I "exploded" !!!

Philippines
December 20, 2012 12:37am CST
Hello to all! For the past two weeks, I am so tired driving for my parents in straight days from one place to another and coming home, am still stressed in the business and here at home. I haven't recovered yet from tiredness and sleep and that maybe made me cranky. I am a patient and understanding kind of person. I try to understand all things in all situations and I seldom talk back or reason out. I just do my thing. It seems to me that I do all things for other people that I left nothing for myself. After driving, I haven't had a good sleep because I cleaned the house, do the laundry and have to do some table works for the business. In between, my demanding father always call to do some errands. I am really, really tired and I have a headache but I just can't stopped working. So, awhile ago, I scolded my teenage daughter. Unfortunately for her, she was the one who in a way gave my anger. I scolded her because she can't oblige to my little request. I am tired, hungry and yet, she can't even grant me this little errand. I told her that if she will still act like that and will not help me, maybe I will ask for my days off too. Maybe that was a good thing too. I hope this made sense to my daughter. I will talk to my eldest son later. I will tell him the same that if they will not help me, I will have my days off and they have to be themselves. As to my parent who alays demand for my time, I told him last night that I can't drive for them this weekend because I am so tired. I have to attend to my business too which I neglected for two weeks. Thanks for your time reading fellow Lotters!
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8 responses
@savypat (20216)
• United States
20 Dec 12
You do need to set healthly boundaries within the demands of others and simply and effortlessly say NO when you feel taken advantage of or disempowered in any way. You must realize that this will be a change for the many who depend on you and give them time to adjust to your new resolves in life. Blessings and be kind.
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
The main reason that I released my anger is health. I can feel that I am not used to what I was before. Besides, I am now wearing eyeglasses and I do catch cough and allergies easily.. I feel too that others are taking advantage of me. Sometimes, I don't know what is my focus with my life. I just go with the flow and I neglect some things like my other small business that I had re opened and had closed after a few days. :( Thanks for your response. Happy Holidays!
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
21 Dec 12
We all have our limits. I'm sure you didn't mean to get worked up to such a point and probably felt a little bad for unleashing like that but sometimes that is what it takes. You are allowed to take care of yourself. And, if you don't set limits you can't expect others to abide by them. A friend once told me you should respect yourself as much as you would a cherished house guest. And we should. But then guilt sneaks in. This person needs me and I've let them down. The thing is if you don't take care of yourself, and that includes time for yourself, then you will reach a point where you can't be there for anyone. I hope that they all realize this and make an effort to be more respectful to you and your needs. May you enjoy some time to yourself. Take a nice hot bath, relax, a cup of cocoa, a good book, whatever you enjoy.
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Thanks for dropping by Carolyn! Yeah, I do get ME time. I always bring a good book with me whenever I go out. I love having a book with me. It keeps me company. Happy Holidays!
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
26 Dec 12
Good for you. Stress is devastating to the body, mind and spirit. Over time it can even be debilitating. I know this because I'm guilty of doing for others at my own expense before. Hoping everyone listened and is now being more helpful and supportive.
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@BarBaraPrz (47630)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
20 Dec 12
A little assertiveness is good for you. You definitely don't want to drive when you're exhausted. You might get in an accident. Take care of yourself and get some rest.
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@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
21 Dec 12
Good for you! You have to have help and some time to yourself also. Maybe your family will appreciate all that you do if you take some time off and the things you usually do, are left undone
• United States
21 Dec 12
I haven't been around as much. I guess I have been busy getting ready for Christmas. Thanks for noticing!
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• Philippines
21 Dec 12
Thanks for your response cerebellum! It seems to me that I am not seeing you lately here in myLot. Or it is just that I didn't notice you around? Happy Holidays!
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
I know how it is to be burdened with a lot of things and sometimes all at the same time. But what can we do? We can only do so much. It is like "The mind is willing, but the flesh is weak". I think you just told them what is right. Have a very restful weekend.
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• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Thanks for responding jenny1015. I wish to have a restful weekend too especially that Christmas will be next week.
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
20 Dec 12
Hi! Thank you for sharing! I also experienced almost exactly so I know the feeling. It irritates me when I feel so tired and there is no one to help you. But as for m parents, I respect the so much so I'm trying my best not to offend them, and when there were times I was hurt by them, I just calmed myself down and just waited for the situation to go back to normal and talked to them.
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• Philippines
21 Dec 12
Thanks for your response devonavis. What you had said sounds really like me. It seems that since our parents are the one who calls and ask us something, we SHOULD follow.. We might not see each other in a few days so I am saying my Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you!
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
23 Dec 12
If you do what people want all the time they will expect you to do it all the time. They cannot read your mind , if you tell them what YOU want, how YOU feel, how tired you are they will maybe understand. Tell them you need their cooperation. You've made a start and now things may become easier. Stick to what you say though because if you go back, it will be seen as a weakness that your family will abuse.
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
I tell my parents what I want but they really are demanding! However, I am taking all the advices that I get here and in some way, I do get strong. Thanks for your response. Happy Holidays!
• India
22 Dec 12
Hi I can realize your position and how you feel, your teen age daughter should realize too, i am sure in future she should help you in home work etc.Please don't mind for your parents, take all possible care. Thanks for sharing LOL.
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Thanks professor. ALL the thoughts and responses that I get really counts to me.