Where am I going for Christmas?
By ctryhnny
@ctryhnny (3460)
United States
December 14, 2012 11:44am CST
I spent Thanksgiving day with my son and his family and had a great day. My daughter isn't speaking to me over something that didn't happen but she's standing her ground and thinking she is right. I usually have Christmas with her and love every minute of it because I get to see my grandson and granddaughter too. I already mailed money in a card to the grandkids because I know she's not inviting me over. My d/i/l has been in the hospital all this week so I haven't even brought up the subject of Christmas to them and don't know if her mother has. I would love to be able to have Christmas in my apartment and cook a nice meal to them and I'm hoping this week will make them think maybe having it here would be a good idea. This is their baby's first Christmas so they may not want to leave their apartment for that reason. I would go to their house if they wanted so I have to leave it up to them. If they have other plans I will be spending Christmas alone and believe me I'm used to that but don't want to do it again. Last year my ex, my kids father passed away on Thanksgiving Day so we had no Christmas that year. Everyone spent it alone. I volunteer at a nearby food kitchen on Christmas morning feeding the poor but then I have the rest of the day and night alone. What's going to happen? Will they come hear for dinner....I have no idea yet.
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
14 Dec 12
I'll be home all day, the kids will come over later in the late afternoon, and we'll open gifts and have some finger foods. It will be nice. Anyone who considers themselves my friend is welcome to join us.
Your holidays last year don't sound very festive, I hope they go better for you this year. No one should be alone on the holidays. Where does your son live? Have you invited him to your house for the holiday? Have they invited you?
Well, I do know I will be on mylot in the morning as I have no real cooking to do. Mom has to work, so we'll probably be watching movies all day.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
14 Dec 12
Maybe, you can prepare a nice meal and have a neighbor or two over? You can extend an invitation to your son and daughter-in-law but not expect that they be there. Although, if your DIL is feeling up to it, spending a couple hours at your place should be okay; they could still have most of the day reserved for their own little family.
It would actually be rather nice if you did cook the dinner, since your DIL and son might not be up to it. Between your DIL trying to get back up-to-speed after being in the hospital and the pair having an infant to tend to, preparing Christmas dinner might be a bit more than they really feel like tackling right now.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
14 Dec 12
They say Christmas is a time for families and for forgiveness, for families to spend time together. Communication is important and I hope you manage to sort things out with your daughter, the longer you leave it the worst it will get. I am spending Christmas with my mum, father will be getting drunk and watching television, but that won't stop me and my mum having a good Christmas. I admire you volunteering at the food kitchen, you have a good heart and I am sure your daughter will come round, there's still time to resolve your differences.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
14 Dec 12
Well I hope things go differently then you expect. I'll be alone on Christmas eve..I have done it before too. I usually watch a bunch of old movies. Christmas day my son and granddaughter are coming over.....I am looking forward to that. Both my daughters will be other places. My oldest with her inlaws in Vegas....and my youngest at her MIL's in Arizona. It is the time of year when you really want to be with family...but sometimes it just doesn't work out!
@chrystalia (1208)
• Tucson, Arizona
15 Dec 12
I already know I will be alone--my other half and two grown boys can't afford to fly up from Tucson to be with me. It was the same thing last year--and it's the one time of the year I really wish I had company. It's too bad your daughter is being that way--my family was awful, but the one thing I will say for all of them is no matter how mad everyone was at each other, they still got together for thanksgiving and Christmas, and behaved for the day--I guess for them some things were a little more important than family drama and fights. You should be able to see your grandkids, even if your daughter is angry--couldn't you arrange to pick them up and take them out for a while or something, or maybe she could drop them off for a while on Christmas eve? Just a thought...
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
14 Dec 12
Im in same boat as you are... Looks like I will be here all alone as well. My son is in usa with dad. My brother said he is going to his girlfriends families home for xmas. Its all good I had them here for thanksgiving. Dont think Ive ever spend a xmas alone in 34 years. Maybe you can come to Mexico we wil have a good old time. Take care there.
I would love to come to Mexico since I've never been there. Maybe we can spend the day on mylot I"m sure it's not going to be busy!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
I'd love to invite you to our place. I normally invite friends over, especially those that I know who won't be spending it anywhere at the time, and most of them are my Muslim friends.
In our country, Christmas is one big deal and family reunions is mainly the thing. Extended families get together and spend the night meeting Christmas day. Here, we consider December 24 to be the Christmas eve. We welcome Christmas day right after midnight of the 24th with joyous parties, so there's usually food, gifts, laughter, etc.
I hope you get to spend Christmas with your love ones as well. It's supposed to be happy day and I sincerely hope and pray that you truly will be happy that day.
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
I'm probably going to spend the Christmas without my family too. First I have work shift on that day and would probably prefer to be at work. Second, My Dad and I were not in good terms because of me having a boyfriend which happens to be against his will. Third, I'm not sure whether I still need to celebrate it since my current religion doesn't believe in Christmas. This is our first Christmas since I was converted to a different religion though my boyfriend still has Christmas.
