wounds.. just wait for the time where you will feel free from anguish.. what you are feeling right now is so normal for a girl who been betrayed it happened to me and i know the feeling of being hurt.. it was a seven year relationship then all of a sudden he texted me that she got someone pregnant.. how awful right.. anyways to heal my broken heart i turned to my friends they helped me a lot when i am in pain.. we go out and just have fun at times the sadness will overtake me and i will cry but it ok to cry..now i have my family and very much happy..

This is life. nothing in this world is permanent, things which come to us will go one day. Nowadays, relationships are very fragile as there is no true love. Everybody is running after money and for the sake of that, one can do anything to get money. The main thing is that we have to understand a person from the heart but not just by seeing his clothes or his family or how much bank balance he holds or how good looking he is and then everything is left in the hands of our destiny. so forget ur past and lead the rest of ur life with joy, fun and happiness. As this small life of ours in this earth is very precious.

hi Nhailojaye,i don't think you are doing anything wrong hurting about the relationship.its normal to feel pain that's why we are told love can hurt a lot.sorry about the betrayal but if he chose to move on to someone else accept his choice however hard,find your own peace and don't let this make you think love must hurt.when it does it means that was not meant to last and the one meant for you will come and it will last.take your time to recover and go out and meet new people,do it for yourself not to teach him a lesson or to prove a point to anyone but do it when your heart is ready.

Hi nhailojaye, If a guy can not see what you have done for him then he has no right to enjoy the fruits of your love both physical and emotional, your loyality and sacrifices. It is good that now you are no longer with this kind of guy. I am sure soon you will forget him and you will find a guy who would appriciate your love a lot more than this guy would ever and you would be very happy.

Yes, past is past. You have to move forward. Time and tide wait for no men. Do not waste your time on it as it can bring no joy to you. Open your heart for a better love, somewhere someone better who knows how to appreciates your love is waiting for you. Just look back and tell yourself that you was once experience the joy of love and now your life have to go on and seek for a better future. It is his lost not yours... for not choosing you!

I can feel your pain. 5 years of being in a relationship with him is such a long time. And you cannot really get over it easily especially there’s another party involved. You have loved him truly and then dump youo just to go back with his ex. He is a fool for going back to experience the same thing with her. We don’t know what’s gonna happen next to them. But right now, I guess all you gotta do is to just accept that he’s gone for good and that you’re gonna find another man. You deserve someone better who will stay with you no matter what. Don;t be afraid to open up your heart again.

Well it's just normal for you to feel that way. Because you're not the only person experiencing that kind of situation. :)

Well from your discussion I can see that you still can not forget your ex-boyfriend,you keeping ask yourself why?But the answer is laid on your ex-boyfriend and from a boy's view I can tell you that actually the reason is hard to say why a boy choose this girl not the other. So you really need to get over him and move on,done is done,and pls remember,next is the best.

Past is just that.. leave it sister and move on. You have so much waiting for you, and future. Go and find it. Take care.... see you here soon.

Break-ups can hurt immensely and will shake us especially when our partner cheated us and they decided to choose someone over us. We need time to fully absorb the reality. I myself going through break-up almost a month ago and worse because I am pregnant. Well, I think it in a positive way that good thing it happened early rather than we will be together for long it will hurt me more and will hurt my baby if he'll leave us one day. You have to divert your attention to something productive. It's hard when you didn't do anything wrong or bad and he hurt you that much but we have to accept the reality. Acceptance and forgiveness I guess.

I did felt the same thing. Jerk face must suffer! I hate seeing him happy, but still, the fact that he is, there is really nothing I can do. Kudos to people who moved on internally scathed but still fighting the d*** thing.

Time will heal your wounds. Believe me. I know you might think it is easy for me to say this but I have experienced this too a few years ago. I was so madly in love with someone and suddenly he chose some girl over me after all the things I did for him. At first I was really bitter about it and I couldn't get over it for months, even years. I cried every time I think of him. But after more than a couple of years, I moved on easily. Time will heal our emotional pains. It will become easier for us as time goes by. Now I have a new boyfriend and I fell in love like I've never been hurt before. I'm glad to say he was nothing like the old one.

I can understand how you feel. Not everyone would love you back same like you loved him or her. Some people just do not even know what love is and all they think about is taking , taking and more taking. Love is blind so the person giving in relationship keeps on giving and giving till it is too much to tolerate. But do not worry, time is a real big healer and soon it would heal all your wounds. And like there is always day at end of night, a beautiful dawn is waiting for you.

Hi friend, sad to hear about your stage, don't worry try your maximum to forget about the past as well as your BF. As you mentioned he is interested with his ex, there is no use in thinking about him. You are clear now, so only you take the proper decision of opening heart for another person

love doesn't hurt, it is something that should make us happy, what makes us sad sometimes are broken promises, unfaithfulness, etc, so you just wait and see, you will fall in love again and be happy again, it is a sure thing. look forward to that day miss. wishing you all the love.

You should open your heart though. because even if he choose her over you that only means that he is not your soulmate. and it would be bad if you don't move on from your past relationship. Your lifetime partner maybe near you so it would be best to open you heart to someone who deserves you. You can hangout with your friends to lessen pain for now but don't close your heart