Being Too Kind Attracts Bullies

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I started watching Eyeshield21 last Monday and there was one episode when Momori told Sena that he's was too kind and that personality of his attracts bullies. I just remembered some friends who would tell me the same thing. Even when I was in elementary, I would use to help other people even if I know that I will be given inconvenience. I don't know why. It might be the affect of watching too much drama shows and reading too many books about helping out. The thing is I just can't help myself to be too kind. You might think I'm over reacting, I thought so at first. However, I started to reflect on my past actions and observe my daily interaction with other people. When I was in high school, I would tolerate people calling me names that are too offensive and I just laugh. My close friends would get mad at me for not being angry. One time, a close friend of mine brought his girlfriend when we went out with the whole group when the rain poured down heavily. I gave them my umbrella thinking the two of them might get drenched in the rain and I ended up being drenched in the rain myself. When I was in college I would often help out my classmates having difficulty with their study and I would help them with their projects even if I was not yet finished with mine. Until now in the work place I would tend to tolerate people that are too difficult to handle. That's why I end up being blamed for their irresponsibility. I just can't simply help it. Some people like this side of me but there would be times when I just simply feel being abused. I feel guilty when I don't help people out and I say "No". I am being tossed on different shifts and I feel that it's not worth it. I am trying to change slowly but I need to hurry changing because I'm starting to get burned out at work because I would easily say "yes" to tasks that I am not supposed to handle. I'm losing my work-life balance. It's just not worth it.