when your lover is happy when she/he isn`t with you

It is very hard to hear that, but it's extremely crucial that you both communicate with each other. Although your partner can have time for her or his own with his friends but if it's constantly happen that the partner feel not happy with his/her partner but his/her friends then it's the sign of the relationship which has become colder. So talk from heart to heart with him/her, it's crucial to define whether you want to save your relationship.

When one feels happier to be with friends than the being with the partner ,it only means tnat the relationshp that they have is not in a loving environment. One could be too nagging or just a bore every tome tney are together.

Hi adhyz82, no matter how much we love the opposite side and are more than willing to be together all the time. However it's wise to have respective time to meet each others friends or family members. Or doing favorite activities respectively. I don't think the couple would have all the same activities in common. Certainly it would be ideal if the two lovers have the same interest in everything and thus could get along together all the time. My husband has his few morning tea friends. They gather and enjoy the hot pot of chinese black tea and chat happily. I don't join them and I prefer to read and type mylot posts at home. He will buy breakfast and eat together with me at home, after an hour or so having happy hour with his old bucks I think only old couple like us could live in this relaxing way. Yeah, enjoy our respective happy moment when we have our respective activity in different places. But it's hard for me to accept such situation when I was young. We have to, if we really love each other. And have to adapt such habit to suit each other for we have a long way to go on the love path. It's too much if one of them ignore the feeling of the lover even knowing that he or she would be happy to be together with the friends Happy posting

Such feeling comes up in mind many times since they feel alone or may be comparing their other friends with their lover.

sorry to hear that. Communication is the best resolution!! Hoping everything is fine for your friend!!

Of course, knowing that your mate is happy without you would hurt, but what can you do? Let her be happy if you want to have a healthy relationship. Don't own her or else she would want to leave often. Just make her happy, and don't forget to stay friends with her if you want her to run back to your arms. Friendship is very important in relationships.

It is okay to ask for personal time away from your partner. I believe everyone has that right, but it's different when he/she says that he/she is happier with other people than his/her partner in the relationship. That's definitely a sign of problem in the relationship. They must lay it on the table and have a good talk about it, maybe sort things out and see where it goes. Some damages can be fixed especially when it's still in the early stage.

I guess if that's the way your gf or bf feels about you then he/she isn't still in love with you anymore. It's best to just let go and find someone else who would love to be in your company. This is what I will tell your friend who is in this complicated relationship.

I think that a person should be happy with or without his partner by his side. Even though you have a mutual feelings and commitment with each other, it doesn't mean that his world only revolves around you and whenever your not around, he should be sad. Everybody has its own life outside the relationship and I believe that being happy with friends is their own right.

Indeed mathematics much easier than love Well, being not always with our lover is normal. One needs time for him/her too, sometimes. Even for a married couple. But if this going on and on, well, it's definitely not healthy at all. Better clear it up, whether the couple still want to continue their relationship, or just break it now for good. Before it will be more pain in the future ... That's my opinion, my friend ...

I haven't been in a relationship before but I would say that it's normal when you would want to spent more time with your special someone. However, everyone still needs time with themselves. Each one still has his or her own life to live. Being so, your friend should understand and not force her partner too stay with her all the time.

I think it will be like the end of the world when someone you love very dearly tells you that she/he is happy to be alone. Although it is all right that there are times when she/he would want to be with her/his friends to do their own things like shopping/playing futsal, a couple that is deeply in love will want to spend most of their time together. That is what I feel. Love is not really a mystery. If you love someone, surely you will want to be around her most of the time.

Most of time partners grow tired of each other and they come up with silly excuses to break up. Love can sometimes be complicated and play tricks on you. It hurts to be in your shoes Dear. But don't worry, because after bad times, comes good times.

nothing weird. Because his/her world doesn't revolve around you all the time, change in mood is understandable. What need to do is to comfort your lover when he/she is unhappy.

adhyz just because o ne falls in love and g e ts married okayh or shacks up does not mean either person has to do nothing but be with the otherr person 24/7 as most of us married woman still keep our women friends and while hubby goes off to play golf we visit and have a coffee time. Why should not we be happy away from our loves as well as with them? i cannot see how anyone could spend 25 hours a day seven days a week just with the lover, what about friend, relatives and in most modernn cases jobs? do you want your lover miserable when he or she is not with you say at work? wo uld you call hjim or hjer e v ery ten minutes because they are not withyou? of course not.

oh my!!! I cannot imagine if my lover is not happy with me. I would rather separate him if that is the case But for sure my lover is always happy with me We love each other! !

Love is a very complicated subject. It is beyond our understanding. When two lovers are in love, they are willing to scarify for each other so that the other half can be happy. One is willing to die for the other so the other half can live and be happy. This is called the mystery of love.

Hi adhyz: I think it's normal to feel this way. In fact it's depressing when you start feeling that you don't care about the person you love. Love is a feeling that must be cultivated day after day. ALVARO

Well, I would say it's inevitable for people wanting to spend some time away from their lover if they are always together. However, if a lover says something like he/she is suffering by being with you, that is very harsh. Anyway, if your lover tries to balance out time spent with you and time spent with their friends, then I would not worry. I would start worrying if your lover seems like they are trying to avoid spending time with you by always spending time with friends. If you are in a relationship where you don't feel appreciated enough, you need to speak up and tell your partner.

I think that's normal. We can be happy without the presence of our lover or partner. We can be happy with the presence of our friends, workmates and family. There are different degree which how can we feel the happiness with our loved ones.But if our loved ones told us that we are their burden then it is so much very hurtful with our side.