What would you do?

@celticeagle (168256)
Boise, Idaho
December 19, 2012 8:18pm CST
If you had a child who insisted on yelling, shreeking, humming loudly, singing loud, or what ever but doing it loudly and for long periods. What would you do? You asked the child to stop, implore that they stop, beg that they stop? What do you d?! My grandson does this for what seems like hours at a time. His mother and I are goind crazy. Can't think! What do you do? I feel like screaming.
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• United States
20 Dec 12
I would have him evaluated by a professional-he could be autistic.
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• United States
21 Dec 12
Many of the clues match what my ex's nephew has. He was diagnosed with autism as an infant or toddler, but fortunately his mother made sure he had early intervention. He's graduating from school next year, and you'd barely know it. I know that there are many types of autism; Seth is verbal, whereas my friend Ginny's son John is not. I hope that you and your daughter can find out what is going on with your grandson; I know how hard it is to deal with children sometimes, but it may be best to let the professionals test him and give the two of you some answers.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 12
I think early intervention is key. I wonder sometimes about Autism but I don't that is what is wrong. This occurence was the worse of this kind. He has been tested and does have ODD. Not sure we can get him tested anymore due to being on Medicaid.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Dec 12
Funny you should mention that. I have had autism in the back of my mind for several months now. Do great minds think alike? Hmm.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
21 Dec 12
Got any headphones? I might get some to hook up to my TV or computer. Give you some relief for a while.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Dec 12
Best idea yet. I have some for my computer.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 Dec 12
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 12
Yep!
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
20 Dec 12
I am not sure what I would do. I know you have said he has behavior issues some times. Does he do this at school as well? Is it something he can control, but chooses not to? I would try to take the conflict out of the situation. I would give him a place to go and tell him that that is his place to be loud and he can be loud as long as he wants as long as he is in that place. Not as a punishment, but more as a permission, cause it seems he needs to do it. When he no longer gets a rise out of you, just gets calmly told to go to his spot, it may make it less satisfying for him to do. I might also take him someplace where it will not bother the neighbors and REQUIRE him to hum, sing, shriek, etc. and tell him he cannot stop, and make him keep it up for a long while. Kind of an aversion therapy. Of course I am a meany that way.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Dec 12
Yes, he does do this at school. All they do is seperate him from the other kids. I have made house rules that there is no running, jumping or yelling in the house. He doesn't go by them. WOn't go to his room. Taking his toys away works alittle but not too much or for very long. The thing that gets me is it seems that nothing phases him. Didn't with my granddaughter either. ANd bothering the neighbors is something we have to be careful of living in this housing situation we are in. Aversion therapy sounds interesting but he won't do as we ask and no where to take him to do it.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 12
im afraid id be tempted to just whoop the sh*t out of him and if they take him they do! maybe its what he wants. im sure he wants some sort of disipline
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Dec 12
I have to stay out of it our I may do just that. I never had much patience and he used all I have.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Dec 12
maybe i dont understand this ODD but sounds like you are going to have to do something about a place he can be put for a spell for your own health at least. you need to tell the doctor something has to be done. whats going to happen to you when he gets to big to handle by either of you? then he could go off and injure or kill both of you and he will still be in some place away from everyone and you wont be able to know if hes alright then at all. im in fear of your safety.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Dec 12
Yes, that would be lovely but medicaid doesn't pay for such things. Unless something happens that is horrible they won't do anything.
• United States
20 Dec 12
My suggestions of meditation and yoga are about the best I can offer. Healthy diet and calming types of exercise are about the best low-key course of action. If those things are not possible or effective, it may be time to consider a more "high key" approach to the situation. When I say this, I am thinking in terms of something along the lines of military school. After a certain point, you have to put your sanity and that of your daughter ahead of trying to keep the boy in the home. However, you are the one who has to do the cost-benefit analysis and figure out what that point is; it is different for different people.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 12
He is on about four differnt meds he takes morning and night. I doubt we could get him to set still long enough to do any yoga.
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
How old he/she is? If my kid is just like that I dnt know what to do. Lol I think he really need someone to talk or to understand him either. Sometime kids test our temper. Just ignore him for awhile and talk to him when he stops. They will keep doing it when he knows you have low tolerance. I'll pray for him.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Dec 12
He's ten. He's testing. He had ODD.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Dec 12
Has ODD
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
20 Dec 12
I dont know but I had somewhat the sam on some of it mostly the yelling with neices wehn we stayed with FIL in the winter time. ONe day they were throughing a fit and all of a sudden I started acting like thiem! Boy they stopped and stared and I told them thats what they looked like well they stoped for the whole winter while I was there lolololllol ANd I am sure you have already took him to a doctor to find out why SO all I can say i s god luck adn scream if ya have too
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Dec 12
That a good idea to mimick them. It just makes him mad. He had ODD and is just being oppositional and defiant. Does it for attention and all we can do is ignore him and hope it stops soon. It gets very annoying.
@AmbiePam (93917)
• United States
22 Dec 12
I don't know. After hearing what Adam Lanza was like as a child, and then reading that stuff in a blog, I'd be scared.
@AmbiePam (93917)
• United States
22 Dec 12
I'm thinking about when you were mentioning how violent he is. I just worry a bout you a lot. I don't want anything to happen to you.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Dec 12
Well, thanks. I worry about his future if this sort of thing doesn't stop.
@rithes (31)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 12
Asked him why he did that? Asking to him with a good way. Because, maybe he was angry, stressed, or there is something else hidden that is not known by anyone else.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Dec 12
He is ODD and we already know why he does this. Being defiant and oppositional, wanting to get a rise out of us, making a stir.
• Norman, Oklahoma
7 Dec 14
Well I have a child with Autism & he loves to make all kinds of noises at high pitch levels. There is nothing we can really do. I embrace everything. I'm very open minded when it comes to my children. This is the way he likes to express himself & if no harm is being done, then just let it go. Telling a child with certain disabilities to stop making noise may not work because in some cases that child may not even understand what it means to stop. If it is really that bad for you, maybe try just redirecting the child to another activity. It's a lot of work & we are kept on our toes daily.