When trust has all gone and you can not forgive a person

They say women forgive but they don't forget, and that men forget but they don't forgive. Judging from what happened to my marriage, that is very true.

Hard toforgive and forget a broken trust I am ilike you I just cant

It is sad but when a person you have known for years has betrayed your trust you can't feel comfortable with them anylonger. I can't anyway. Its usually not the ones I have known for years but the ones I have known for a shorter amount of time. People are only human and they usually show their colors straight away.

Hello my friend jugsjugs Ji, Well, I wish to response by our own experience and you may find out my views accordingly. First thing having married since 43 yrs now withoiut knowing each other, we have only common relations and friends. One of my hubby's friend known between themselves since their birth , took parts in all all walks of life, including settling his friends marriege and taking timely action for his friend's cancerdisease and making him again to live, never hided anything, but one day when my hubby was informed by third person about marriage of my hubby's friend, my hubby got stunned. At first hand he never believed, but truth always comes one day. After some time my hubby was told that it was this same child hood friend who became instrumental to divert share of his property. On knowing this, my hubby's friend stopped relations, but my hubby always expects him and his family, having a great principal of his life to become pure in thought word and deed forgetting and forgiving everything. He wants to become pure as if born now. May God bless You and have a great time [em]thumbup

I am a person that could forgive anybody who has hurt me, whether he says sorry or not. But saying sorry would make me feel better of course. To forget? Well, I might not, but it doesn't mean that I would always remind that person the pain he has caused me.

I can forget the hate, the anger. But I do not think it can bring back how we both were before. Once the trust is broken, it is so hard to earn/give it back. This is the reason why, people must not make promises or give words they couldn’t do. Once you did wrong to someone, see to it that you prove them how sorry you are and try to never do it again.

When I hear stories like this I always say there are two sides to the story. I also find that there is usually 2 guilty parties. The trust isn't betrayed without an underlying reason. If it's a betrayal against loyalty and commitment then that person was not getting what they needed from the relationship which left them empty inside and a need to be filled.

Maybe it's okay to give one more chance but if after all chances have been given and trust is repeatedly broken, then don't give chances anymore.

I guess it depends on their mistake. If it's a very serious one, I won't forgive them. If I think that they deserve to have a second chance, then I'll give them another one. We're just human beings. We also have to be considerate at times. Let's just pray that they should be true the second time around and won't ever break our trust again. :)

I find it easier to forgive but let me tell you I will never forget. Once forgiven though don't think for a minute that I won't be on my guard. The trust will take time to regain. It's not easy but you need to take it one day at a time.

This is a question that cannot be answered with a yes or no answer. I cannot say I can always forgive a person who had broken my trust and I cannot say that I cannot forgive them either. It really depends on the situation. It also depends on who that person is too. If it's a family member like my own child, I would probably forgive her because no matter what happens, she'll always be my child. I have no choice in that matter. I will give her the chance to redeem herself. But if it's a friend whom I've known even for many years, I will probably not trust that person again because we can always find more trustworthy friends. We have a choice in that matter.

When that happens its time to move on.. get on with better things. How are you? mates gate is back now at 100% hope to see you there and here. Have a great weekend.

You can forget, and it's good for your well-being to do so. It means that you understand th reasons of the other, even if you don't agree with them. Or if you don't know the reasons that you don't keep bad feelings, because you are already over that thing, it's just a mistake he did and you accept this. But forgeting it's something else. It can happen only if it didn't mean too much. You can't forget a really bad thing and you shouldn't do it. Because that thing can repeat itself. And it's wrong not to be prepared the second time. Bad thing happens for a reason, and the main is to be added to our life experience.

I can forgive, if the right question is being asked. I mean it's hard to give your forgiveness to someone who is not even asking for it. I was abandoned by the father of my daughter for another girl and was hoping that he can even give me a simple sorry for leaving us and totally not giving out support. I can forget but it will take time. It depends on the gravity of the fault that has been done.

Hello jugsjugs. It can be hard to forgive a person with the trust gone, at least, the relationship between both sides cannot be as harmonious as it used to be. Take one of my colleagues for instance. I used to help him a lot in his work, but however much I help him in his work, it is easy to get him feel dissatisfied with me once the service to him does not make him contented. There is a gap between us and we don't want to speak too much to each other unless we are connected with work. I am done with him for his dealing with people, who is so easy to form a judgement to others. Take care.

You can forgive, but you do not have to trust them again. Jesus said that we must forgive, but I don't remember him saying anything about forgetting.

Do you realize that by not letting go of what happened, you keep this in your life. What happened may very well have only been a small thing to the other person. They may have forgotten all about it, but you keep it alive in your life . If you can understand that we all do things and many times they hurt others, but if we own the action and even better try to see the other's point of view we can understand and right or wrong forgive. Most of us hurt others out of fear, and even when our fear seems trivial or unfounded at the time it's important to us. So for your own sake let it go, you will be alot happier.

I don't trust easily. When I do, if that trust is broken I can never forgive that person. I would probably cut them out of my life forever!

If trust has been totally damaged it is very difficult to forgive and forget. But with prayers and grace of God, I have forgiven the person who have offended me and my children after the passage of years but the trust and respect could no longer be restored.

if trust is broken we begin to have doubts. and when we have doubts it is always difficult to have peace of mind whenever we again have to mingle with the same person who broke that trust. if it happens in a company for example where an employee broke that trust he will surely be fired, that is how they treat people who broke the trust, those who break it are opportunists, they build up your trust in them while they are just waiting for the right time for them to do their thing. we can forgive them, but we do not trust them anymore, no matter how they say how sorry they are....it is because again "we don't trust them anymore."