no to relationship... for now. :)
By Miss G
@nhailojaye (207)
Philippines
December 17, 2012 8:28pm CST
Yes. I am saying NO to relationships for now. I now realized that I shouldn't be rushing things. If things will be, it will be.
And based from my past experience in love, I have come to this realization. Yes, I've been so unlucky. Maybe, he's not really for me. but I think, it all happen for a better reason. As of now, I'm in the process of making myself happy. of course with my friends, my family and God who's always there for me.
But, sometimes, I'd hope that it never was really the end for us. Some part of me still wishes to be with him. Maybe, its not really that easy to forget a person whom you loved for almost 5 years of your life. But that's it. Definitely, he put an end to all my agony. Honestly, I still love him. I kept on thinking of him. The happy memories we shared together, and it really somehow makes me smile. I wish it will be repeated once again. :)
But really for now, I'll stay focus on things. I'm in priority with the things I give up last time for choosing him. HAHAHA! So, NO to LOVE/RELATIONSHIPS for now. Really. :)
And if ever, he comes back, I am not closing my heart to him... All I wanted for him is prove that he's worth of me after all. I wanna let him proved to me that he changed and that the same thing will never ever happen again.
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13 responses
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Go girl!~ Just be strong for yourself. Don't completely avoid love. It will come to you in time and when it does, don't push it away.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
18 Dec 12
Keep in mind we always likes to recollect the happy movements that has happen in our life but whatever sad movement had comes up in our life will crops up again and again in our mind and as we tries to forget them more we will thinks about it.
So get involved in such a activities where you can remain busy and have a faith in God one fine day such a person will come in your life who will love you more then himself.
@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
18 Dec 12
I say No to relationships for now Also. I've been in to many bad relationships and 2 failed marriages. I am doing good single. I won't look, if mr. right comes my way then I'll see how it goes. I used to be married to a man for 2 years but knew him for more years than that. I used to miss him a lot since he was my high school sweetheart. but I finely moved on and don't miss him. He's happily married and moved on. So I am happy he got over me too. We just weren't meant to marry or be together anymore. I am glad we didn't have any kids together.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
18 Dec 12
You are a very smart person. It is so hard for so many people to see the need to do this. We really do need to take the time and see what things we want in our life and the type of relationship we want to have. Making ourselves happy is important. We shouldn't look to others to fulfill our needs. We are often a lot happier if we look for ways to make ourselves happy than feeling like another person can fulfill our needs.
It definitely will take time to adjust to not being with that person. And even after years of time you may find yourself wondering how he is doing or what is happening in his life. It is good to allow that time to see what he will do.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
18 Dec 12
Wise woman! Do not close your heart to love, for we all need love. If the relationship has become a burden, it's good that it has ended. Love should be easy and should flow both ways. Take time out to determine what it is that you want in life, then you go for it! Good luck!
@bluesea3 (167)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 12
Happy and love are concepts on our mind. But, actually they are symbols which can be red by our heart only. My suggestion, try to find and listen to your heart. Many people loss their happiness because of disobeying their heart.
For example, breathing is happiness for asthma sufferers, eating meat is happiness for many poor people, get marrying is happiness for single person in a long time.
So, learn by listening your heart to find the truly happiness and love. Nice to share..
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
The right time will come for you, when it does it will then be the best man that God has prepared for you. We all have our experiences, and we all have those people we have come to love, and not love anymore because we can never be together... people change and some people will always be themselves too not wanting to change. We can only be happy thinking of the memories, and be hopeful of what other memories we might also have become when you are finally with the love of your life.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
I guess you are on the right track for giving your heart a break if it has taken its toll already. I guess it is time to love yourself more this time since I think getting or moving from a broken heart is difficult and will be more complicated if your rush things back again. Let it heal first and maybe when you are ready again then allow it to come again to you.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
It's nice to know that at least you keep yourself busy with your friends and love ones.
Yes, love will come at the right time, don't rush.
if you lost someone, that only means someone right is to come along.
Sometimes, it takes to let go of someone for the right to come.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
18 Dec 12
I'm glad you are taking time for you. When we are teenagers most are looking for relationships when we should be looking for friendship and knowledge, that's how many girls grow old with low self esteem and wants to be a mom on top of that. We should know ourselves before being serious and getting married.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
You must have felt true love coz of the length of time you had with him. And despite being hurt, you still have left that special spot for him. Well, if you are really meant to be, you'd be in each other's arms again.
For now, let your hear rest and enjoy what single blessedness has in store for you. It doesn't mean that you have to be sad and lonely if you do not have him in your life. It is true that the best people that can make you real happy, most especially that Christmas is around the corner are your friends and family.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
I don't know how you two broke up so I won't comment on that.
I'm glad you are moving on and not rushing into another relationship. You need to heal completely before you move on to another relationship. Many people have failed relationships because maybe they rush from one relationship to the next and they are not really over their ex.
When I broke up with my ex, I didn't really think of having relationship with anyone. I didn't even want to think of him because he betrayed me. But I love my new found freedom and I spent those times more with my friends, I was so happy to be free of him. That's why I have no regrets dumping him.
