cheat on me once, shame on you... cheat on me twice, shame of me

I agree with this to an extent. I think that when a person cheats after the second time the innocent partner would be wise to leave. If it was me though I'm not sure if I would be able to forgive the first time. Cheating period though is bad.

I have heard of these words myself and yes, it is a shame indeed for the person who cheated on you first time... this should be able to give you pains and all but then, i think it should be kept in mind, and if the person who cheated on you was given another chance, he sure should not be given a thrid time. because if you allowed yourself to be hurt again, and again, then you are a gool!

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes i completely agree on this line that if we are cheated by someone once then it might be the fault of the other person but if we are cheated by the other person again then it means that we have got into the wrong company and it was because of our decision to accept that person in our life that that person cheated on us. So we have to be judgmental and watchful of our actions and decisions while accepting a person for the second time. What say?

I have a freind here who has caught her husband cheating 4-5 times. I ask her why she is still with the loser. merry xmas.....

Once you find your partner cheating on you, the trust between you and your partner is shattered. It's very difficult to change the nature of a person. For whatever reason, some partners within a relationship are driven to cheat. But it's really up to the person about whether or not they should forgive them. While I usually believe in second chances, it depends on the people in the relationship. If you can recognize one person in the relationship is not taking your relationship seriously and flirting with other people, it might be wise not to give them a second chance. I would suggest just being very vigilant of your partner's behavior and just use common sense.

It means if your significant other cheats on you and you found out, then shame on the person who did the cheating. If the person just allows that significant other to keep on cheating and doesn't do anything or continues to stay in the relationship, then shame on that person. It means two people are aware of the cheating. It is like allowing a criminal to keep on stealing. If you didn't know your significant other was a criminal,then you are innocent. Once you are aware that your partner - boyfriend or husband - is a criminal. He was a robber, murderer, or whatever - then you are now part of the criminal act. You are responsible to do something when you find out. Cheating is something you can do something about - get counceling, pack your bags and leave, talk to a minister, get professional help or whatever. You are responsible for what you know.

Personally my thoughts, why shame on me? It was not you who did the cheating was it, and you did not purposely tell the man or woman to go cheat with the other person, or condone it. I always feel, that is part of the problem when people tend to blame themselves for something like this, and even want the other person so bad they continue to allow this. Personally it is Best to get out while you can, get some counseling and help for this situation and move on. Life is better than having to live with something like this.

I think that first sentence is appropriate and the second one is not? Because cheating twice is not shame on us but shame with the one who cheat on us.

I can agree with that saying. Yes the person cheat on your once it's there bad because they did, you trust them to take them back and then they do it again shame on you for trusting them. I say this to people once a cheater always a cheater that means they won't change for you most likely and won't probably stop cheating on you. I've seen this time and time again with people.

What movie were you watching? I'd like to see it myself. I also believe in that quote. But to me: cheat on me once and you lose me forever. No second chances! I don't like wishy washy partners who have weak convictions and can't resist temptations. Seriously, I don't need that. I'd rather be a single sexy lady than be a grumpy and paranoid girl friend of a cheater.

I have never really liked that saying. It indicates that you shouldn't trust anyone after they mess up once. If someone does something that betrays your trust, and you being the bigger person trust them again and allow them in your life, you are being forgiving as it should be. Some people are truly sorry for any thing they have done to ruin a relationship (well, I am sure there are some out there that are). Just because someone cheats you once doesn't mean they are going to do it again. We have to be forgiving people, because if we're not it will eat us up inside. I've heard that saying another way too. "Fool me once, shame on you...fool me twice, shame on me." Either way, I just don't care for this quote. It implies that we shouldn't forgive someone that did us wrong once.

yes it is true. when someone cheat on you once it is her/his fault. but him he/she cheats on you twice, it is already your fault for you had let him/her make a foll out of you for a second time. thus, guard your heart.

I think when you got cheated twice, its really shame on you because you let yourself get fooled to him/her. Even he/she will cheat you once, he/she can't be trusted. Unless he will prove somethinf. That's just my opinion. Merry Christmas!

Alilin28, I think that this means that the person cheated on should have a heart to forgive once. The matter here is to determine why the spause cheated on you. If it is his behaviour then there is a proble. If it is because of your behaviour, there is a problem. There is a difference between being weak and being wicked.

this is my opinion of cheat on me once, shame on you cheat on me twice, shame on me. yes, if you accept your partner cheating on you then shame on you. yes, definately shame on the other person who cheats on you. i would be out immediately with cheat on me once.