My friend has not been to her husband's gym

It is kinda ironic to have a husband who is physically fit as him to has a wife that doesn't care about being healthy at all. But if she does exercise at home and still has a lot of weight, maybe she has a metabolic disorder. She should seek medical advice so that she'll know why there isn't much happening to her body no matter how much she exercises.

Well your friend make sense , she know people will talk negatively that her husband claimed to be a trainer and have a very fat wife . No oe can force her to go and I feel she is also embarrassed for herself , to have the student at the gym knowing she is fat and her husband is a trainer . Cant he just trained her at home for couple of months then she can go to the gym . Nothing is wrong with being fat but when it become a health issue then that is the problem .

It would be so bad for business iof his wife were to go to his gym. It would be a big strain for her and embarrassing too I guess. That would put a lot of pressure on her. Why doesn't her husband help her to be more fit and slim? I'll bet he either ignores her at home or gives her a hard time.

And what exactly is your discussion about? If it's not a problem to your friend and her husband, why is it an issue to you? There are plenty of men who love big wives instead of the skinny types who have the figure that only exists out of bones that doesn't feel very soft at all. Also there are plenty of people not able to lose weight no matter what they do.

What does her husband say about her weight? I think her husband should motivate her to lose weight after all he is a fitness trainer.

what an interesting thing. your friend's husband cannot make his wife lose weight even he is a trainer in the gym. the funny thing is your friend will not go to his gym since she is afraid others will not trust her husband. haha

Wow a 27 waist that is pretty impressive, I am happy with my 34 inch, and I've got to the age now where I will stabilize at 34. I am not surprised she hasn't been to her husband's gym, imagine how she would feel, all eyes on her, immediately being judged, especially if her husband is so thin.

Thinking of one of my friends he is white and his wife is black. They are both wonderful people. Your friend is very fat and her husband works at the gym. So he is slim and muscular. I can understand how your friend feels about going to the gym. A very fat lady maybe can't imagine losing any weight. She might feel depressed about how fat she is. It is rather like a man is a driving instructor and his wife isn't a driver. It could take a lot to learn to drive with her husband. Good luck to your friend You Less. I know two or three very fat people. They are happy.

There are so many reasons why we do not control our weight, it is hard to say much about this situation. It may be part of the relationship between these two people, it may be her insecurities in her body, it may even be medical. Fear of any kind may cause this. Only she can tell why this is a problem for her.

Youless, it is a pity to hear that your friend don't dare to visit her husband's gym due to fat. I think it is no harm, if both of them don't mind much about this situation. Another way is, she can ask her husband to train her up while at home. I mean, she can ask for her husband's guide on which exercise suitable for her to slim down her figure. Most important is, she should think positively about herself. And everything is possible...

The husband must encourage the wife to join the gym and lose weight. My sister's husband is also a gym instructor and that's the reason why my sister was able to maintain her good body shape because her husband always told her to come and join him during sessions.

Hi I agree people will ask about the problem and the don't trust the man. I mean this may happen if we go to a gym and see the person himself is not fit or as in the case his wife is not fit we don't believe more over we may even comment he is not able to train his wife properly to maintain her weight and what will he do for us. This is normal/general perception of people which we see. she may be having some others problems for not loosing weight like thyroid problem and all . some people don't eat much but tend to gain weight .This again depends upon the body how it reacts and all.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, there is nothing wrong in going to gym to reduce the weight, as well as his hubby don't get any issues with her gym activities, there is no need to afraid about this thing. She can go to his gym to reduce her excess weight.

Overweight can due to certain disease, not only lack of exercise. If your friend really feel that way, just go for other gym!

Hi youless, your friend is right she must not go to the gym as it will jeopardize his husband credibility. I for sure will evaluate everything before spending my money to someone who cant walk the talk but your friend husband cannot be blame since your friend a plus size. Hope your friend also knows how to dress up well and not make her weight an issue.

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well it sounds shocking and surprising that the two are poles apart but still it is up to your friend to go to his gym, u cannot force her to go to that place. I can understand her feelings that she will be humiliated if every one gets to know that she is the wife of the trainer and i think to some extent she has to overcome her fear and give it a shot and go gym independently without letting anyone about it. What say?