Are we still friends?

I have stopped talking to a friend of my mine because he said some things that I couldn't ever understand and I didn't want to be assoicated with a person like that at all.

I could not remember having experienced that at this stage of my life. Whenever I felt that my friend became cold, I would not anymore talk with her. I don't have many friends so I could observe who became cold and whose who are still with me. My friends are not near me however, if I like I could go to them but we just keep in touch thru texting.

Yes, I did experience the same when my high school buddy and I went to the same University. I was hoping that we could make our friendship a lot more closer since we took the same course. But unfortunately, she changed. Although we took up Dentistry, we were from different sections. Well, my new friends noticed it,too. I was hurt. But then, I realized, that maybe she just wouldn't want to be friends with me anymore. So I never asked her why she became that way towards me. That was in 1990. I saw her in Facebook but I didn't add her to my friends list. She sent a request, but I never responded. A couple of months back, she said, hi. Well, it has been 22 years, right? I replied , "Hello". But that was it.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this. I wonder why your friend is doing this, if you both are really best friends, it is really hard to forget about the friendship. Don't worry he will come back soon and give importance to your friendship.

Yes, I have a friend way back in college, she is my bestfriend. She migrated in Australia and living there now with her family. From then on, we hardly talk. Ocassionally, just like in my wedding, she greeted me. Seldom, we talked now. Probably, she is busy nowadays. Maybe your friend is busy too. In time, I'm sure he will remember you. have a nice day!

Why..What happened to you to be so.. Remember friends are the only ones to help us forever in our lives.. and better you try to meet him personally....and solve issues between you two... good luck!! buddy

Well I guess there was something that made him ignore you that long. I think if you still want to pursue your friendship with him, then you should try to meet him personally so that you can talk one on one and from there you can finally make a closure already. From the way it looks he is not keen to answering you by the methods you have tried already. One last resort is to meet him in person since this is the only way to confirm things up.

I had a some what simialar situation. My friend accused me of stealing from her after I had stayed with her for three months. If she and I were such good friends how could she accuse me of such a thing?

Through out life friendships come and go. Many times it's nothing more then the challenges of life that draw us apart. As you get older and life slows down, you may return to those relationships. I never have, but Hubby loves to get in touch with school friends. I this friend of yours is unresponsive, it may have nothing to do with you, his/her life may just be to full at this time. Leave it alone for a while and then try again. Blessings

Chiwa, indeed it is hard to find a good and understanding friend nowadays. Have you able to recall the very last time that both of you had spoken. Maybe in some of the conversations,there are some words which he disagreed until he felt not interested to continue to be your friend. Because i ever came across almost the same situation like yours. Some friends able to take jokes with an open-minded. Where else, some friends are very easily being offended, although there are only a slight jokes can kill the friendship. Hope you don't feel very sad by this situation, try to look to the bright side of your life. After all, we can still befriend with others if there is a fate.

Yes, it is hard when friends just start being cold for what seems to be no reason. I have had it happen where a friend would not take my calls, and when I tried texting him that he would say that he was busy. It end up that he was shutting me out because he did not like something that I did. The odd part was that the friend could not see how he had triggered this negative reaction.

I have run into something similar and I too have no idea why it happened or the reasoning behind it. I tried everything I knew and nothing seemed to be good enough. I finally gave up and decided it just wasn't worth it anymore. You can only hit your head against a brick wall for so long before it starts to hurt, and then eventually you become numb to the pain. Now, only you can answer the fact if this person is still your friend or not. Would you be willing to forgive this person for their behavior? I know if my friend ever showed up at my door, I would open it for him, but I won't be chasing him anymore. If I was important to him, he would do what he could to salvage the relationship. I choose to love from afar. If we never see each other again, then so be it. I love and respect myself to much to be caught up in anymore drama.

Actually I do not encounter this situation,and I think that everything happens will has a reason,so why you just ask your friend or some people around this friend for the reason?

This is very common. I'm sure you are not only one who experienced this. Friendship or any relationship often becomes cold when there communication is cut. Lack of communication is one of the main reason why things like this happen. If you think you never did anything to make him feel about you then there's nothing to worry about, maybe the problem does not come from you. What is important is you did what you can just to restore your friendship. Chill!

If he can't even be bothered to respond or communicate with you, then what kind of friend is that? You are better off without him to be honest. It's his loss. Maybe there are circumstances where he hasn't been able to contact you, but hey, you are not a mind reader, you are not to know what goes on in his head! You can only reach out so much, if he isn't interested, I wouldn't waste any more time on him, the ball is in his court now, if he wants to chat leave it to him to get in touch now.

Sound like you really tried to talk to this friend . Its been over 2 years so its pretty clear that they are mad at you for some reason . I would just let them go because it doenst make much sense if they wont answer you after you are trying so many different method to contact them .

sounds to me like you dont much need him.. you have all of us here at mylot. merry xmas.............

Just because you had high school friends, does not make them life time friends. People move on. A friendship is mutual. If he is not interested in continuing the friendship with you, then you must let him go. You don't own him. Your friendship that you had when you both were in high school was not carved in stone. People change and situations change. If he is not responding to you, then you have received your answer - whether or not you like that answer. You could send him one and only one more text and tell him that you wish him all the best in life. Then, move on and get on with the rest of your life.