Need to keep up with my friends too.....
By trisha27
@trisha27 (3494)
United States
December 18, 2012 1:28am CST
So today I was talking with my friend from work. We were talking about when I was leaving work and all and she just randomly brought up, I'm going to be sad. I was like why? She was like because once you leave I won't hear from you any more. She was like whatever, I know I'll lose contact with you. 
Then I just randomly brought up why do you say that cause I don't talk to our other friend as much after she left. I mean we only talk a bit on facebook through messages and all, but not as much. 
I really feel bad, and now I think even if I try to talk to her now and be friends and all, she'll just brush it off. And anyway, she was like yeah and you and her were like a lot closer then you and I were. Now you don't talk to her.
I feel so bad cause she is right, I don't know what to do. I'd still like to be friends with the girl that left, but I think I want to make it a point to keep up with all the friends that I have made while at work. I don't want to prove her right that I won't keep in touch with her after I leave. Does anyone have any pointers. On maybe how I can keep my friendship with the girl who already left. Thanks.
Then I just randomly brought up why do you say that cause I don't talk to our other friend as much after she left. I mean we only talk a bit on facebook through messages and all, but not as much. I really feel bad, and now I think even if I try to talk to her now and be friends and all, she'll just brush it off. And anyway, she was like yeah and you and her were like a lot closer then you and I were. Now you don't talk to her.I feel so bad cause she is right, I don't know what to do. I'd still like to be friends with the girl that left, but I think I want to make it a point to keep up with all the friends that I have made while at work. I don't want to prove her right that I won't keep in touch with her after I leave. Does anyone have any pointers. On maybe how I can keep my friendship with the girl who already left. Thanks.1 person likes this
8 responses
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
18 Dec 12
I would like to add here that yes distance does bring on differences in a relationship but it all depends on how you look onto it. surely contact becomes less as you live away from your loved ones...but then it can be overlooked if they really are you love ones. One more thing I would like to bring here will be mutual love for each other. If only one of the two is miking effort continue the relation, it becomes hard for him to fight against the nourishing frustration. I hope you will maintain your relation as it is now. Good luck.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
18 Dec 12
i agree we need to put our effort sometimes for the relation to be on good terms.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
18 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i do not know how to react in your case but had i been in your place then i would have assured her that we will stay in touch with each other no matter even if we are not working in the same office.
I know u must be confused regarding what her intentions were behind saying such words but i think u should have consoled her that u will stay in touch with her even after leaving this office so that she will not point fingers on your commitment in the future.
What say?
@celticeagle (167025)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Dec 12
DO you really have anything incommon with this friend of yours. SOmetimes the only thing you have in common is the job. And we do meet alot of people in our lives that are just co-workers. We probably have never noticed or become friends with half of them if we haven't worked at the same place.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
•
4 Feb 13
As we move from place to place during our life our freindship circles change too. All you can do is try to stay connected, if it doesn't happen naturally then it isn't meant to be.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
18 Dec 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about your situation, if she is not interested in your friendship, it is really hard to continue her friendship, we don't have the ability to force anyone to be friend with us. Try to impress her with your activities and get her friendship back, otherwise forget about her and concentrate with your work
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
18 Dec 12
I understand what you are saying there.. have you ever thought about having them come to mylot under you?? You can then discus many things with those friends right here, and earn from them. At least you can keep in touch with them here. Merry christmas......
@miyazaki12 (429)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
Gautam is correct. Proximity does affect the bond between two friends. However if you truly are good friends even if you can't afford to contact each other daily, once you get the chance to interact, you should still have that warm and fuzzy feeling and you start sharing a part of your life again.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
18 Dec 12
Hi
I can understand this happens when we leave our friends or the working place some do become emotional . But as you know it becomes normal after some days. we think we will be in contact but this never happens as days pass we move far and some differences also arise between some.
Only we can do is try to be in contact which is little bit difficult i know .
