How Do We Move On?
By shion13
@shion13 (85)
Indonesia
December 15, 2012 9:08am CST
we all had brokenheart, or maybe having brokenheart by now. it's hard to live days alone when we used to spend days with someone we love. it's like living in the world we shouldn't be. we try to forget, so that it won't hurt a lot, but still it hurts. we try to love someone else, but in our mind there's that one still. the one and only one. and then we can't move on.
my question is, why try to? forcing yourself to do something you don't like won't do any good. if you can't move on, if you're still loving that person, why trying to move on?
we can stay loving that one person. love needs to be sincere isn't it? but through enjoying ourselves, meeting many people, we won't be blind with people who care of us or even love us. life is going that way. moving on doesn't need to be forced.
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
hi shion,
It's never been easy to heal a broken heart but it doesn't mean it is the end of the world getting hurt and getting up again of just part of our lives.
There are people who are not meant to be but for sure someone better and really meant for you will come along the way.
happy mylotting
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
15 Dec 12
I don't know how do we move on you tell me and then maybe I could do it. I have been with my husband for 21 years and he up and leaves me for another woman and took our kids. He says he still loves me and wants to be friends but how can you be friends when he will not even talk to me at all. I love me husband and want to work on our marriage but can't do that if he will not talk to me.
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
30 Dec 12
I would like to see him come to his senses but I don't see it happening. If he does things will never be the same between us and as of right now I don't think I will give him another chance because he will not talk to me at all the part that hurts is he is throwing away 21 years of marriage.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I'm so sorry to hear what has happened with your husband. It really sad that he has done this to you. I hope that if you want things to work out, that he will come to his senses and make things right. It is a big thing that you are even willing to forgive him after all he has done.
@al1979ex (125)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
really the best way to move on is by allowing ourselves to meet somebody new. meeting someone new is always refreshing. you get the excitement to know him and to dig deeper about him and his past. spending time just knowing him takes away your lonesome over your own past. dont try to forget. time will come you WILL forget. that;s because you will be preoccupied with your new one.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I think it is best for a person to know themselves and what they really want out of a relationship. And then when they are ready meeting someone new will make them feel alive again. Having a companion brightens our outlook on a lot of things.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
Of course it doesn't need to be forced. One has to move on to better ones self not just to avoid the pain of broken heart. Willingly wanted to move on for ourselves helps us become stronger and independent.
Moving on doesn't mean finding a new love right away. This is a misconception. I really hate people who use a new partner just to get over someone when in fact they still love their ex. That's unfair to the new partner.
If one loves the person who broke one's heart, think if that love helps one in any way. Is it making one miserable? Then why continue being miserable? If one doesn't feel miserable then that's fine.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I completely agree with you. It would be unwise to try and find a new love right away. It is very unfair to do that to the person. We would be comparing them to our recent last relationship. It takes time to deal and cope with a broken heart we have to allow ourselves that time.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
16 Dec 12
For me I think it is easy,you just go to join many kinds of community and meet different people,then you will find out the there are many good and different people in the world,and surely you will fall in love with someone among them,next is best,pls remember.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I think those are good ideas. Being involved in the community and other activities would help a great deal. It keeps our mind and heart busy.We are busy doing things for others and thinking about their needs. Giving makes us feel better in so many ways.And among people like that is were you will want to look for a suitable partner.
@czhey21 (55)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
I tell you what, is really hard to move on specially you been known him for so long is hard to forget those happy moments, the laughter and sadness. And is hard also to accepted just to be your friend as one time your lover. I think is better way is to forget him rather than keep him as a friend so you can move on. . Is easy for you to forget all memories if you don't see him. Thats only way to move on. I know is hard but it takes time.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Dec 12
Yeah dealing with a broken heart takes a lot of time. We need to give ourselves that time and space to really learn what we want in a relationship. It can be difficult to expect others to make us happy when we don't even know what we really want.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
It's not easy to move one, but we should for our own benefit.
It's even harder to live with pain and sorrow in our hearts.
Letting go is the best way to move on from the heartache and leave the past behind.
Go out, hang out with friends and try to mingle with other people.
Go to other places where you might find peace and meet new people as well.
There is no sense in going back or keep thinking about the past...
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Dec 12
It really is for our own benefit that we are able to move on. Life and things around us will continue to go on. We need to do the same. To strengthen ourselves so that we are in a better position when another we are interested in comes along. Time does help with these matters.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Dec 12
Hi,
It's forgetting the past and the pain, it shall always be a part of our history. It is a matter of a conscious decision to rise above it all, to see things from a certain perspective without the clouding emotions and seeing everything clearly in a rational manner.
It is not forced, it is the strength of character that made it so, weakness only drags one back to the depths of pain and suffering born out of fear from being alone.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I agree with you. We definitely have to make decision to work at getting over those things. This way we aren't consumed by negative emotions. It does make us stronger and allows the opportunity to know what we really need out of a relationship. The type of person we want to be with and how we can be a strengthening aid to our partner.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Dec 12
It all takes time and keep yourself busy. Many of us have experienced heartbreak. I know that when I experienced it this took me along time to try and adjust to my new single life. It was very hard and caused me to be depressed. So happy that that time period is over with.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
precisely. i agree with you. moving on doesn't needed to be forced because it will come to you naturally when your heart already forgot the pain the the person had caused you. it is okay to be bitter for some time. sometimes being bitter makes you realize the true value of yourself and everyone around you.
