An Apology To A Mylot Member
By robspeakman
@robspeakman (1700)
December 16, 2012 5:12pm CST
I believe that I may owe a member an apology.
Mylot is a wonderful place to share views, opinions and yes earn money.
I am only human and sometimes in my attempt to get across a point or question the validity of another member's comment, coming out on top can blind us to the feelings of others.
I was having a discussion and responded to a person's responses.
I still don't agree with what the member said - In fact I found the some of the comments maddening and intolerant.
Even so, the member is still a fellow human being and I ignored the fact that I may have upset them.
I am very thick skinned and I do not get affected by things and comments directed at me - I sometimes don't realise that others are not as thick skinned.
So -
I was always taught that we should be big enough to know when we are wrong and issue an apology.
[b]This is my apology to Debra K Carey.
I am sorry if my responses caused offence, that was never my intention.
However heated a discussion becomes, one should also respect the viewpoint of others[/b]
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9 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
17 Dec 12
Well said from a great man there. It takes a real man to admit when something didnt go or come across the right way. men to you my friend. Another reason why I love you dearly.....
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@habibti320 (925)
• United States
17 Dec 12
Rob, I've come to enjoy reading your responses and posts and I can certainly understand how you get so heated.
Thanks for the reminder to try to keep our emotional responses to a minimum and treat other members respectfully.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
17 Dec 12
I met Rob at another site.. and told him I knew hed be a great member here at mylot. Ive always enjoyed him and his blogs.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
17 Dec 12
Thats so nice. you remind me so much of another mylotter who has since left. he left bcause he had this tendency to get just a bit too passionate about his viewpoints. Him and I wouuld often go back and forth. It got a bit ugly at times and I admitedly got a bit rude and insultng with him. i never really took it to heart and alwayd returned to his conversations. As iritated as i sometimes got with him, a part of me missedthe stimulating debates. he apolpgized to me when he went too far and rsorted to personal insult. i respected that a lot. we actually found a comon ground amidst our many differences. we have a friendship outside ofmylot and while we dont talk often, i value his fiendship. i hope you and deb can find that spot. if not you are going in time out for real.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
29 Dec 12
Hey Now!!! Good man. I hear what you're saying here. And I would like to add that a thick skin does take us a long way. I hardly get affected by anything. But we do have to remember that there are sensitive people out there that get hurt by some things said. Well, in any case, I am sure Debra accepted your apology and everything is now cool. But, don't stop being you and writing like you do. Thats what makes it all worth it.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
17 Dec 12
Let Bygones be bygones.
This is so mature. thumbs up for you Rob. I am so glad that you made one of the greatest acts a person can do. HUMILITY. If I am Debra, I will be giving you a slice of cake and a cup of coffee and the patch things up. Yes, we are all here in mylot and assumes that everyone here is mature. Mature enough to handle differences and disagreements. Every comment here should not be taken as wrong and right. However, everyone should practice care or tact in expressing views much as everyone should be opened and accepting of the criticism and indifference of the views of others. We came from different places, have experienced different situations, "in" different status and we are born unique. Always remember that a meat for you might be poison to another one. A clean water to you might be an acid to others. To each is his own. RESPECT. the opinion of others. whether how strongly we disagree on it. To you again Rob.. such a great act. HUMILITY 
@SuperShames (780)
• India
18 Dec 12
Hi robspeakman.
I have the same problem as you. I have a very high tolerance level and expect others to have the same. But over the time I have realized that some of the mylotters are very sensitive here. Hence when I feel that my comment might sound offensive ten I start the comment with a disclaimer asking to please ignore the comment if found offensive. Anyways have a nice day...
~SuperShames~
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@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
17 Dec 12
I think at times people take the responses they get with a grain of salt...we're online and can say and feel anyway we want without having to worry about what someone thinks of us. I'm sure I've said things people don't like but that's just life. It is nice of you to apologize but you could send her a private message too.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
17 Dec 12
That is good of you to do , I hope you will not have get so heated next time . I try not to get upset with anyone here because after all its just a friendly discussion and difference in opinions .
Whenever someone share a view I dont like , I tell them to further explained because I dont mind and it may not apply to my taste but maybe it will do something else for someone interested .
I try not to get into politics discussion , I made one by mistake and I am very careful with my choice of words and no one feel offended at the end of the day ( I hope ).
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16763)
• China
17 Dec 12
I admire you for the way you deal with such things.But there again,here on mylot, we can say the first thing that comes into our heads,even take issue with someone as long as we mean no harm or don't offend somebody on purpose.It is not surprising that we have a different take on something.
